I Really DO Have A High Tolerance Level..BUT...ENOUGH Is Enough
By pyewacket
@pyewacket (43903)
United States
March 7, 2008 2:35am CST
Okay folks I like to think I have a healthy sense of humor.
Sometimes a person will respond to one of my discussions and isn't exactly responding to the discussion per se, but is cracking jokes and making fun of the issue with rather STUPID comments...so I let it pass and make some wise crack joke back...but then every once in awhile a MyLotter comes along that doesn't "give" up with stupid remarks... I can see this happening at maybe just ONE discussion...but then the person decides to horn in and make stupid, insulting, outlandish remarks on several discussions of mine...what???
Is this person stalking me?? Not only that but then the person decides to make insidious, lame, stupid remarks and attacks my friends comments/responses as well...and that's where I draw the line...NO MORE sweet, gal in me...then I get defensive and am on the attack...sorry but I just won't tolerate this kind of shat...
As a rule whenever a person responds to one of my discussions I rate them a positive...even at first some remark that is plainly stupid or mildly insulting...but if the same person makes insulting, stupid remarks over and over again..will rate a negative...then if the person just plain doesn't let up..bingo..then I report--sorry but I just don't tolerate this kind of stupidity in people especially if they start attacking my friends with a$$inine non-sensical replies.
So how is your tolerance level??...do you let obvious stupid remarks slide...at least for awhile, and if the same person doesn't let up, finally report them? Especially if they start doing the same kind of shat with your friends?
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
•
7 Mar 08
Like you, i have had one or two responses to my discussions that are to say the least impolite. I dont know why they feel the need, do they have ego problems...well possibly, but i also feel some people just dont like me, for whatever reason they have just taken against me and will either ignore my discussions all together (which is the adult way of dealing with it) or they react like a backward child. Recently I have had one of these and the person felt ok about being down right rude in their responses. Now i know manners are culturally defined and we should not condem someone for not sharing the same cultural references as ourselves, yet still i feel there are common rules of conversation and response that are only broken by the termainally stupid.
Ok done venting
blessed be
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
•
7 Mar 08
By what you8 said he is acting like a child seeking attention, very strange
blessed be
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
7 Mar 08
Yes I wish this person would just ignore my discussions if he doesn't have anything of value to my topic...and he does come across as a backward child despite his age....and no can't blame a cultural difference...he's a fellow American...Also he's older than me...I thought with age came wisdom...probably skipped him, right?
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
9 Mar 08
for your info dickus...ESKARENA1 is on the same religious path I'm on so I have no problem if she wants to look at my discussions ....and she happens to be a friend of mine...in fact the very first friend I had here when I joined MyLot a year ago
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@Jabsfreelanceworld (191)
• United States
7 Mar 08
I don't blame you for not wanting to take abuse from other MyLotters. I know that usually when you are on a site like this you can report abuse via administration. Did you do that? If not, it may be a way to handle the situation.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
7 Mar 08
Yes, I do know about reporting people like this...and I have
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
9 Mar 08
What the hell is wrong with you D*CK?
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
7 Mar 08
Yes I reported this person..the final straw was when he attacked one of my friends by calling them a bigot...I won't tolerate that..
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@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
7 Mar 08
I don't have much tolerance or patience, or maybe I do?
Usually snide and rude remarks on my discussion I will be rude back I don't care if it's a newbie or first time responding to my discussion or how many times.
I don't want to be rude and hopefully haven't been that way on mylot, but if someone is rude to me then I will be rude to them I don't care who they are. Of course if I know why I may still be nice - but that won't happen often since I was 15
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
7 Mar 08
about reporting, yes I will do that if I find necessary
and there is mistypo there - that didn't happen very often since I was 15
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
7 Mar 08
Well I've reported him twice now...the final straw was in one of my discussions calling one of my friend a bigot when I know for a fact this friend of mine isn't..that's hitting below the belt there
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
9 Mar 08
Here are the words exactly..
(Quote)
.."You are showing your self to be a true bigot with no room in your ideology that your beliefs have no real intellectual foundation..."
This is what was said to my friend..you didn't say "acting" like a bigot..what you actually said was quite more damaging than "acting"...
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@DevilHands (573)
• Philippines
7 Mar 08
Well... I don't know, I am still quite a bit new yet but so far, there are some stupid response to my discussion but not insulting though! I have yet to see one where they try to insult. Usually I am thinking that if it's not the answer I was hoping for, that's because they either misunderstood what I wrote or probably they live in a country where they rarely use English. No matter what it is, I still rate all of them positively.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
7 Mar 08
Yes, I can understand when a person makes a strange reply cause his English may not be too keen, but in this case one can't blame the person for not understanding the discussion topic because his English isn't good, he is also a fellow American..
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
9 Mar 08
I think you're the one with emotional problems dickus...maybe you smoke too much pot--it's addled your brains big time
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
9 Mar 08
Only because your responses run so hot and cold --one minute you're tearing me apart and the next with "flattery"--what's your problem??...you got split personality or something? There's more tearing apart with you and not just me either
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@daeckardt (6237)
• United States
7 Mar 08
I agree. If someone keeps putting down your remarks and makes it uncomfortable, then they should be reported. No one should have to put up with that kind of treatment. It is bad enough if they say something bad about you, but when they start putting down your friends as well, then it should be stopped. I haven't been on here long enough to receive any responses so I haven't had any bad ones yet, but I'm sure it will happen sooner or later. I only noticed the rating links when I came into this message and I believe I will be using it in the future.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
7 Mar 08
Yes it is bad enough when a person is being rude with me, but hate it more when a person starts bad-mouthing a friend of mine here
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@daeckardt (6237)
• United States
9 Mar 08
There is nothing wrong with disagreeing with what someone says, but the way I understood the initial post, it was more like negativity against everything the person said as well as what her friends said.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
7 Mar 08
Well it's hard to ignore a person when they suddenly tell one of my friends that they are a bigot...this friend of mine is a mutual dear friend of yours..so reported them when he said that our friend was a bigot
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@polachicago (18716)
• United States
7 Mar 08
Just ignore them. Report is the best thing you can do.
I was stalked by few people about one year ago.
One get nerve to comeback to one of my discussions, but I ignored her/him.
Those people are still here, hard to believe, but true.
The best thing is to totally ignore them, they are looking for fight and reason to report you....
The abuser acts like a victim very often...
They don't have life, they don't have friends, they don't like themselves...
HUGS
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
7 Mar 08
Yes I reported the person. from others here I'm gathering this person is like this with everyone...and you're so right...he doesn't have a life or friends and probably doesn't like himself very much..so by making negative remarks must somehow make him feel superior or better somehow
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
7 Mar 08
I deleted the person as a friend...the final straw was when he called a friend of mine a bigot
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@Darkwing (21583)
•
7 Mar 08
I can tolerate him because he's a misguided idiot. He's probably doped up to the eyeballs, and that, to me is far worse than what he's coming down on. He's not just doing it to you, my friend... several different people, all over Mylot have retaliated to his idiotic, abusive and obnoxious remarks. He's not worth the trouble, to my mind.
Thanks for sticking up for me, my friend. As you say, enough of that BS is quite enough. Brightest Blessings. x
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
7 Mar 08
Gladly stick up for you my friend! :)
Well if this person has been obnoxious to a lot of people why doesn't someone like this get banned?
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@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
8 Mar 08
I'm sorry that happened to you pye, I haven't noticed anyone attacking any of my friends in my discussions, nor have a noticed anyone attacking me in every one of mine. But i have noticed some of those rude people in other peoples discussions, and i even made a discussion about it after soemone was rude and responded to one of mine with nothing nice to say and the responses really didn't answer or follow suit with the discussion at all.
I say rate them negative and ignore them. If they dont get a response back that they are looking for from you, they will go on to someone else in hopes of getting a rise out of that person instead of you. At least we would hope. And if everyone rates them negatively then they will bomb at mylot, and if everyone ignores them, maybe they will get bored and go away ;)
*hugs & good luck*
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
8 Mar 08
Yes, for now on I plan to ignore the person...It's sad but there are a few people here who just love to be really obnoxious I think to get a rise out of people...maybe that's the only way they get attention in life..pathetic, no?
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@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
7 Mar 08
Awww black cat, who's giving you a hellish mood? Tell me? I happened to finish sharpening my claws, lol!
If you feel that this person had overstepped or went beyond the boundary of what's proper, then, by all means, report him/her at once to the admin. Slashed him/her 100 negative ratings if you must.:P
I do have my fair share of those kind of people. But I refused to take the bait and stoop down to their level. Albeit, I was simmering inside, I still showed them that I was a civilized, educated and sophisticated bunny. :)
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
7 Mar 08
Oh yes, I do remember you had you're fair share of problem people...I remember one discussion you did and someone was attacking you...Yes I always try to be "civilized" too and not sink to their level and never do, but really sometimes though it gets too much...did report the person
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@anniepa (27955)
• United States
7 Mar 08
I think you and I have similar tolerance levels, Pye; I'll also take it for so long, then I give the minus and finally I'll report it, which is something I've done only maybe once or twice. I agree also, when they start attacking my friends that's the proverbial last straw! I've got to do my homework here and find out who's doing this to you, Hon. I've got your back...
Annie
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
7 Mar 08
Yes when someone starts in and attacking one of my friends that definitely is the last straw with me..grrrrr
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@gantwick (849)
• United States
7 Mar 08
Yikes! I'm pretty good about making stupid remarks. But I try to keep them light-hearted. I guess I'd be pretty upset if somebody started making attack responses. Maybe there is some way to ignore a person like that? Some web boards have an ignore feature. I'm not sure about here, tho.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
7 Mar 08
I sure wish they did have an ignore or block feature here,but they don't..I'm finding out that this person seems to be abusive to everyone here
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@GnosticGoddess (5626)
• United States
9 Mar 08
How is that slander??
I've seen your remarks to a bunch of people on here that you have been abusive to!
I guess this is another threat that you'll sue Pye?
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
9 Mar 08
No not slander...it is the truth...I've SEEN your remarks on other discussions of other mylotters
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@Aussies2007 (5336)
• Australia
7 Mar 08
I am sorry to report that my tolerance level is much lower than yours.
I will usually give someone a second chance... but not a third one.
However... I have a different approach these days...
That sort of people are provoking us into reacting. And they get a great laugh when we do react... and it encourage them to do it again.
The way I deal with this... is by not reacting and not replying. But if they breach the rules... I will report them immediately. No second chance on that one.
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
7 Mar 08
Well this yahoo definitely breached the rules by calling one of my friends a bigot when I know in fact she isn't one...that is against the guidelines and yes, reported him
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@BarBaraPrz (47670)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
7 Mar 08
Oh my! How sad...
No, I've been lucky (I guess) and not had to contend with that. Actually, I don't get the pages and pages of responces that you do, so maybe I'm not that lucky afterall?
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Sending good thoughts your way...
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
7 Mar 08
From some of the other responses here, this one particular person has been rude and obnoxious to a lot of people...guess it's just his thing to be a jerk
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@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
7 Mar 08
I know who your talking about Pye and I thought he was way out of line. I would have done the same thing. You know, if there's a discussion I don't care for or agree with, I don't respond to it. Very simply put, this guy was asking for it, and he got it. I can't figure out what the heck he was after...talk about getting rid of negative energy, I'll be glad to see if he's banned. Good for you!
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
7 Mar 08
Yes he was way out of line...didn't like him calling our mutual friend a bigot..yes, he must be filled with a lot of negative energies...maybe he needs a "cleansing"?? LOL
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@cortjo73 (6498)
• United States
8 Mar 08
I haven't noticed anything like that yet but, I haven't been here for nearly as long as you so, you may have a trolling stalker. I would have to see if I ever get a trolling stalker before I can tell you how I would handle it. I would probably defend my friends too. I might let it roll off my back if it were just me. Or, I would just get nice an sarcastic back at them.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
8 Mar 08
I'm beginning to think he is a stalker...he was on my friends list (have since deleted him)..he never responded to my discussions before until all of a sudden and seemed to indicate he knew all about me...so he may have been reading my other discussions and not answer...but all his recent responses were downright abusive not only to me but started attacking my friends as well
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
9 Mar 08
Then if you're not a stalker and I've deleted you from my friends list why did you turn up here?
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Mar 08
How awful for you.nobody should turn our various discussions into something to be made fun of.I hope I have never done any of these things in my responses. I try to read and reread any discussion I respond to and give my own feelings about it but I would never make fun of anyone's discussions. I have found most everyone here is kind and considerate but evidently there are some who are not. I might not always agree with some point but I never put down the poster or try to be insulting in any way. nobody deserves tobe attacked because of something they posted. If someone posted something then that person deserves our respect. and not our criticism.
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
7 Mar 08
Yes most people here are kind, considerate and respectful in replies to discussions it is a shame then when we have a few bad apples here that are downright obnoxious and insulting
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Mar 08
It makes you wonder just why they are on mylot unless they get their kicks out of being obnoxious. I remember one post where the poster said that mylot was just bad people giving out bad advice and when I chided this person they just said they had a right to their opinion. maybe so but not to post it like that.I reported that posting as it really upset me .I do not see MyLot as a place of bad people at all. I really enjoy the postings here and havelearned from some of them
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@MAG_1961 (62)
• United States
8 Mar 08
its ok to crak a joke if its not a touchie subject ,but all the time is just childess.sounds like someone has way to much time on there hands.who would of thought of haveing a discussion board stalker,i have a grate since of humor,but i have ZERO tolerance for dumb a$$es
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
8 Mar 08
Yes I have a sense of humor too, but like you I don't tolerate dumb a$$es either
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@mykaylala (214)
• United States
8 Mar 08
I think I tolerate dumb a$$es well only because I have a lot of patience, what I cant tolerate is people who think they know everything, walking encyclopedias who usually don't know what there talking about LOL sorry to change subjects but that pi$$es me off.
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