Mothers and Daughters

I dont know what you would say to him. If the mother treats the daughter like this then the father should step in and stick up for her. And if the mother is that bad why dont he leave her, and make a good home for his daughter? If he is the one doing everything for her, its still a good thing. I grew up with no mother because leaving us for a guy was more important. I was 10 and I had 2 younger sisters. And my father never helped us. He never paid bills. He was drunk all the time. So for most of my childhood/teenage life, we lived with no food, water, electric, heat, clean clothes etc. And me and my sisters both turned out ok. I would never do that to my child(ren). If anything she will learn from this and to be a better parent. I know I did. I am nothing like either of my parents and I thrive to give my daughter what I never had. So dont fear she will do this to her own kids. Cause I doubt that.

First of all the no mother should ever tell their child that they are worth nothing. If that is all a child grows up hearing then eventally they are going to believe it. The mother and daughter should probably get some counseling and the father needs to put his foot down when it comes to the mother. How does he stand it? I would never allow anyone to talk to my child in such a way. It is pretty obvious that the mother doesn't realize that her daughter is a gift from God. Believe me, the mother and the daughter both will regret their actions one day! You only have each other for a very short time here on earth and once you're gone -there is no coming back to undo the hurtful things you have done to other people especially your family. I wonder what the mother is going to say to God when he asks her about the way she treated her daughter - the gift he gave her?

For me, the best way to settle conflict and bad feelings is to sit down together and talk it out. There are certainly issues that the mother and daughter have that needs to be discussed. I also know a lot of mothers and daughters don't get along at that stage because mothers are more bound to discipline the daughter since the father is always not around. I have no doubt that the mother loves the daughter but being a parent and doing the best for ones child is never easy. Since the daughter listens to the father, he could exert effort to settle the issues and bring the 2 together. It won't be easy and it won't be solved overnight, but its a step in the right direction.

I have 4 daughters. A mother/daughter relationship is very sensitive and emotional. It is very different than that of the father/daughter. I know that during the teen years it is especially tough. Hormones are raging and girls tend to be closer to the dads than their moms during this time. I don't know. I was always very close to my girls until they hit the teen years and then it was ...hard to describe really but they were breaking away and very argumentive toward me...not the dad. It's a tough time. At times they did want to live with dad...i let them. and then they'd come home. I think our closeness prior to the teen years helped and eventually things calmed down, they grew up and now I am so close to all of them. I still have a 14 year old at home. Just last week she called her dad and told him that I was being mean and she wanted to go live with him. He called me and we talked. Oh yes, I was getting on her case. She was trying to miss school...AGAIN. She has been giving me a hard time about going to school and has been late alot and yes...I got angry and put my foot down. Thankfully, we work together and he got on the phone with her and yes...she went to school. I would if i were you hesitate to judge the mom or get involved at all unless you really know both sides of the story. Is he with the mom or are they separated? It could be that he doesn't even know the entire story.If it were a younger child then maybe i'd be more concerned but at this girls age....i'd stay out of it if i were you.

Hi my mother left me, my sister and brother with my dad when i was just eight.It was the best thing that she could have done.he turned out to be more nurtering,surpportive and loving than she could ever be. this could be the same for your friend just as long as he loves and support s her she'll be just fine.after all she has a good role model,and his name is DAD!!!

i think maybe they aii have trouble in doing sth .the daughter may love her parents very much ,but they just don't konw what is on her mind ,and now she is in her final year ,so she must have got a lot of preesure.i think the father do too much that he needn't do,sometimes he should relax himself,this will do better to both him and his daughter ,maybe her mother should pay more daily attention to her.

When I was 18 I thought my parents stupid and ignorant. When I was 21 I was amazed how much my parents had improved and learned in three years. OK. It's an old saying but so true and mother and teenage daughter 'wars' are not uncommon. I just hope they stay together long enough to be able to look back on this time and smile at it. Get involved at your peril - you may come out with a bloody nose, whatever your good intentions.

She might turn out to be a very good mother! My daughter in law didn't always see eye to eye with her mom. Now she has a little girl and she maybe even goes overboard with her own daughter giving her everything she never had as a child and letting her do things she didn't get to do. Her mother by the way....does not really want to babysit or anything for the little one. What to say to the father? I don't know. I do know she might be best off when she leaves home!

My parents divorsed a few years ago,and at that time I think my mother is something like the mom in your article but now my mom changed. My father treats very well and I love him so much maybe just like the father you mentioned.So maybe I know what the girl need right now. it's love.

It is a sad thing when a girl is not getting that loving feeling from her own mother, but there is nothing you really can do. I don't think it would be a good idea for you to get involved because I think you would only make the situation worse for the daughter. But maybe she can get some advice from the school councillor. Sometimes it helps just to have someone to talk to and since the councillor is unbiased it would be best for her to talk to her.