Has A Friend..ever Told U that They had Fallen In Love With you...or...
By April
@cloud_kicker_32 (4635)
United States
March 11, 2008 7:32am CST
Soo I was wondering since im on this kick of taboo..lol..Have U ever had a really great friend that your very close with come out and say they had feeling for you..or That they Fell in Love with you?? this is happened many many times in my past..and i dated a few and lost some great friendships..and in others it kids made us stronger after we got past the uncomfy part when we relaized it wasnt gonna work..So what about you? details people!! lol..
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@ebsharer (5515)
• United States
11 Mar 08
Not that I can think of. Or at least none of them told me. I do however have ex boyfriends that I am still friends with. One of them told he he made a mistake when he let me go but we have gotten past that. We are both married now and share a friendship. My husband doesn't mind his wife doesn't mind. In fact we all get together every once in a while for dinner (when we are in there town). We keep up with each other through myspace mostly but call when there is some thing importaint going on. I'd have to say thats about the only one that told me he loved me after the fact.
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@micaella (396)
• Philippines
11 Mar 08
Hahaha, you made me think of my best friend this time....
YHa my best frind is seminarian before, we were always see each other everytime he has a chance to go home to their house. we used to go out together, watch movie go outing etc... but most of all we love to stay in his room to their house whole day, with out any malicious thing we do there, but since hes really gentleman i had secret crush to him actually that time thoug since hes a seminarian i need to forget about that thing.... We loved to teased to each other from our other friends and other people... But then life is changing and we need to face our own life and do what is in our path. we never been seen each other for six years and when we got the chance to see each other again, were both married, and the very first word we ask is WHY... He ask me why i left him, thou i ask him back Why he married someone.... those lots of whys... and the ending of why is Why we kept those wonderful feeling we had for each others.... Ahhhh... Its really anoying, but then we accept it now after we talk about it and the best thing is were still friend though we made a wall already.... through text messaging, chatting, throug internet our frienship still connecting....
@peedielyn (1207)
• United States
11 Mar 08
I had a best friend since i was 12. He was my everything! We did alot of things together but never anything boyfriend/girlfriend type thing. Last year when i told him I was getting married, he flipped out. I didn't know what his problem was and tried to find out. He said "You have been the love of my life since i was 10. We have been best friends forever and you want to end that by marrying someone who doesn't know you like I do? I was there, Rose, I was there through everything. You think you really need to marry someone that you've known 2 years less than me?"
That broke my heart! Sure, Juston is a hottie and still is, but I never looked at him like that. We used to go smoke cigs together behind the school, and cheat on eachothers homework, and we did all kinds of things together, but.....did I love him like that? I still hit my head on the wall. He finally settled and is marrying someone else, while I sit here lonely.
I just never knew. I am not blind but he never said one word about it when i would call him because my boyfriend didn't pick me up for prom, or I didn't have a ride to another boyfriends house, could he give me a ride? It's heartbreaking! I thought about it and I do love Juston, just not the way he loved me. I would have married him when I turned 30 like we said we were going to when we made that pact all those years ago. I might have missed a good one--AGAIN, I might have not. who knows? Hope you enjoyed this one. LOL I think I'm gonna cry again.
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@wildcat180 (169)
• United States
11 Mar 08
Yes. In high school, I had this really close friend. He was my best friend for over two years. He told me he was in love with me and wanted to go out with me. I reacted so stupidly, I'm still ashamed of it to this day...12 years later. You see, he was best friend, but he was somewhat overweight. Not grossly so, but he wasn't "in shape". That was the reason I turned him down, though I never told him that. If he had been in better shape, I probably would have asked him out long before he asked me. Our friendship did not survive and we lost touch.
Wanna know the most ironic part? I found him on Classmates a few years ago and contacted him. We met and got caught up. He's not only "in shape", but he's really well built. Very muscular and trim. Gorgeous, really. And still the same guy I knew in high school, just as wonderful and caring, and still in love with me. Only now, I'm married to a great guy.
Just one of those things. The reason I turned him down was a totally superficial one and now the tables have turned. He's the one that's in great shape and I'm the one that's a bit overweight. Yet he'd still ask me out if I weren't married. He's a better person than I was in high school...
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@jezzikabret (245)
• United States
11 Mar 08
Well yeah, and he's my husband now. We were friends for many years before we even considered dating. He was going out with my best friend and I was going out with another guy. I moved and so me and my best friend drifted apart and really weren't much of friends when I started dating him. I had broken up with my boyfriend and his girlfriend (the girl i was once best friends with) had broken up with him...this was after us knowing eachother for 6ish years and about 4ish months after our breakups he told me he had feelings for me. I found out i had them for him and 6 months later we were engaged...6 months after that we were married, 2 months later we moved to germany(hes in the air force) and 1 month after that we found out we were expecting a beautiful baby. We've been married for almost 2 years and i couldnt be happier! I think getting involoved with a friend depends on a lot of factors...sometimes too many for it to actually work out. I feel truly lucky that I am with my husband and have my little angel.
@srik45 (176)
• India
11 Mar 08
Yeah , i Have a very very close friend whom i met up in my graduation and after an year , she asked me if we could marry each other since we couldnt stay , out realtion is rockin now , and i feel the happiest man alive .
A best friend is the best person whom u can trust to understand you and keep you happy.
enjoyy life
cheers
@disvachic (10117)
• United States
11 Mar 08
Yes I've had this happen to me recently. A good friend of mine told me that he had feelings for me and he that he loves me.He wants a relationship but I told him no because I think it might ruin our friendship.Today we are still friends.He constantly tries to be with me but I keep turning him down not only because im scared it might ruin our friendship but I look at him as a brother.So we shall stick to being friends.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
11 Mar 08
only my e husband and my current partner ever told me they loved me, I had a hard time believing anyone could love me, as most of my boyfriends flat out said no, they were with me until they could find someone else
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
12 Mar 08
hehe happened to me just once and i think it should not happen again. friendship lost really is not a good thing... i miss him though cause we used to have several fun times being friends.
now we only talk through sms and it feels like we have already outgrown each other. :(
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
12 Mar 08
it has happened to me earlier.There was a friend at workplace. we became friend and then very good friend. he used to give me life to the office and back most of the days. i liked the pure friendship. but later he told me he has fallen in love from first day he saw m,e. i was surprised as i really thought it can't happen ever.
@Modestah (11179)
• United States
12 Mar 08
yes, it has happened in my past that a buddy told me that he loved me... I did not want to start a romantic relationship with him though I cherished our friendship and was afraid of messing that up - plus I did not feel any romantic inclination towards him anyhow. He was crushed and things were never quite the same between him and I. I missed him...
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@eftychiap (349)
• Cyprus
12 Mar 08
Yes, and I was so shocked and embarrased that I couldn't face him again. Our friendship became a bit distant and cold, until it was over. I couldn't hang out with my best pal as I used to..I was sad about it but, if I kept meeting him, his feelings would grow bigger and deeper.
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@heart143 (1202)
• Philippines
13 Mar 08
Yes, in fact a lot of my male friends have directly or indirectly expressed that they have fallen in love with me. Actually, it's a difficult situation for me because I value them as my friends and I don't want to hurt their feelings by rejecting them. What I usually do is I just ignore and pretend I don't get what they say. Sometimes, I just take it as a joke. If they are really very insistent with the answer, I tell them that I don't want to lose the frienship we had and I'm much fun as a friend. Only a very few of those men left, most of them are still my friends now and they even married some of my female friends.
@cr0ssf41r13 (866)
• Philippines
12 Mar 08
Yeah. That was two years ago. It's really uncomfortable because it felt as if a barrier was between the two of us. Eventually, I realized that I love him too but I didn't have the chance to say it to him though because somebody else told it to him. He made me happy, of course, because we started out as friends. It turned up that he is asking me out but I didn't realize it because he seemed like he's not serious. So, he gave up on me and looked for another girl. It was an awful experience.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
13 Mar 08
hi cloud!
wow. you must be pretty popular and nice to your friends to have lost some great friendships because they fell for you.
i have never lost a friendship because a friend fell for me. but i did experience having a friend falling for me. that happened before i was about to go to college. he confessed that he wanted to court me because he liked me. i immediately scolded him because i've always thought that friends are friends and even brothers and sisters, but not lovers. i even told me it was a good thing that i was going away for college, he would have the space and time to think about things and giving him the chance to forget about his feelings. it worked i think because he had a girlfriend when i was away. and we remained friends. and now, he has a girlfriend and we have completely forgotten about that incident during our younger days. ^__^
i just don't think that i could never be a lover with a friend who i know so very well, who knows me very well, whom i am very comfortable to be with, whom i share everything with, even all the gross things that we both experience, LOL whom i tell the most stupidest things.. i just can't. ^__^
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@Zelmarq (12585)
• Cebu City, Philippines
12 Mar 08
So far I have not expereinced that yet. I dont know what to feel if ever it would happen to me. It would surely shock me so much.
@habitatonhand (4)
• Philippines
13 Mar 08
i had one. two years ago. we were not so closed but i consider him as friend and brother purely. someone told me that he was considering and praying for me to be his lifetime partner. i did'nt take it seriously because i never imagined that he will be my husband. i thought he was too good for me. he was perfect for me... very intelligent, best voice i ever heard... a leader, everything i ever dreamed from a guy... i thought i don't fit. but when i learned his weaknesses i started to fall in love.
@mindofdude (69)
•
12 Mar 08
Ive managed to fall in love with my best friend and this year were getting married.
me and my gf became close friends back when she was only 12 and i was 14.
we were good friends for just over a year before she plucked up the courage to do anything about her feelings. She wrote me a letter and put it through my door (since we just lived next door to each other, YES SHE REALLY WAS THE GIRL NEXT DOOR lol)
Anyways i read the letter which pretty much just said that she really liked me and wanted it to be more than a friendship.
Her feelings however were returned on my part cuz i really liked her too. and not before long we were telling each other that we loved each other.
NOW! weve been together and split up roughly 5 times since then and got back together last year.
Weve decided its fate and now planning our wedding.
On the other hand, between relationships with my wonderful fiance, i have had other friends tell me they love me but obviously these times the feelings werent so mutual.
I always hate trying to let someone down easy even though you know your just crushing thier heart no matter how you tell them that you dont feel the same way.
@dont_pick_your_nose (2279)
• Australia
12 Mar 08
Yes, it has happened a couple of times to me. Once i actually hooked up with the guy, but i dont think it ever could have worked, considering the things we joked about regularly when we were just friends.
After that i made a strict dont date ya mate rule. It has been working for me, It is awkward letting your friend down. But it is seriously alot better in the long run.
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