Which is harder- to love or to be loved?

do anyone think that it's hard to be loved because if u do not love back, u will fell guity. i think it is much harder than love some one

wow! i like this topic.. and how you thought of these things... it got me thinking too... it is hard to be loved, for me.. cause we will never know how to return it to show the same for that person who could be hurt because of us. i guess it would be easier for me to just love a person and then be hurt myself... i dont want to hurt people.

I hate questions where you are asked to choose one of two questions. It's like a yes or no question. Sometimes you can't choose one or the other. I can't answer that question either, but what does come to my mind is that it's hardest to to both. If you are loved, it can be a huge responsibility and burden because you worry about hurting those who love you or you worry about letting them down. But, you would only "worry" about those things if you loved them back, or at the very least, you would have to care for them. If you did not care for them, you would not worry about them. If you did not feel that they loved you, you would not worry about letting them down either. At least most of us don't worry "too" much about those who don't care about us. We worry most about those who we love and who love us back.

A pure definition of love is in 1 Corinthians 13 in the Bible. It is hard to love than to be loved. Many times we only think of what we can get and not what others can benefit when we give our love!

Hi! its easy to love others but very difficult to get love from someone,especially if you are not worth it.bot love will always get love(in most cases)-if u love someone from heart-that feeling is most likely to get reciprocated.

for, me it is harder to be loved by someone, event though it is unconditional love, your concience will tell you that you should give back the love that the other person gave to you, specially if you dont love thatperson, as compare to loving others, that reaches within your control and manipulate the extent of your love,

I find it harder to be loved, because I don't think I am worthy of being loved, I find it difficult to accept, because I do not have a good opinion of myself, I have a low self esteem and low confidence, so if I can't love myself, how do I expect others to love me? That is why I am dubious, suspicious and feel unworthy of being loved by others.

I also believe it depends on the individual. I was crazy in love with this guy and he wanted nothing to do with me. His exact words were, "Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?" On the other hand, I believe that same man finds it hard to love someone. His parents were never affectionate when he was growing up. I don't think he knows how to accept it. That same man is now my husband. Yes, eventually he did decide he wanted to be with me. It was a choice. And as priests I know have said, "You choose to love someone." You choose to look past their flaws or weaknesses and accept them for who they are. And that certainly is not easy. Though God wants us to love one another as HE loves us, and as we would want others to love us, He also gave us free will. Get rid of the snake and the tree and there would be nothing BUT love. If you are watching Big Brother right now, and even if you are, these couples were put together with someone who is supposedly their soul mate. Can anyone make that decision for you? None of these couples are really getting along with each other at all. In fact one guy is trying to avoid his partner because she BELIEVES they are soul mates and she is driving him crazy. No one can tell you who to love. I know there are many people here who come from a culture where arranged marriages are the norm, I do not mean to offend you. In fact, that goes with exactly what I am saying - in the arranged marriages the couples choose to love one another. Love is not just love. Love is acceptance, forgiveness, unselfishness. Like anything else, you choose the behaviour. Love is a choice.

Definitely it is harder to love than to be loved. To be loved, we dont have to do anything at all basically, let the other person do all the hard work. But to love someone, thats when the hardwork began. Love means self sacrifice, commitment, ready to get hurt, always put others need and wants before ours, trusting someone, being happy when that person is happy and being sad when that person is hurting. But by learning how to love someone, thats also when we start being alive.