I have a problem

I like the feeling of being surrounded by friends However, since my girlfriend left to australia to further her studies, I began to be an introvert and lact of self confidence I dare not stare into a person's eye and seldom talk with strangers. I always hang out with my circle of friends only and worse still we are not really close I spend most of my time at home infront my computer for games and surfing the net. I think we need some changes here

There are times that I would feel the same way, too. Like what I feel right now. I want to go the beach and be there for a week, do a Chris McCandless, without the dying part. I think it's not the computer that's making you feel that way, try to think about other factors.

i think its not only with you. some people find themselves in this situation when are getting older or may be they are hurt by some event in life. it comes from sub conscious mind. you never want to be at the centre of attention or you fear company of others. At a point of time, i have become so for few days.

Been there, done that...living it right now. Except, my excuse for not being out there with people is I'm at home with my babies. But, before that, I would rather stay at home than be in a crowd. Personally, I think it has to do with age. I mean, think about it: what was considered "hip" and "chic" in my days, is ancient. Just the other month my son asked me if the roads were dirt when I was a kid. Then, to add insult to injury, I was telling my daughter about this movie I loved as a kid, and she asked, "Was it in colour?" Tolerence levels get tested...music gets too loud...TV shows shows WAY too much...things like that. I like to sit and think about how easy life was like when I was a kid and wanted to be with people.

I don't have a problem talking to live people. I am a banker, so I deal with people every day. Often, when I come home, though, I don't want to be around anyone. I don't want the phone to ring, I don't want to hear too much talking, or anything like that. I just want to watch the news or a little tv (about the only thing I really like to watch is baseball, or nascar, or the history channel...the rest is mostly crap), or I will come into my office and work on stuff on the computer or go in the bedroom and read. I often deal with so much crap during the day that I just don't want to see anyone. I know how you feel. I used to go visit people all the time, or go out to bars or to do other things. Now, I just want to come home, get some stuff done, and go to bed. I have no desire to be around people much, sometimes even my wife. Sometimes I just want to be left alone.

I used to love people now I think I hate them. Well, not really, but I have reduced the size of my circle of friends dramatically. Interesting Fact about Friendship as we Age: I heard not too long ago that as we get older we focus more on the quality of the friendships we have. Therefore, we don't worry as much about how many friends we have but rather just to focus on the good of the friends we have. Also, I know that most people as they get older they are less adaptable to change. I know myself would find it very hard to make new friends. Most of the new friends I have made are on the Internet. Julie (Jabsfreelanceworld) I write for a living! http://www.jabsfreelanceworld.com

I dont know what it is. I tend to just not want to be around other people either. Or at least not a lot. I just like to stay home and do my own thing. I guess its cause lately people just annoy me. esp most of the people I know. It seems like I always have to fight and argue to get them to hang out and do things and after awhile you just get sick of it.

You have a unique view about people over the internet I personally feel that no matter how nice people over the cyber world may be, friends around us will still be the one that lay us a helping hand when we are in need People in the internet may be a good companion when we are bored or down but will never be an important part of our lives forever