stand by your man... or not.

I hold the view that everyone must have his space,and I cann't estimate I will "stand by your man or not" in the future.

I'm actually watching something on NBC on the Today show right this minute. The have the ex wife of the former New Jersey governor, Mcgreevy. Now apparently she is an expert. LMAO. To me what it boils down to is cheating is cheating. I don't care if they're paying for it like the New York Governor, or they're having an affair with a co-worker or someone else. Some people can work past an affair, and some can't. Having been cheated on in my first marriage, I don't know how these women are able to get past it. For Mrs. Spitzer, I would imagine she is running the gammet of emotions. Does she want to say to heck with it and get out, thus giving up the money? Does she feel as if it's her fault? Does she think she is married to a pervert? I mean, there are so many questions she has to be asking herself, and to top it off she's going through all of this under the scrutiny of the media. I know when I found out about my ex's affair, I sure as heck wouldn't have wanted the press dogging me every minute of the day. Then look at the whole Clinton thing. Bill and Hilary are still together. Perhaps their marriage is more of a business arangement than anything. Think about it for a minute. They have actually capitalized on his affair.

LOL I was just talking to my husband about this last night (we live in NY) and I gotta tell ya..If I were here HELL NO I wouldnt stand by him!! He's an embarrasment to the family, to his job/career and to the ppl who voted his crazy dumb a$$ in in the first flipping place!

I would stand by my man through everything, as long as he is honest with me. But once he has cheated on me and he gets into serious trouble, he has to stand by himself. It's a choice he made, from the very beginning. I cannot play innocent or naive before anyone when I know he has deceived me, before anyone else. If he loves me, he will not take the risk or not expose himself to anything that may ruin our relationship. But for as long as he is faithful to me, he will have my total support all the way, through thick and thin.

I think it's a very personal decision that has more to it than just simply, "stand by or not". First, can you forgive the cheating? Was it a one time thing or habitual? Also, like it or not, there are some people who have no choice but to stand by and "take it" because they can't afford to live on their own. Personally, it would depend on the situation. If it was a one time thing that "just happened", I'd be more inclined to forgive and stand by my man. I don't believe in the old adage, "once a cheater, always a cheater". But if he was out doing everything in sight, or having a long term affair, then no. Out the door he goes.