Ex relationships and partners, are they part of your life?
By flowie
@flowie (134)
South Africa
March 10, 2008 6:06am CST
I want to know if you allow all your ex parteners into your new relationship, and what kind of effect does it have on your relationship, i am in a very loving relationship but sometimes i see one of my ex's and my partner and my ex are not very friendly towards each other, there is always a very strange energy going on when they are together, my ex will try and tell me that i need to sort my partner out, i mean that just makes me think that she must not stick her nose into my relationship, we are not together and that type of boundry must not be over stepped. I think maby she still feels to comftorable with me, i am not her girlfriend, i am a friend and you should respect our friends. Tell me about what influance your ex has on your relationship so i can get some more insight on this ussue.
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9 responses
@2btrueinu (700)
• Philippines
11 Mar 08
Past is past and don't let him mind your new relationship if you are still friend as you said then give him limitations. Your new boyfriend is intimidated because he is jealous maybe. You may end up broke if they always like that. If he is your friend not your ex maybe he will like him also. Men are men they don't want some men to intrude to his relationship unless he don't mind it. Talk about it open it to your ex and also to your boyfriend that he is only a friend now.
@cr0ssf41r13 (866)
• Philippines
10 Mar 08
I had my first boyfriend last year. I'm very picky when it comes to guys and he's the only one who passed the standard. He's sweet, intellectual, good-looking and, particularly, soft in the heart. He could make me laugh, blush and cry (on the positive side). He proved to me that he was good when he was being a suitor. But, when I accepted him, his eagerness faded and he seemed to neglect me. On Christmas Eve, I broke up with him and promise never to trust such guys again. Did he make me a man-hater? Well, not like that. It's pretty easy because I didn't see him anymore.
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@flowie (134)
• South Africa
11 Mar 08
i know, he is just not the right one for you, i have been in a lot of relationships, and you always think that this is the one, but after a while it just fades or turnes ugly or it is just not working, but the ideal partener you will not experience these things, it is much better and not so complicated, but unfortuanately not all of us is so lucky, i see it as buying new clothes, only one pair of pants fits just right, but you have to fit a fiew on to get to that one.
@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
10 Mar 08
Hi there! Well, I don't allow any of my ex partners into my current relationship. I don't get into a relationship unless I'm over my ex. My husband knows about them though and he's okay with them. They don't know each other so it's okay.
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
10 Mar 08
I've been married 3 times and so has my s/o, however, not sure if you ever heard the song by George Strait, 'All my exes live in Texas'......well for me it's true, I moved to PA 3 years ago,lol. I only have phone contact with my last ex-husband as we have a daughter together, and they live in the same town. But it doesn't cause any problems with my current relationship. My s/o is also in contact with one of his ex-wives because they have a daughter together, who is only 14, she lives with her mom and comes to our house every other weekend. But, neither one of our exes causes any problems in our present relationship. An ex has to come to terms that they are just that, an EX, maybe you should remind your ex of that fact.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
29 Mar 08
im glad that i dont have that kind of relationship right now.. i mean, all my exes dont have partners yet, and i dont see them too.. its going to be a rare occasion if that happens. i dont think it will happen in the near future. but if so.. i guess they wont be part of my life. i wouldnt allow them and their partners to get in the way of my life.
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
19 Mar 08
I'm close one of my ex's, but I don't talk to my other two serious ones. I'd be fine if I was dating someone who was "just friends" with their ex. I'm not paranoid or jealous or at least I try not to be and feellike being in that situation would help encourage me to develop those skills.
@djmarion (4898)
• Philippines
11 Mar 08
i also have few past relationship and once in a while i get a chance to see them too, we ended as friends anyway so i don't see anything wrong with seeing them. I am in a new relationship and my current boyfriend also does not agree with the idea of seeing my former flames however he is not a narrow-minded person, he respect and trust my decisions, he does get in a way to whom i want to meet. However as a good partner and to avoid further complications in our relationship, i try to keep away from my exes as much as possible.
