Anger lessens love? Anger creates hate. What do you think?
By jeanniemay
@jeanniemay (1798)
Philippines
10 responses
@VAnnasamy (426)
• India
10 Mar 08
Yes. My view points on this 'anger' thru a poetry
The very word ANGER
One alphabet short of DANGER
One has to really manage
Otherwise, it will damage.
Anger stiffens/reddens the face, increases blood pressure. Anger does not allow the angry person as well as the receipients to smile/laugh which would only ease the situation. Tensed is the sourroundings.
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
10 Mar 08
There is no need to express your opinion in an angry matter just because you disagree.
Anger creates more anger, just as love creates more love.
If people were able to express their dislike of things without anger then it is possible that we would not be at war with ourselves.
People need to learn to respect others opinions and differences without anger. Differences can draw people together if shared in the right way.
@jeanniemay (1798)
• Philippines
16 Mar 08
Yes, as always, intention might be the same but it's how you say that counts. Nice response LouRhi!
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
15 Mar 08
Anger is a negative emotion, jeaniemae, and, as such, can do a lot of harm if it is not controlled. It is when we allow any of our emotions to get out of control that problems arise. That is why we should learn to harness our emotions so that we can maintain balance in our lives. Yes, too much anger can destroy love.
@jeanniemay (1798)
• Philippines
22 Mar 08
Exactly right, we must not let our emotions rule us.
Thank you for this!
@paid2write (5201)
•
10 Mar 08
A parent can be very angry with a young child out of fear, caused by love, if the child has been disobedient and caused concern for the parents.
Lovers often fight and then make up. Friends can argue and fall out and then laugh about it.
I don't think love is lessened by anger or real hatred caused by it.
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@jeanniemay (1798)
• Philippines
16 Mar 08
Thanks for that great response. Yes, sometimes, parents need to it in such a way to be able to put emphasis that there is a bad consequence for disobedience.
@my_january (967)
• Philippines
15 Mar 08
Yes it is true. Most probably when we are angry, there are things that we tend to do to vent the anger. Usually we do not think of the consequences that may arise of what we'll do because we're mad. But after you release the tension, when you had said and done all the mean things- damage has been caused to people- sometimes it is to those people that we care for. So for me, when we are mad, it is better to stay away from people and deal with it alone first- reflect. Then calmly approach the people you want to talk with about the situation that made you upset. Deal with it with a peaceful heart.
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@jeanniemay (1798)
• Philippines
22 Mar 08
This is helpful. Nice suggestion you got here.
Thank you!
@jhoannejoj (963)
• Philippines
11 Mar 08
I would say words of anger could bleed one's heart and ego. Those harsh words sometimes stored subconciously and when almost the same incident happened again, the reciever would definitely remembered those hurtful words. Slowly hatred would reign in one's heart and love would definitely be covered.
Before when me and my boyfriend had big fight, he used to throw harsh words. But i didnt allow things to get worsen. I talked to him and explained that maybe one day i might not be able found LOVE in my heart if he will go on saying words at his anger state. I told him not to speak up but rather keep things to himself if he is so angry. And if his anger subside, then we could talk. Its best to keep it to one's self than saying it then regret afterwards that you have wounded the pride and feeling of someone you love most. At present we are about to celebrate our 4th anniversary and looking forward to spend our whole life together.
@jeanniemay (1798)
• Philippines
22 Mar 08
It's good for you that you can tell an angry person not to throw harsh words and make an effort to let the anger subside.
You are wonderful. Thank you for sharing!
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
10 Mar 08
I don't think that is necessarily true,
anger can create hate but it can also be a fleeting moment where you get angry say what you have to say and then forget about it as well.
Also just because I may be angry that my boyfriend was late and I missed an event I wanted to go to, doesn't mean I hate him, I love him, I just hate what he did.
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@jeanniemay (1798)
• Philippines
16 Mar 08
True, being angry for what was done but not to hate the person for doing so. The act is hated but not the one who did it. Well, let love shine!
Thanks for that!
@jeanniemay (1798)
• Philippines
22 Mar 08
Yes, we need control before we ever regret what we say.
Thanks for sharing!
@sick4muzick (816)
• Philippines
10 Mar 08
Hi jeanniemay. No...yes...it depends. My parents get angry when one of my younger siblings come home late. I think that anger is a manifestation of their love and concern. They say things agrily so as to drive home the point that my siblings should not be doing such things to make them worry. Those words are not meant to divide and create hate. And those at the receiving end of the anger fully understand the love and concern behind those angry words. It applies to any relationship I think. Unless of course, anger is misunderstood then it would create hate. On the other hand, getting angry for no apparent and valid reason, well that might lessen love, divide and create hate. Have a great day :))
@jeanniemay (1798)
• Philippines
16 Mar 08
Indeed, yes, anger can be an expression to add emphasis. But of course, if words will come out better than being angry, it's safer because angry persons are sometimes misunderstood.
Thanks for that wonderful response!
@sashuangqingfeng (103)
• China
10 Mar 08
it is a proverb.Yes,it is true probably,but I wanna to say it is not really true.Anger is just a psychological activity in some time,maybe it will dissapear for a short while.But love is a long process.You must pay lots of attention to creating it.Once the deep love formed,the anger can not lessen it.
Speaking of anger creates hate,I think it is also not right,because the hate is created by the untrust between each other,not just the anger alone.But here,I want to say,if you really love somebody,please get away from anger.because anger can do hurt the feelings to some extent.
@jeanniemay (1798)
• Philippines
15 Mar 08
I like how you said it, if you love somebody create no anger. Which makes one good point, love conquers even what the mouth must say.
Thanks for sharing!