Housewife or working women....what is better..
By apsara60
@apsara60 (6610)
Israel
March 9, 2008 5:03am CST
Hi ladies, (men can also give their comments.....welcome)
I am a working women too like most of you here. But let's just imagine....if we have a hubby who is rich as well as loving and we have all the money to spend and have servants to take care of our household work. Will you then prefer to sit at home like housewife and give your full time to your children or will you still want to be a working women....I think I would accept to be a housewife.......what about you all........thanks
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50 responses
@alexcellzx (98)
• China
9 Mar 08
if i am rich,i would rather hire somebody to do the housework than my wife.
@RowenaTheWitch (947)
• Italy
9 Mar 08
I don't want to upset any housewife here, but I think in all the possible situations it's still better to be a working woman than an house wife.
You are indipendent, you are not depending on someone so you can buy what you want and if you want to divorce you are not restrained to do so by the possibility of not having money. Also for me it's a psicological thing, I would like to have a place in the society and unfortunately house wives work is not even considered a work by a lot of people.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
9 Mar 08
Dear Rowena, I see that you are just 23 and I assume still unmarried. As per your age you have spoken very correct, but things change a lot after marriage, there is new word added to our married life which is called adjustments..........you will know about it and then you will also know that it would not be easy to make decisions when you have to decide among your hubby, children, job, etc etc.......
You have said the bitter truth that housewives work is not even considered as work....... but believe me dear, there comes one day, when everybody appreciates work of housewife, but some are lucky to get this appreciation when they are alive while others get it only after they die..........lol. But there is appreciation.......:))
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@jcj_111776 (3216)
• Philippines
9 Mar 08
Being a mother and a wife, 24/7 is the hardest career in a woman's life. It's just sad that there are people who look down on women who chose to give their whole time and attention to their families. And sometimes what they do is unappreciated.
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@RowenaTheWitch (947)
• Italy
9 Mar 08
Ah and also if a woman is graduate I'd consider it a waste if she doesn't work with a job suited for her degree
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@ssh123 (31073)
• India
9 Mar 08
It depends in what situation the woman is presently engaged. If she is middle aged and having 3 to 4 kids, then it is better to give attention to children which itself is quite absorbing. If she is newly married and decide to postpone bearing child, then there cannot be better way than to keep herself busy with work. It also depends on the quantum of savings to be made and bank balance of her husband. If the family is on solid foundation, then it is better she remains as housewife, taking care of the children, and if still time is left, she can become member of couple of clubs, kitty parties etc. She can have a systematic investment plan and keep track of the same. Still she can have sufficient money to spend from out of the dividends and returns of investment. She can resume the full time job, if the children come of the age and manage things on their own.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
9 Mar 08
Hi ssh123
Thanks for your prompt reply. I agree with you that bringing up children is a real absorbing and full time job, which should be duty of every mother and unless it is extreme necessity, the mother should try to be more and more with her kids as long as they still are in their tender age. But as you said all depends on circumstance....it is more difficult for poor and middle class women. May God give strength and health to these hard working women.
Have a nice day.
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@ssh123 (31073)
• India
9 Mar 08
It is really sad that in our country, particularly in Bangalore women at the age of 16 or 18 deliver a child, and within 3 days they go to construction work, to carry the bricks, cement, sand or do emteen number of works. The law clearly says the construction agency should provide creches, but they do not. If she is late 1/2 day salary is cut. As it is there is discrimination in salary, though she works mroe than male folks - male simply loafs around the place. It is really pathetic story in construction, agriculture and also in organized sectors like garment factory.
On the other hand, women, young girls earn more than boys/men workiing in call centres, BPOs and other IT Industry. There is sea of gap between two.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
10 Mar 08
What you have written is so sad to read and so shivering.......such young girls.......giving birth to children and returning to such hard work, so quickly.......this is sin........how is all this allowed.....so much injustice.......so where are our leaders and social workers....why nobody is helping to stop this ....I am so depressed........we are so helpless and can do nothing........lack of education is also base of all this poverty..........I thought things were getting better for women in India, but now after reading this I feel we still have long way to go......
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
9 Mar 08
It really depends on the woman. If she happen to had graduated in some well known college that caters to professions that the woman happens to be aspiring for, yet is well aware of what she would be putting at stake when she decides to be a house wife, then its her decision.
There are really pros and cons about choosing roles, being a working mom does sometimes take time from the family while it helps in keeping the household stable when it comes to financial matters. Though you gave a situation wherein the husband brings alot of bacon at home. Even so, its the woman's choice. ^_^
@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
9 Mar 08
I think it all depends on financial conditions of any family. Most of the women if they are married and have kids, they would prefer to look after their kids, as bringing up children is most tiring job. Performing this tiring job then also going out for another job is like punishment to mothers who have small kids. Today's generation is aware of this fact and that is why they think twice before bringing a child or before choosing a career.Thanks for your reply.
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@jcj_111776 (3216)
• Philippines
9 Mar 08
hi apsara. In my case, even if my husband is very rich and we can afford to have servants to take my household chores, I would still prefer to be at home since my son is still young. I really don't trust other people, especially those who I haven't known personally for years to take care of my son.
BUT.... if the situation is that my son is old enough to take care of himself, I'll undoubtedly go back to the work force. I have been a stay-at-home mom for four years now counting five. And sometimes I do miss waking at mornings and preparing to leave for work. And meet other people and see different things everyday.
Being a mom and wife 24/7 is the hardest career. But I have great respect for those women who are juggling two roles. It takes a lot of determination and stamina to continue doing both, being a working woman during daytime and a mom and wife at home.
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@jcj_111776 (3216)
• Philippines
15 Mar 08
I understand that it takes a lot on working moms. Before I got married, I got to work with two women who always try their best everyday to do their responsibilities at work and at home. I see them already very tired from doing an 8-hour job and yet, there are still more waiting when they get home. Sometimes they admit that there comes a moment when they just want to let go of their responsibilities and do whateve they want. But still they continue and are determined to do their best.
@daeckardt (6237)
• United States
9 Mar 08
I have always been on my own. If I had all the money I needed and didn't have to worry about working for a living, I would go out and do volunteer work either with the Red Cross or through an agency that assisted people in some way. I can't be bothered with housework and I don't have or want kids.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
9 Mar 08
I don't know what made you take such a decision of not having kids.........but I am sure if you took such a decision, their is some strong reason for it. You surely miss a lot in life, but you may not feel it as you don't have the slightest idea about what is the first touch of child....any way.....if you are all alone, then you can surely live your life as you please. Thanks for your reply
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@daeckardt (6237)
• United States
9 Mar 08
When I was younger, I found that I liked being around kids, but that is before I lived with people who had kids. I can't be around crying kids and I go crazy if I'm around a group (like a classroom). Now I can't have kids (I had a hysterectomy following ovarian cancer) and even if I hadn't, it wouldn't be a good idea at 48 anyway.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
9 Mar 08
oh......I am very sorry about all this.....and now if you are 48 , I think you should not have a kid specially if you cannot see children crying....you can adopt a child who is more than 4 years old........even that can give you some happiness, but I wonder if you are strong enough to bear other responsibilities......it all depends on you. Only you can take right decision for yourself. May God bless you.
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@eyewitness (1575)
• Netherlands
9 Mar 08
I would definately be a housewife,because i think it's important to give attention to my children.To be there for them when they come home from school.
I don't mind cooking and i don't mind doing the household.I think i would feel also much more free than having a job.
But we'll see about that in the future.First i have to find a hubby.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
23 Mar 08
My feelings are very much like yours and fortunately when my children were small, I never had to work. I did give them full attention and I am happy and so will be you because......children are our happiness and making them happy is like making ourselves happy..........thanks for your reply.
@sergeantrom (5721)
• United States
9 Mar 08
I would have my own business. That way I can make my own hours and spend time with the children and hubby of course. Could not sit at home all day since there are maids keeping the house nice and clean. Nothing to do, LOL
.....wish we all could think like your.
@gemini_rose (16264)
•
9 Mar 08
Well my hubby isnt rich but he has a pretty good job and so I am just a housewife! But I dont sit at home, I work very hard looking after my hubby and our 4 children, getting them to school on time etc. I would love to work, but to pay for 3 children to be looked after would probably cost more than I could ever earn and then there is all the sicknesses that kids get, I would be sacked within a month through being off with them!
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
23 Mar 08
Looking after hubby, 4 kids and the whole house responsibilities, this job is much more tiring and your family should appreciate you for your hard work.....If you will go out to work, your family will suffer.......you better be with you kids and be happy with them.........thanks for your reply.
@my_january (967)
• Philippines
9 Mar 08
A rich and loving husband- what more can I ask for? I'll be a full-time housewife then. I will love him and attend to all his needs as his wife, and also, be a good mother to our children. and we'll live happily ever after =)
@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
9 Mar 08
lol.....you just brought out hidden me......:)) That's exactly what I would do if I had rich and loving hubby.........lol . Well my hubby is loving.....but we are not rich and my kids are big now.......so here I go to work every morning.......lol.Thanks for your reply.
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@cynthiamurphy08 (4)
•
9 Mar 08
I am a working woman and very prould of it. I enjoy being able to make my own money and taking care of my child. If all I did was sit at home and take care of the house that would drive me insane. Who can stand to look at the four walls all day long! I thank God every day for my health and being able to work. It is not just a mans world anymore!
@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
10 Mar 08
I really don't understand why people think that men are not working, men, father, brother, husbands, sons.....men all kinds of men are working very very hard and trying there best to keep thier families happy. All men are not selfish and demons........thier are some good honest and angels too....who are always ready to help.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
25 Nov 10
Hello
My wife, my daughter and daughter in laws are all highly qualified, but none do any job, i just don't like, nor my sons' like the idea, we don't have monitary problems of any kind.
They are full time housewives, busy with the kitchen, kids and when free gossipising with neighbor ladies. LOL
Thank you so much for this discussion.
Professor. . Cheers have a lucky day ahead.
God bless you. Welcome always.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
28 Nov 10
Monetary problems are basic reason for which most women are forced to work in country like India. In India we women have lot of work and responsibilities of house and family, specially when children are small. In a way your daughter and daughter in laws are lucky to have financial security and your support as head of a family.But everyone is not lucky to enjoy life in leisure.em]rofl[/em]. Thanks for your reply.
@shannon76 (1232)
• United States
10 Mar 08
Before my child was born, I was a fulltime career woman. Now I am a stay at home mom and a housewife and I love it. I wouldn't change it for the world. We aren't rich by any means so i don't have any maids or anything like that. But I still love it.
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@unuzzz (1273)
• Indonesia
9 Mar 08
hi apsara60
i haven't married yet, but my mother is a working woman
i think she's the best mom,
she's doing the house work in the morning, and then around 8 she go to the family store and running the store
and then my father and my mother go back home around 4,
and my mother continue do the other house work
i never notice that, but one time i realize how hard her jobs
i feel very guilty for not helping her
my family is a middle class family
i remembered once my mom said it's great to be a working wife and make living for the family
her words really spirits me up, i'll make more money in the future
so that i'll be able to support her, and let her retire and enjoy her old days
amen .. !!
thanks for the discussion apsara60 .. ^^
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
10 Mar 08
Dear unuzzz........I am happy that you appreciate your mother's efforts. It is nice that you feel guilty for not helping her , this shows that you have clear conscious and you will be good child of your mother in future. Please look after your parents even when they will not work and when they will be very old..... May god give you lot of strength. Amen.........
@terilee79720 (3621)
• United States
9 Mar 08
For me, housewife and homemaker is sooo much better. I guess it all depends on priorities and what one values.
Me? I value my ability to stay home and take care of my husband and home. That in itself is a fulltime job. I've done my tour of duty as a working woman. I worked in the public, for the public since I was 13. I retired several years ago. If I had it all to do over again, I would have stayed home in the beginning.
If you compare what you make to what it takes to support a second job, a car, clothes, makeup, childcare, gasoline, lunch with the girls, not to mention the stress, while you STILL have to take care of the home, it's really not worth it. The money always looks good and we end up working to have more, but how can you enjoy it if both of you are working all the time. Trust me, it's cheaper to stay home and be a housewife. Not as much stress or heartache either.
If you can manage money well, you end up with more in the long run by staying home. It's not like it's not a full time job to begin with.
@runner0369 (641)
• United States
9 Mar 08
It depends on how many kids I have. I do not have any at this time. If I have up to four I will probably still work but if I have five or more I will probably want to stay home at least for awhile to make sure all of my children recieve adequate care and love.
I agree with you. Thanks for your reply.