kids and college.. are you afraid??

You are not over reacting. In this day and time it is scary to have kids going off to college. More so because of the situations that are happening all over. I don't have a child ready to start college or even one in school now. My Son is married and has three kids of his own. This is his main concern also the violence that is directed toward the kids. The best you can do you have done. Raised her to the best of your ability and you have to trust her to know what to do from here on in. It is hard because you are her Mom and always will be. Just make sure she understands that people are not always what they seem and she needs to proceed carefully. Let her know that no matter what you will always be there for her, day or not. Take her to the college so you can see where she will be staying. It will ease your mind. Then look at her and give her a big hug, tell her you love her and trust her and that you will be there for her whenever she needs you. Than walk out and leave. It will be the hardest thing you have ever done but you need to do it so your daughter can understand that she is going toward her future with you standing behind her.

You are not over-reacting at all. I have 4 girls and altho none have gone off to college as of yet, one did go far away to an alternative school when she was just 16. Your worrying is so very normal. All their lives, I have worried about my girls....something horrible happening to them . It is the one thing I really don't think I could handle in this life...the only thing really. Unfortunately there is nothing you can do other than pray alot and hope that you have raised them with enough values and street smarts to be as safe as they possibly can. Even with that, some things just happen that are beyond anyones control. I pray constantly for my girls safety. Hopefully by now, your daughter has already figured out that the world is full of dangerous people and ones that you can't trust. She sounds like a smart girl and I'm sure you've raised her right. As much as we so want to, we can't hold them tight forever. we have to let go. I know it is hard, but you have to do it and pray for the best. At least, because of all the other bad things happening at schools, people have more awareness and have bumped up securities. Best of luck to you and your family.

I definitely know how you feel although my kids aren't going to college yet. I worry about them even while I'm with them at the house! There are so many stories in the media today and it is hard not to think about all the bad things that could happen. It is important to remember that we cannot be there to protect them all the time. We are doing all we can to raise them and make them aware of the dangers they may face. I always discuss media events with my kids and make sure they know to always be aware of their surroundings. They probably get sick of hearing me but hey, I have to always tell them to do their chores everyday so I guess I have to repeat everything! I can only offer my understanding in your concern about your daughter being in a different state so far away. This is a step for her towards being an adult and you will have to trust that all will be okay. You've done all you can in raising her and will always be there for her. Best wishes!