May I give up?

@linghan (147)
China
March 7, 2008 8:39am CST
I fall in love with a boy for 7 years long.I love him so much but he love a girl not me .What's more,he love her very much.May I give up ? when he tell me about her ,So heart broken!
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@kathryn01 (109)
• South Africa
7 Mar 08
I feel so sorry for you. It must be devastating to love someone for so long and he/she doesn't love you back. The sad news is that maybe you should realize now that he doesn't love you and that you should try to forget about him and move on with your life. The fact that he told you about her means that he wants you to know about his feelings for this girl and you must respect that. I am really so sorry.
@linghan (147)
• China
7 Mar 08
em, i am trying to forget about him but it is so hard to me .Thank you very much ,plz continue~
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• South Africa
7 Mar 08
If I may just say something more to you - I believe that there is someone for you out there that will love you very much and whom you will love with all your heart. Maybe you don't want to hear this right now, but hang in there. First go through the healing process and try to get over this person. I know it cannot be easy, I've been there. Good luck, and let us know how you're doing.
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@linghan (147)
• China
7 Mar 08
Thank you ! BUT,Now I meet a new problem about there is a boy who love me for many years,but in my memory i just treat him as my brother.I don't know how to accept his love ?
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
9 Mar 08
It is very sad, but you need to forget about him and find a boy that really wants to love you.
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@linghan (147)
• China
10 Mar 08
yeah,I am tring to forget him and find a boy who is real love me!Thanks ~Plz ~continue
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• United States
7 Mar 08
Believe me I know how that feels, I've been in that situation. Now, you may not like my answer-but it's the only one I have to give. You love him, you want the best for him, and he's happy with this other girl. You may think, "he only sees me as a friend." But isn't that great in it's own way!? He trusts you, and friendship is just as important as love. If I like a guy, and he is with someone else, I have to try and disolve THOSE feelings for him, but you don't have to stop liking him! Be his friend, I bet he loves you in another way for being his friend.
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@linghan (147)
• China
7 Mar 08
Thanks for your respond.em,I am trying to be his friends. thanks,happy everyday to you !
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@sophialin (2677)
• China
24 Mar 08
my suggestion is to be friend with him and not expect for him so much.just let it go naturally,time is a good judger and comfort as well. you can go after others or accept others' love at the same time. there's no conflict in it!good luck!
@linghan (147)
• China
5 Apr 08
Thanks:) en!I am tring to be friend with him,and i think time maybe help me to forget him.
@yona06 (585)
• Indonesia
8 Mar 08
I really really know how you feel. It is simply agonizing. But eventually I learn to let go of that feeling little by little and just remember that to love is not always to have. Just seeing that their happy is what's important. I always say to myself that by thinking that way it means i'm being a better person by not being selfish.
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@linghan (147)
• China
8 Mar 08
Thank you for your responds! i will do my best to make we all feel happy,I think i will get over it! Plz continue`
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@kathy_an (15)
• China
7 Mar 08
I guess you should give up.It's tiring to keep the relationship with the guy who loves someone else.What's more,this guy has been cheating on you.That will possibly occur for the second time!
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@linghan (147)
• China
7 Mar 08
Yes,a lot of my friends are advice to me to give up but he just my first love ,you know,the frist love is so unforgetted!Thanks for your suggestion!
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
8 Apr 08
I can't tell you how sad i am feeling for you.. Loving is supposed to be wonderful but you are heartbroken cause his love is not returned to you... linghan... how long can you stay like that? i would want to tell you to move on please, forget about him and find someone who will love you back, love is supposed to be that way... i know you can not do that right away but please try it. 7 years is too long, a long wait and you must be sad all the time thinking and waiting for him... do not waste such a good time. i know and i can feel you are still young, find a love that is for you. find someone deserving of the love and attention you can give.
@aowaow (1516)
• Indonesia
8 Mar 08
I know how your feeling is... it's been 7 years, not easy been through those past years, and at last only to hear something horrible... Just follow your heart, dear. Choose which way is the best for you. If in earlier phase of the relationship, I can still tolerate. But it's been 7 years..
@linghan (147)
• China
8 Mar 08
Em,I think he will to move but in fact it is wrong ! Thanks ,I am tring to do my best to foget him and don't put stress on him!
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Mar 08
lingham thats so sad, I feel for you.Its hardto love someone for that long only to find out he loves someone else. I do hope you find another to love who will love you back with just as much ardor. Keep looking he must be out there someplace.
@linghan (147)
• China
10 Mar 08
Thanks :) I am tring to ! THANKS ! plz continue!
@Dest274 (100)
• United States
15 Mar 08
how can u befriend someone u truely love and he love someone back i can only tell u to except it thats all u can do he love her and u the second if he felt anyway to liking u then u would know so u just going to let it go
@linghan (147)
• China
16 Mar 08
Em,you are right! Just let it go!Thanks for your responds to me,PLZ,continue~