How do you handle...

The English language is fluid, in that it depends where you live, and who is writing. Words mean slightly different things in different places. I often get responses to entirely different meanings than what was intended. When this happens I take a deep breath and realise there is no way to explain my intended meaning, so I move along to the next post,or response.

A few months ago, I encountered a mylotter who ridiculed nearly every post and response I made. It was too obvious and others were noticing his rude responses. I would reply to his remark, politely sending a message that his response was offensive, but in a humorous way. That went on for about 3 days or so. Then suddenly one day all his posts were deleted from my posts and responses. I don't really know what happened, but it looks like I wasn't the only one this person was attacking. The person's profile was totally deleted. In writing here at mylot, I don't really like to engage in serious arguments or discussions. I like hanging around here, so I don't want to feel miserable each time I sign in or by the time I sign off. But in my day to day life, if someone deliberately offends me or anyone from my family, I do fight back.

Being a soldier, I took the attack mode every time. But over time, I realized why the heck am I getting upset about words from people I dont even know and dont matter to me? Not only that but in this internet world there are stalkers and if you offend the wrong person one day, that might be a bigger problem I might not want to deal with. It is scary to think there are computer geniuses out there who use all that knowledge to harm others and can ruin your life. Did you ever see that movie with Ben Affleck and Samuel Jackson whereby Ben's life was literally erased with a computer? Our lives center around computers. Just something to think about.

I have a tendency to not let things typed on the computer screen offend me. For at the end of the day, when I shut it off, and back tending to my family. They are the only true ones that matter to me. The words typed here, are all but forgotten. However, if it was a personal attack against my family, I have the tendency to defend them. Espcially if it was done maliciously.

I think you have to stand up for what you believe in but appreciate that other people have views too, if it is personal against you then defianatly jump down the persons throat. There are so many rude people out there if we worried about all of them we would spend all our time doing it.

Hi enchantedleppard: youare right.Before I see this I didn't kow it either.I only think it is a pet to comunicate with others,especially with the forienors.through this I can learn some knowledge about other countries.

I don't actually think it is worth the energy to bristle, there are folks of all types here. I usually will call things as I see them, which sometimes has been taken as my being rude or harsh. I have also had some rather lengthy going back and forth with comments, especially when we were of differing views, and sometimes, the other person has been stand up enough to say while they disagreed with me, they could see where I was coming from. Perhaps I am not easily offended, although I find manners lacking in today's society in general, and usually demand manners from anyone I am dealing with. (of course my definition of manners is to make everyone present as comfortable as the situation will allow.) It is frequent that things said are misconstrued on a site like this, since as you say, it is the written word, and not all of us have the.. capacity for clear concise writing.

I do not let what people say affect me. They do not know me, so what can be the harm? I recently reponded to a post where I was 'attacked' and I ignored it. It all settled down without any harm being done. In person, I would have stood up for what I believe in, but I refuse to let words bother me on the computer. :-)

I tend to let people know if they offended me and I would want them to do the same to me. At least it is communication. If I have unintentionally hurt someone and they let me know, at least I will be able to explain myself. I don't think it is good to hold things in because then you are apt to harbor bad feelings and who knows maybe it was just a misunderstanding.

Do not take it to heart enchanted leppard, what happened there might not have been as you think.. Some have away of thinking something and writing something.. some are not fluent with words and they actually do not mean what they say.. so whatever happened had happened, let it go. bygones be bygones. Some may do it intentionally but do not take them to heart, may be they had a bad day. If it was personally attacking, don't let them go. If they keep doing it , then you have to make a complaint. As another mylotter said here or somewhere else I don't remember, language is a problem for me too. when I see the words flamed, etc I do not understand so if they have come out without intention please forgive them. I have seen many words here which I do not understand. ..All the best to you dear...

Sometimes I find it hard to get what I want to say down into words and so I guess when that happens sometimes it could be read by others with a different meaning, I talk a lot on a day to day basis when I have someone to talk to that is! So on here, I find im talking through my fingers and sometimes I just ramble on and totally get off my train of thought, which is what i am doing now. But I have not been really offended on here, a little bit stung maybe from time to time but then it just bounces off me and I forget about it, I dont sting back as its just not worth it and besides if thats their opinion then thats fine!! I will stand up if I think I am right or I think someone is wrong but compared to what I was like 10 years ago I am a pussycat!!

Don't let post that others do offend you. If they do not understand what you are asking all they have to go is ask you to explain a little better. I just let it go. Get off and go spend time with my children. They put me in a better mood then back to mylot I go.LOL