Part 2 of how long do we have
By weemam
@weemam (13372)
March 10, 2008 5:33pm CST
I wrote a discussion about how my hubby had had a brilliant birthday and how I had almost lost him 18 months ago , what I left out ( not to spoil it ) was that we had been to my Mums sisters funeral that morning she was 96, it was such a sad start to the day as she was a lovely lady, and when we were having our meal at night my cousins wife came over 2 our table to tell us another cousin had died , he was only 64 and we used to play together when we were at school , It was such a shock , we had been at my uncles funeral just 3 weeks before , what I am trying to say here is that today isn't a rehearsal for tomorrow , we can't get it back .So we should try to be as happy as we can , to be as friendly as we can and tell everyone we love that we love them NOW before it is too late , I was always able to tell my kids I love them and it was quite hard at first to say it to others ,but now I do , life is too short , think about it please xx
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
10 Mar 08
It's so sad isn't it nan, that one day someone you love or someone close is around you then the next day they are snatched from us at a blink of an eye, that is why you must never take people closest to you for granted either! It's so easy to accept someone because they are there, tomorrow they might not be and you only miss them deeply when they have gone! You are right though just saying that you love someone makes all the difference and makes a lot of happiness which is the feel good factor xxx
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
11 Mar 08
Oh gosh weemam I'm so sorry! Yes you are so right about that, tell your loved ones that you love them because you don't know when they may leave this world and go to the next. I lost my fiance Nov 11th 1990 when our house caught fire and burnt to the ground then about 2 1/2 weeks later, my dad had a major heart attack in which I nearly lost him and he had a five way bypass done. He came home Christmas day a changed man. He hardly ever told us he loved us even though we knew he did by the way he did things for us but then he started telling us he loved us and he called me "baby" (endearment) a few times when I was stressed out which came to be a heck of a shocker but a nice one nonetheless. It was a huge wake up call for all of us and we always say I love you when hanging up the phone or when they come to visit or visa versa we always say I love you when we leave.
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@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
11 Mar 08
You are absolutely right Margaret. Life is too short - we should enjoy every single day that is set before us, and tell everyone around us how we feel about them. We don't know how long we have on this earth, life can be so precarious as you found out personally, but Jim is still here to tell the story!
We should try not to hold back saying "I love you" although it might be hard for some people to voice those words, but it can make all the difference in the world - to that person and to yourself. I am all for it, and am finding it easier to show my feelings to those I care about.
Great discussion pal.
@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
15 Mar 08
Hi weemam,
I'm so sorry to hear of all of these recent losses, in your family. I totally get what you mean here, as it's an important lesson 'for everyone' to learn. I need to try harder for sure, in this area, as it's more difficult to say 'the words' to certain people. Big hugs to you.
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@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
12 Mar 08
Life is indeed short for any who have sweet memories and have travelled this far beating all odds and overcoming obstacles. Indeed, I would say you are blessed with a happy family. Cherish all moments, I agree we all have to do that, for you never know if the meeting is the last.
@GardenGerty (161080)
• United States
11 Mar 08
This is a lovely post.I am sorry for your losses, I have been there. Yes, we need to think about loving and living as wholly as we can, while we can. I lost one husband at 43, and we thought we would have forever. That was twelve years ago next month, and it set us on a roll of losing one after another for quite awhile. Give love, speak love, be in love and be happy.
@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
11 Mar 08
Hi Weemam,
Sorry to her about your loss. It is really difficult to cope with something like this. I wholly agree with everything you said. Life is indeed short. What we can to today, we might not be able to do tomorrow. If only we have a control of our own destiny and mortality. I love you!
