how do you judge people with a high lifestyle ?
By unuzzz
@unuzzz (1273)
Indonesia
March 10, 2008 6:16am CST
one of my friend considered to have a high lifestyle
she always shop for clothes in branded stores, like mango, next, zara, debenhams, etc
in my country, such store is considered to be a luxurious store
the government put a big number of taxes on foreign brands
although in the western such stores are normal for people to shop
for cosmetics, she shops at ysl, etc
for shoes and bags, she go for an A-list stuffs like louis vuitton, gucci, etc
i knew those names since i often hang out with her, LoL , with some friends too
even she's living a high lifestyle, she's never been an arrogant person, never shows her stuffs off her friends too
she's always been a funny person as i first met her ^^
but recently i figured out that some of them talk about her behind
well for me, what they said shows their jealousy
but apparently not only them said such things,
most people also judge such lifestyle bad
at first i thought that must be because of the worsen living condition here,
but some rich people also judge such habit as something that is really bad
how would you judge my friend ??
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10 responses
@afternoontea (1005)
• Indonesia
11 Mar 08
The same things happened in my country too, where people judge you based on the labels you wear. Maybe not all over the country, maybe it is just because I hang out with people who are judging people by their belonging. For me will be no problem as long as they can afford it.. Me, myself not considering the branded item for a must have one, they are too expensive, and often not-for-long use.
I have friends like yours too and often they talk about me being not excited when they talk about the A-list as you mentioned.. They did talk about each other too when someone have a new branded item, I think that is just a kind of jealousy.. So as long as they are a good friend without looking on what brand we are wearing, that will be fine...
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@gilly123 (157)
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10 Mar 08
Hi unuzzz,
Is it not strange,that most people seem to resent,the more well off?myself been poor,i have no problem will the rich,providing they are genuine,and they do not look down on the less unfortunate!you see many rich people seem never to find honest to goodness love in life,they tend to compensate happiness for material objects,no i am quite happy been poor and loved,than well of and lonely,you see you cannot take riches with you when you leave this earth,anything i do earn,is spent on everyday living,but i am happy,and thats something i beleive,even with wealth you cannot buy!
@p1kef1sh (45681)
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10 Mar 08
If all she cares about is clothes and how she looks then I think that she must be a little sad. There is so much more to life. Designer labels are very transitory, here today, gone tomorrow, and unless you are genuinely rich, all that they say to me is "shallow". Even the genuinely wealthy ones, Paris H for example, show that they are great clothes horses, but are so vacuous that they are to be pitied rather than admired. There is nothing wrong with having well cut nice clothes. But when the become more you than you. Then something has been lost.
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@unuzzz (1273)
• Indonesia
11 Mar 08
hi p1kef1sh
thanks for the respond
i surprised that many people shows different reactions,
although mostly shows refusal ^^
well, your comment also shows a disagree
but your words are very gentle
at first i felt guilty with my friend for making her as my topic LoL
anyway, thanks for responding p1kef1sh.. ^^
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@idaantipolo (472)
• Philippines
10 Mar 08
If your friend can afford such luxurious items, then let her be. There are a lot of people who judge others for what they have or don't have, for me, as long as that person didn't do anything bad to me, then I do not care at all. Each has his own business in this world, and she's happy with shopping...I'm happy with blogging...lol
@unuzzz (1273)
• Indonesia
11 Mar 08
hi idaantipolo
thanks for responding ^^
yeah, that's also my point
as long as i feel comfortable with her,
then let her be what she wants
i won't judge her like other friends, because she's always nice to me, and still nice to others too i think
anyway, thanks idaantipolo ^^
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@DevilHands (573)
• Philippines
10 Mar 08
Personally, if you asked me... I really really hate girls who try to wear different set of fashionable clothes everyday or most of the time. They are a real show off for me, I don't care if she's nice as most of the time they tend to pick her friends.
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@unuzzz (1273)
• Indonesia
11 Mar 08
hi DevilHands
thanks for responding
i completely understand what you mean
i also got lots of 'plastic girl' friends, and i judged them just like you
most of them are very cliche, and often 'stab' their own friends
but this one is different i think,
i once complained her about her look, and what she said is quite make sense for me
she never but those branded things with her allowance,
it's her mother who got them for her, and she never asked for it
she said that she just like to well-dressed, no mean to show off or something
but every people have different opinion then
anyway, thanks for responding my discussion DevilHands.. ^^
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@nicksy (178)
• Philippines
10 Mar 08
i can't judge her yet, with a limited information, but i have friends similar to her, but they are humble enough and know when to give to others, as well when they must be down to earth in situation, if your friend has a negative atittude because she is rich and in the high class of society, maybe she has a positive and good character as well, to balace her negativity. but if you express her character to that point and nothing else, maybe she is drawn suck-up, controlled by material things, if you know what i mean.
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@unuzzz (1273)
• Indonesia
11 Mar 08
hi nicksy
yeah i know what you mean
thanks for responding,
well, she's always been a humble person so far
if we go for some food, she never asked to dine at a fine restaurants or expensive places
mostly we often go for cheap foods, like in the china town or food courts ^^
thanks..
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
26 May 08
Hello unuzzz,
She has the money and she has the right to spend it as she wishes. I know it is not a good habit to spend your money for extravanganza shopping spree. I think most of your friends are jealous with her lifestyle. Unless if she comes from medium class family and pretends to be arrogant and showing off, there is nothing wrong for her to spend her own money. I think she really has a lot that she doesn't know what to do with it or maybe she is just a shopaholic. People can say whatever they want to say but it is still your life and you have the right to spend your life as you want. As long as she is not showing off, I think there shouldn't be any problem for you too.
@Foxfire1875 (2010)
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10 Mar 08
I don't know your friend and she may be a really nice person but to me she sounds very shallow. It's like she is trying to appear better than others by buying luxury goods and that never goes down well, as only other shallow people are impressed by that. You say she doesn't show off her stuff but obviously everyone notices the labels etc.
I don't like buying brands and avoid as much as possible due to the business practices they follow. Maybe that is what is upsetting other people too.
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@Foxfire1875 (2010)
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11 Mar 08
I'm sorry it sounded tough but I am very anti brands and avoid them and the chainstores as much as possible. As I said I don't know your friend but she sounds a good person.
A lot of good people don't realise what the big brands have done, if they did they would stop buying their products.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Mar 08
I would value her for the person inside. You said she has never been arrogant. never shown off to her friends, and she has a sense of humor. so I would value her for all those good qualities those were the ones that drew you to her weren't they? so enjoy her friendship and chide those people who talk behind her back.good people come from all walks of liveand all colors of the rainbow and all sects of religion.so value her very much.
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@gxnfly (1147)
• China
11 Mar 08
I think it all depands if she earn the money she spends or not.Defferent people have defferent opinions about lifestyle,people have the right to live a lifestyle they like without hurt somebody else.I live simplely,but I don't judge people by appearances or what they are wearing.But I dislike some arrogant guy,who want to show off themselves all the time.
