Forgiveness?

we are very much alike. I have a very hard time with letting things go with things people have done to me. Most of the time tbe first thing I think of is revenge but I think that this is a common defense mechanism, it just isnt so right to act upon it. I dont always act on it but most of the time would love to

It depends on the severity of the thing being asked forgiveness for. If it's a small thing, then I forgive easily. And most things are small things for me: talking behind my back, forgetting something, stealing (to an extent), saying something hurtful, etc. I don't hold grudges over anything that doesn't cause serious long-term harm. If, on the other hand, the thing in question did cause serious long-term harm, that's a whole other issue. There are things I don't believe in forgiving. I spent my childhood being seriously abused, and I haven't forgiven most of my family members for that, nor would I ever. While I don't run around looking for ways to seek revenge, they don't have the relationship with me they want because they don't deserve it. And anyone who (intentionally) harms my child can expect to die. Period.

it all depends on what it is that has been done..there are some things IMO that are simply unforgiveable and even more so when the person who has done the act isnt remorseful... As for seeking revenge, thats not my thing...

I am open the idea of forgiveness but I'm too proud to ask for forgiveness or forgive. I know I do something for a reason and I believe in myself.

When I was a very young child approximately at the age of 5, I became a victim of consistent on-going abuse by my parents. It seemed to get worse as I got older. Then by the grace of God, Jesus came in to my heart on December 20th when I was 15. Immediately I felt a very strong change in my heart and my mind before I even left the church that night. Since that time, I ended up in abusive relationships to the point I couldn't trust anyone. I had a very hard time forgiving those who would continue to hurt me. However, if someone asks me to forgive them with sincerity, then my heart starts to melt and immediately I FORGIVE.

Forgiveness is something that we human beings are not very good at. We may say the word Yes, I forgive you', but deep in within the heart, the hurt lingers. It takes a lot of time to completely, sincerely forgive the other person but the memory stays forever. I am a moderate forgiver, although I do hold some very bad grudge against one or two which I dont think I could ever forgive and forget.