How DARE You THANK Me!
@cynicalandoutspoken (4725)
United States
March 10, 2008 12:04pm CST
Have we really come so far as a society that simple gestures like saying Thank You for spending your time in my discussion, has some how become offensive to some of us?
It even says in the mythical rules of myLot conduct NOT to thank everyone who comments on your discussions because you don't earn any money for doing so.
How rude! If I were to comment discussion after discussion a user posted and never once get a reply to something I had written them I would stop responding to their discussions.
If they can't take the time to address what I have written then I can't take the time to read what they post.
There are over 120,000 registered users on this site. 70 of them are my friends but only 25 of those 70 have been active participants in my discussions and it is those 25 people who get top priority in my myLotting schedule.
It is those 25 people who always comment back to comments I leave them. It is those 25 people who respond to discussions I write.
Is it really so hard to believe that there are those of us on this site for something more valuable then the payout?
I don't go into a discussion of mine that has 4 pages of comments and just say Thank You for commenting. That is a waste of time, but I do read every comment I receive and if there is something I need to add to it then I do and usually then thank the person for taking time out of their day and reading what it is I have written.
Burn me at the stake for it, I don't care. There is still something to be said for manners.
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@Myrrdin (3599)
• Canada
10 Mar 08
Well I think the point is to avoid posting responses that just say "thank you for responding", they add nothing to the discussion, and really serve no real point on a discussion board. Now if you add something to the discussion or say thank you for bringing up a point I had not considered, that is different then just saying thank you and nothing else.
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@cynicalandoutspoken (4725)
• United States
10 Mar 08
Exactly my point. My friend sometimes just comments back Thank you for your response and I can't figure out why. That is an exercise in futility. If you are going to take your time to comment back, comment back with some substance.
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@cynicalandoutspoken (4725)
• United States
10 Mar 08
I just needed the right motivation. I hadn't forgotten.
But don't thank me too much, your mouth could be put to much better use.
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
10 Mar 08
Well, I do try to respond to every person that writes something, but sometimes that is hard to do. Sometimes I just don't have anything to write back. I also find that if someone responds to me, I respond back, and the respond again...I only get an email for the first response (if a second person starts participating in the same response I don't always get an alert for that either). I often miss things because of the lack of notifications.
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@cynicalandoutspoken (4725)
• United States
10 Mar 08
I'm terrible at responding to people who say the same thing as someone in a comment previous to theirs. So most of the time I just leave the second post alone.
But I have seen one comment on one of my discussion attract comments from 5 or 6 people and I don't get those notifications. The person who left the first comment everyone is commenting does. It is easy for them to get lost in the shuffle when you have 5 active discussions going.
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@angemac23 (2003)
• Canada
10 Mar 08
It has nothing to do with manners....it has to do with people having lives.....some people on here spend a lot of time on Mylot and are able to...others have full time jobs, kids and a life outside the computer.....I presonally do not and cannot thank every single person who responds to my discussions unless they specificallu ask a question that needs to be answered...and not many people thank me when I make a discussion but that doesnt bother me....its not a big deal....people jsut simply do not have the time to sit a computer all day typing "thank you"...it's unrealistic...
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@catjane (1036)
• United States
11 Mar 08
When you get over 100 respnses a day in your email, it's hard to sit down and respond to every single one of them. I try to read them all and respond to the ones that are of interest or ask a question. I could be in my email for hours if I had to say thank you to everyone that responds, as it is I barely have enough to to respond to posts I want to read from other people. When I do respond to posts I make, I never just leave a "Thanks for responding" and that's all, I say it at the end of my response back to them. This is nitpicking, just enjoy yourself out here and do whatever it is you do to post and respond to posts :P
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@cynicalandoutspoken (4725)
• United States
10 Mar 08
I see what you are saying but I wonder how people have so much time to post 3 or 4 discussions a day but never enough time to answer a single comment they receive.
My step brother is like that. He posted 1 discussion and got over 100 comments on it and never commented back a single one of the people who took their time out of their busy days comments him in the first place.
It's no wonder he has only made $3 in the 2 months hes been here and I have made payout twice.
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@novataylor (6570)
• United States
10 Mar 08
Yes, there is definitely something to be said for manners, Cyn, darlin, so just keep on doing what you've been doing, as will I. I will continue to thank my responders, and I've never done so by saying only, thank you for your response. That just seems so dismissive. There are some that really deserve no more than that, but I will still leave something of a comment as simple acknowledgment. Generally, though, I have something to say to each of my responders, something of genuine value, I think, and not just an exercise in politeness. We've got some clever buggers here on the Lot and I do so love when they present me a challenge. And you, dear, personify challenge. And mama loves you.
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@Tehgamer (274)
• Trinidad And Tobago
10 Mar 08
Ummm.. I think you are going a bit overboard... They never said not to thank people but what they mean is there are some people who just post thank you for everything just to get their post counts up... These people are those that are in it for the money so of course the Mylot staff will be sure to tell them that they will not get money for posting replies like thank you... They never said it was against the rules to show your appreciation...
No offence but not everything in the rules is about you...
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@cynicalandoutspoken (4725)
• United States
10 Mar 08
I think you need to reread my discussion and here just in case you never read the myLot DON'Ts I've copy and pasted it for you
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Thank everyone that responds or comments on your discussion. This will not increase your earnings.
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If it is my discussion it most certainly is all about me. But the particular thing that made me write this discussion wasn't. I don't go around typing THANK YOU FOR YOUR COMMENT as a response to the people who comment me. If I don't have more to add I just leave it. But luckily there are enough people here like you that make sure I have plenty to add.
@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
10 Mar 08
I think you are right.. it'd be pretty rude not to take the time out of your life to respond to the people responding to your discssions. I always try to respond to as many people as i can in mine. I dont thank them usually.. unless their answer is crazy or off topic.. then i can't say anything else other then thanks for your response.. lol i dont want to be one of those RUDE people i spoke of before and tell them to get a life!!
THANKS FOR BEING MY FRIEND CYN!! *giggleS*
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@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
10 Mar 08
Lol and you dont ??
You answer almost everyone too. I always make it a point to answer the people at least on the first and the last page that is showing if i get lazy ;P lol. That way when people go to respond.. they see that i DO answer ;) *giggles* shhh!
@cynicalandoutspoken (4725)
• United States
10 Mar 08
You go comment crazy. I will see a discussion of yours that has like 46 responses and there you are commenting each one of them back. I don't have that kind of patience but I do make it a point to at least say hello to my friends :)
Hello Sissy!
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@moneyandgc (3428)
• United States
10 Mar 08
I agree. I read each and every one of the comments left on my discussions. I try my best to respond back to those who commented. I feel as you do, if I spent a bunch of time commenting on different users discussions and never heard anything, I would not feel good about it either.
Even if mylot doesn't pay us to thank someone, I don't think they should tell us not to do it. So don't pay for the post!
@cynicalandoutspoken (4725)
• United States
10 Mar 08
It is fine to tell us we aren't getting paid for it but it kind of gulls me that it is under the DONT's section that we shouldn't.
I admit I don't just say thank you if I am posting back, I usually have more than that to add.
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@CanadaGal (4304)
• Canada
10 Mar 08
Do you have any idea how tempted I am to reply to future postings by you with a simple, "Thank you for responding" just for kicks? Yeah... I'm mean and cruel and twisted that way. But luckily for you, I just had some chocolate. So all is well in my world again. ;)
People showing good manners is becoming a dying art in today's fast paced society. For whatever reason, people don't feel they have the time to take the time to make well thought out replies to conversations, yes, even those that they themselves have started. I agree, a simple thank you can go a long way.
@CanadaGal (4304)
• Canada
10 Mar 08
I don't share chocolate. Sorry (that's the canadian in me coming out, eh?). I'm really not sorry, just like I'm really not sharing my chocolate.
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@cynicalandoutspoken (4725)
• United States
10 Mar 08
Thank you for your response :)
Now share some of that chocolate.
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@cynicalandoutspoken (4725)
• United States
10 Mar 08
I see, you are one of THOSE kinds of Canadians. Not the "everybody loves me" Howie Mandel Canadian but the "I'm better then you and I'm going to hoard all the chocolate in the world and make you pay $12 an ounce of it" Pamela Anderson Canadians.
You are lucky I am sharing your current medical condition or I might really start not liking you :P
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@cynicalandoutspoken (4725)
• United States
10 Mar 08
It does show through in my writing doesn't it? LOL
Time to wash down the next batch of pills with something a little stronger than green tea.
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@cortjo73 (6498)
• United States
10 Mar 08
I respond to almost every response to my discussions. There have been a few where I just didn't have anything else to add. I sort of feel like if I respond to a response to my discussions, it is basically me acknowledging that person's response. I may not say Thank you for responding. Not because I am trying to be rude. But, I feel like my response is like a Thank you!
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@cynicalandoutspoken (4725)
• United States
10 Mar 08
I rarely say thank you unless I am totally in disagreement with the commenter. I will tell them why they need to beat themselves in the head with a sharp rock and then thank them for taking their time to enlighten me with their oh so profound opinion.
Usually to get a THANK YOU from me means you angered me. My friends know by my comments back to their comments that I am appreciative of what they had to say.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Mar 08
I do agree that we should read every comment we receive and its only good manners to say some sort of thank you. after all the poster cared enough about your discussion to give you his or her opinion. Maybe not everyone but those that reallyshow some effort has been made. Good manners sort of act as a grease to pave the way for enjoyable discussions and responses.
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@cynicalandoutspoken (4725)
• United States
10 Mar 08
Good manners sort of act as a grease to pave the way for enjoyable discussions and responses.
BR to you :)
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@dragonfly242 (1060)
• Bahamas
10 Mar 08
it's so good to hear someone who feels the same way i do. although you dont make any money for it, i think it's just common curtesy to say thanks. and it also lets people know you appreciat their imput in your disccusion.
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@cynicalandoutspoken (4725)
• United States
10 Mar 08
Exactly! There are plenty of people here who feel this way. I'm just one of the ones who make light of things that most others don't want to or don't think they have the right words to use.
@jhoannejoj (963)
• Philippines
10 Mar 08
Im a newbie here. I learned a lot from this post and sort of lead me to the right track. I'll take note your point of leaving comment in ones comment substantially. I think i made such remark yesterday =(
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@cynicalandoutspoken (4725)
• United States
10 Mar 08
Don't take it too hard if you commented something I wrote previously and I didn't comment back to you. I sometimes skip over comments that pretty much say the same thing as another comment above them. But you are my friend now so I will be looking forward to your discussions.
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@jhoannejoj (963)
• Philippines
11 Mar 08
Thanks for accepting my request, though im a newbie. I checked your discussions and hope to respond to them real soon and get a good insight. See you around!
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
11 Mar 08
I do not comment to EVERY response that I get...sometimes there's just too many....most of them do get a '+' though. Some of the responses do not warrant anything besides a 'Thanks for the response' and I'm not going to go around doing just that. But most of the responses do get a comment from me....so it's not like my discussions are totally devoid of comments from me. It's just a few and it's also not like I comment to only my friends who are active and we go back and forth and ignore the rest of the responses. Most of the people who respond do get some kind of acknowledgment. Sometimes, it is a couple of days befor I can get back to comment to the responses due to lack of time.
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
11 Mar 08
I think what the myLot guidelines state has to do with people who only post 'Thanks for the response' to EVERY response (I've seen quite a few of that when I first mylotted....even when there was a question at the end of the response....it just showed that the person who started the discussion didn't really care about the responses). I'm sure a few 'Thanks' on and off with valuable comments should be fine.
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@ebsharer (5515)
• United States
11 Mar 08
I agree with you to an extent. I like to let the people know that I read there comment. Many times I have received the same response over and over again and I have said my part over and over again. It some times gets to the point where what more do I say? For example I have a question on there "chores for kids" Most of the answers I received were great but they are the same answer over and over again. I stated my point on page 1 and 2. Now I have nothing more to say. To as least let the responder know I read there response I say "thanks". Also a lot of times there is nothing for me to add. The responder has not left it open for discussion so that brings me back to just letting them know I have read it by saying thank you.
If you do not have any thing to add what do you put or do you not put any thing at all?
I know you don't make money from saying thank you for your response or just thanks and that is okay with me. Personally I am not here for the money.
I hate to see nothing back I rather some one at least acknolegde they have read my response.
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@jeanniemay (1798)
• Philippines
11 Mar 08
I thank them for an idea and not merely just for the response. Responses come but there are words that gives the lessons in life or any aspect of my life that I never realized and so I thank them plus rate them.
Sometimes, I don't but it doesn't mean I don't thank them for a wonderful response, I rate every response I get from my discussions. Ideas or opinions matter to me and they deserve some reward for taking the time to put what they got in writing and made an effort to respond to my discussions.
In advance, I want to thank you for bringing this discussion. In a way, I had the opportunity to express what I have in mind. Keep up!
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@kaysue4 (951)
• United States
11 Mar 08
When I post a question, I put at the bottom of the statement, thanks in advance. I don't get to read all of the comments that I get back or I read them and I have nothing to add. I am glad that they are part of my discussions, so that is why I thank people in advance.
@idaantipolo (472)
• Philippines
11 Mar 08
I completely agree with you. I also notice sometimes when I read comments, they seem not to have read the whole discussion that's why their comment is very far from the topic.
