I'm Praying for the End of Time, So I Can End My Time With You
@cynicalandoutspoken (4725)
United States
March 10, 2008 12:16pm CST
I love that song, Paradise by the dashboard light. Particularly the lines:
"So now I'm praying for the end of time
To hurry up and arrive
Cause if I gotta spend another minute with you
I don't think that I can really survive
I'll never break my promise or forget my vow
But God only knows what I can do right now
I'm praying for the end of time
It's all that I can do
Praying for the end of time, so I can end my time with you!!!"
Is it any wonder why I am divorced? No, really my ex-husband should have been taken out and shot and it took a good many years of being with someone even worse then he was that makes me appreciate the wonderful man I have in my life now.
We are going to be married before the end of 2008 so my question is to the many many myLotters who have lived in marital bliss for years and years and years....HOW do you do it?!?
How do you compromise? How do you choose which battles to have and which battles to wave the white flag of surrender on? How do you keep the "fires of passion" stoked after so many years?
Was it because you promised some mystical being,"til death do you part"? Or is it something deeper than that?
Can you say you still love your significant other today as much as you did when you were married or have those feelings grown stronger or withered over the years?
If you are like me and have previously said "til death do us part" yet the both of you are still alive just not cherishing each other any longer, why did you get divorced?
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@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
11 Mar 08
I screamed that song after my divorce when I left the courthouse and celebrated!! LOL
I got divorced because well he was a GRADE A A*shole! After 11 years, there was nothing left- he was my roommate that I never saw- must have been at his g/f's!
Didn't need him, didn't want him- don't like him now but life goes on.
He wanted to "work" on our relationship at the end. What held true for me then does now- I don't work on relationships. If love and the feelings aren't there-I can't pretend they are. I can't change anyone nor can they change me so off we go in seperate directions.
I can honestly say that I have a guy- not the most perfect circumstance yet- that has shown me what love is about. Learning what it's supposed to be about truly- has shown me how wrong those past relationships were and how right I was to leave.
XOXOXXOXO Have a great one!
@zz1400 (5)
• China
11 Mar 08
the song is great!
I have married for 3years.during the days ,as others,I and my wife have happiness,quarrel,and so on .I feel that love is not a noun ,but a verb.We love each other,help each other,doing householding.we could not imagine that I can live without eachother.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
11 Mar 08
Well I count among the divorced group...and the unhappily attached group. My divorce was mostly caused by being young and stupid. We married at 18 and had no clue what real life was. Before we knew it we were buried under bills and stress and kids and had no clue how to fix it. Insted of being a TEAM we took our stress out on each other which lead to further distancing...we created a vicious cycle basically. Hubby drank and hung out with friends too much, I got clingy and insecure, we both got resentful...which led to him going out more and me getting more insecure....and so on. Our marriage lasted a whole 3 1/2 years!
Right now I'm dealing with a man who has mixed up priorities, is mostly selfish, doesn't understand family responsibilities and is easily overwhelmed by life...when he gets overwhelmed he 'shuts down' which means he participates even less in family time, which leads to more resentment on my part...and again another cycle is created only with different characteristics.
So I may not know the "how to make a happy marriage last" advice but I sure have figured out plenty of "how not to's". Keep everything in the open, give each other space but also find common interests/activities, stay on the same page with major issues...or at least agree to be in the same book!
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
11 Mar 08
i did try to listen to the song! its wonderful. thank you for sharing. i have never been married and wonders about how my life would be like when i did get marry in the future.
i wish my husband would be as wonderful as i dream him to be, i will try my best to be the best wife and mother i can be. :)
@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Mar 08
well actually i dont know either lol..ive been married for 27 years and very young at 18..its just that i had met my soul mate i guess..we had experienced some misunderstanding and even an involvement of a third party...but in the end we still stick together...and after those trials we become more closer and when misunderstood we clarify things...im not a martyr type of woman..i always ask him if his love is gone then he must tell me..and lets part friendly..for the sake of the children..but it never happened..he even consider me as a spoiled brat but he understand ....but what i consider most as the most binding is we have one thing in common ..we believe and have faith in God ..and its through Gods grace that we are still together..
