A drunken father / myLot

United States

October 30, 2006 9:13pm CST

My brother-in-law has 6 month old baby, he's 21 and she's 18. They are both very imature. He drinks all the time and gets high. He can be an angry drunk, throwing things and agruing with her. I don't think hitting her or the baby. The problem is when he throws things, they come inches from hitting the baby. It's not on purpose but soon he's going to hit the baby with something and hurt him. What shuld we do? He just gets angry and lashes out at us if we try to talk to him about it. He's been to rehab after his 2nd DUI, it didn't work. He BSed his way through it. So that isn't even really an option.

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jordansmama05

@jordansmama05 (40)

• United States

2 May 08

Get envolved as much as possible. He might tell you it is none of your business, but he is your brother, and the baby is your niece or nephew, so they are your business. At a time like this you need an internvention planned. If you have to step in and take the child and get your brother put in a long term rehab center, or get him a good counselor and show him things that can happen in situations he puts himself and his family in. You can always involve DHS or CPS and even the COPS, but sometimes trying to handle things without authorities works just as well. Good luck to you on this one because I don't know what I would do if it were my brother endandering my niece or nephew as well as himself.

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Quilter

@fatragu (677)

• United States

1 Feb 08

What will happen is if you call CPS they will take the baby away. She will then have to jump through hoops to get the baby back. One of the conditions might be that she has to leave him because of his anger or that he will have to go through classes. In order for her to keep the baby she needs to get out of the living situation with him that she is in and get moved in with family until she can get on her feet. She needs to get rid of the boyfriend. If she doesn't want to get rid of the boyfriend then tell her she is basically choosing between her boyfriend and her baby. If he doesn't want to get out of the picture then she needs to get a restraining order. I am not trying to tell you what to do or lecture but I just had my kids taken away this past week and I don't want that to happen to anyone.

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deeds14

@deeds14 (815)

• United States

31 Oct 06

If you think the child isn't being cared for properly, you can file a complaint to Child Protective Services. Then, it will leave it up to the workers there to determine if the child is being taken care of properly. I hope everything gets better!

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@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

31 May 08

I would call CPS and have them investigate your brother in law as that just might jerk him out of his drunken anger tantrums. The baby is in danger and maybe the girl too. at least call his parents and see what they can do with the brother in law. Just my suggestions.