what did you feel when you met your bf/gf's parents?
By Popsiecles
@skbh12 (2946)
Philippines
March 6, 2008 8:43pm CST
when i was brought to my boyfriends house to meet his extended family at first i was scared because i didnt really know how to converse with people i just met for the first time. i got so paranoid that they might say something negative to me because of my actions...
so what i did after being introduced i managed to stay in his room. then suddenly his sister who was a bit tipsy sat down with me inside his room and told me things about my boyfriend. she told me how much she loved her brother that i must do the same thing.. really i was shocked because i didnt know what to answer back so what i did was nodded to everything she said.
months had passed, whenever they go out to go malling i decided to take part in it because i also wanted to know what is it like to be with someone elses family. i enjoyed their company and as his sister and i sat down to have a couple of drinks she told me that she liked how i mingle with them that i can do the things that they do. she compared me to my boyfriends' past and to my part it is so flattering.
well, now i became closer to his family and there would be times that they would cook me food for they know whenever ill be left alone in the house i wont be eating anything because i dont know how to cook... hahaha.. sometimes they invite me to eat in their house or eat out and have fun..
how about you? what was the result after you have met your partners family? were the outcome good?
6 responses
@skbh12 (2946)
• Philippines
8 Mar 08
right.. definitely a manner you should give to your future in-laws. if you wanted to be treated as their own then you should give them back the favor.
@tinkerick (1257)
• United States
7 Mar 08
Well, my parents (dad and stepmom) liked him when they first met him. But a few weeks later when I came home from their wedding out-of-state and eloped with him that Monday - they had a few choice words for him. (he's 21 years my senior so I think they blamed the whole thing on him).
We've all recovered since then, but my relationship with my parents has not been very good since. Mostly because they're always busy visiting her family out-of-state or doing other activities. I think they're both afraid to NOT be busy for fear of feeling old! They rarely called and never visited. We always had to go to their house, even after we bought ours - it was too far for them to drive - pfft!
His parents and family were quite the opposite. They were very accepting to me and treated me like one of their own. Most holidays we did stuff with his family more than mine. Unfortunately both his parents have passed now, and now things aren't as close as they used to be.
@skbh12 (2946)
• Philippines
7 Mar 08
it is really hard once your parents didnt get to like your partner right? you make every efforts to prove them wrong. it happened to me too and it is till happening.. they always think negatively and never listen to what i say. my mom whatever things she hear about my boyfriend from other people, she believes in it at once without even asking me if it is true or not and that really pisses me off.. argh.
sorry to hear about your partners parents.. hope everything goes back to normal..
@MrNiceGuy (4141)
• United States
26 Mar 08
I only met my ex-girlfriends parents a couple of times but we got along very well. Of course I was intimidated by her father because all boyfriends are and should be, but her parents and sisters ended up being very nice. I'm glad she didn't have older brothers because I know how I would treat my little sister's boyfriends.
It was a very stressful event but the next time I went to visit I felt much more relaxed and continued to get along very well. I really think its important to get along well with your significant others family, or at least make an effort to get to know them. Those impressions are very important.
@hiei008 (103)
• Philippines
26 Mar 08
I actually never had a girlfriend before. but, i think, meeting your bf/gf's parents is a great thing. Imagine, you don't have to hide something to hide regarding your relationship. And the best thing is that both of have the benediction of your parents.
@heart143 (1202)
• Philippines
7 Mar 08
Mixed emotions...a bit nervous, a little anxious, excited, a little scared, etc. But of course I try my best to look great and be pleasant. I want to make a good impression. I am friendly and good in talking to elder people that's why they always like me.
@skbh12 (2946)
• Philippines
7 Mar 08
very fortunate to have that kind of talent.. having good conversation is considered as a talent and that is my waterloo.. haha.. good thing his family liked me and that i have gotten closer to them. i could actually sleep in their house without any objections...
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
24 Dec 08
When I first met my fiance's parents I felt a bit awkward. It was his father's birthday and we went out to eat. I wasn't sure whether I should pay for myself or not, but overall it was a nice supper.
The first time I met parts of his extended family was at his granny's house on thanksgiving of last year. I believe I had already met his grandparent's, but I hadn't met his great grandmother, his great uncle, his uncle and aunt, or his 2nd cousin and his wife. The good part of it though was I knew of his 2nd cousin and his wife as my old friend's bought cars from him. It was awkward as I still felt awkward around his parent's. I moved in with my fiance and his parents On November 10th of last year so I had lived with them for a few weeks before we celebrated Thanksgiving.
I met his aunt and uncle on his dad's side at Christmas, I had met one of his cousin's before I believe, and I also met two more of his cousin's and the wife and boyfriend of the cousins. I also met my fiance's brother and his wife at Christmas.
If you want to include a best friend who really isn't family but is considered by my fiance and I to be his brother (plus our friend is possibly my cousin) family, then the first time I met him the only thing awkward abut it was another friend of our's asking me for money on the second day we had ever met.
