do you think theres a meaning?
By fossesor
@fossesor (268)
Philippines
March 6, 2008 11:13pm CST
It happens that My girl was mad at me because she felt taken for granted, both of us were in silence. After break the great long silence between me and my girl,I keep on asking her whats wrong. All she just said was "I have nothing to say, were ok right?". I used to make her feel my sweetness to her and told her that "we should reconcile" or I mean Be ok with each other with no hard feelings on each part, then suddenly she told me that "what will happen after this?" what do you think the meaning of this for you? what should u do next?
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@aowaow (1516)
• Indonesia
8 Mar 08
Check her word and translate it:
"I have nothing to say, we're okay right?"
(=I wish you can say more, so we can talk it out. I just need you to listen to me).
"What will be happened after this?"
(=I wish if only you want to listen to me, I believe we can talk this out).
But most men would think, it's no problem. Worst they think woman is in state of "Blaming their man". But it's not it, they just need his guy to listen to her with empathy and sympathy. To fulfill their needs, to talk it out. But with a correct way.
When woman starts to say, "You do not understand", it's not an aggression (but mostly men think it's an attack to him. It's not.) What you need is to break the code of what she said out when she is mad.
The understanding by listening with empathy and sympathy is the key to talk with to a woman. To "listen" is not to listen using ear, it's as simple as about receiving sounds tone from voices and receive it with ears. That's why most men, "Didn't I listen to you now (using ear)?"
This answer will trigger a quarrel later.
To "listen" is to try to know what is inside a woman's word. Communication is the vital essence in her thinking process, it's their needs.
I believe you can find it out later, it's hard to apply at first time, and will need more times to know what is inside woman's word when she is mad at you. Your approaching must be correct and in the right timing for each details of her words.
Once you knew how to break the code, your woman must be lucky to have such a man besides her. Good luck.
@fossesor (268)
• Philippines
10 Mar 08
wow I've learned alot from you. I believed on your views. You've gave me alot of information on how to communicate with woman. thanks for responding to my discussion. I hope I could learn deeper from your views by answering my topic! It seems that you are a good person.
@ms_carlos (7)
• Philippines
7 Mar 08
i think there is no meaning about that.its just that she might thinking that something is changing. u just need to re-assure her, ven in small things or simpliest ways that she is loved.