Break you or Shape you
By raydene
@raydene (9871)
United States
March 11, 2008 10:41am CST
We have all been hurt
in some way or other.
Some have suffered
greatly......
While others have
had nothing more
then a skinned knee
of the soul
What kind of person
are you?
Did/does it
shape you
or
break you?
Who are you?
Are you happy this way?
Or will you try to change?
xoxoxoxoxoxo
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11 responses
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
11 Mar 08
Heh, I've been broken and put back together more times than I can count. I will admit to breaking, but I won't say I'm "broken"... because I get up and dust myself off and put myself back together every time. :)
My life has been pretty horrific, and I'm not sure I'm entirely happy with where I am now, but I'm happy with the progress I'm making towards where I want to be. I know I'm never going to be "okay" exactly, but I strive to take my own experiences and use them both to help others and to plan for a better future for myself.
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@raeann682008 (32)
• United States
11 Mar 08
I really do not think I could have said this any better.
If we admit we are broken then we have given up. I see it like this..
We are living life to finish a puzzle.. there is always a piece to put in and always one that is in the wrong place.. If we choose to fix the ones that are wrong our puzzle is abit more complete..if not well then we learn to live with them or in my case.. I leave some in the wrong place. So that I can look back and see ..oh yeah I did that I dont want to do that again.. and go on to the next peice in life. I fel anyonewanted a perfect complete puzzle is living life putting togther the wrong puzzle.
The things that I have gone through in MY life have shaped me. Yes I wish that some of the "junk" I have gone through I dindt have to.. but then I wouldnt be where I am today.
I have scars both visual and and invisiable that could cross the lower 48. But there are many more out there that have alot more then I do.
I am off to roll to my next piece (WC HUMOR)
Rae
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@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
11 Mar 08
I think at first it breaks me. When you find difficulty in solving problems and no one is around to help you, you broke down. Because of the hurt your initial reaction is to cry. Emotionally you can't accept the fact that you can't solve a problem on your own. You try to ask why me? i did nothing wrong why do i have to suffer this kind of pain?. But after every storm, their will be a learning process and acceptance. For sure their are people that are still there for us no matter what, and when we realize we made it, it will begin to shape us or mold us and that is become our history.So my answer is both. Problems break me first then shape me. I think it is hard for me to change because it always lead me there.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
11 Mar 08
If it is something little like a tiff, I get over it and may even be the first to apologize,
if it is something really serious, I am human, being hurt or disappointed is human and healthy, but wallowing in it forever is not, so I move on when the time is right.
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@Jemina (5770)
•
12 Mar 08
Mark De Haan wrote: But man's disappointments are often God's appointments, and the things we believe are tragedies may be the very opportunities through which God chooses to exhibit His love and grace. We have but to follow these lives to the end to see that people who have been broken become better and more effective Christians than if they had carried out all their own plans and purposes.
For me, when I get broken I get stronger and smarter the second time around.
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@teison2 (5921)
• Norway
11 Mar 08
It varies a bit how things affect me. How I am otherwise plays a part. I think that I generally am able to move on and not let other people bring me down or break me. But at times I think it is quite hard to brush things away. I think it is good that I pay attention to and worry about others, but at the same time I wish I aould be able to let things go a little bit more often. When my lesson is learned it serves no good purpose to keep hammering myself in the head with it.
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@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
14 Mar 08
Depending on how hurt I am and the impact it has on me, I may rebound. I have sucumbed to a failed relationship for years and have lost the ability to trust anyone. Even with counselling, it does not help. I start to gain faith in people only after I get to know my buddy. Perhaps it is only when we have failed that we are able to grow and mature. Break is only temporary. Shaping up is permanent.
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@tarheelnancy (1317)
• United States
11 Mar 08
I've been through a lot in my life. It didn't break me I know that for sure, It made me who I am today and I am a good person. I learned from everything I've been through. I am happy now, it took quite a bit of time to get over some of the things but I can say it didn't break me just made me stronger.
@GardenGerty (159885)
• United States
11 Mar 08
I like to think that my experiences have gone to shape me into someone who is kind, and full of hope. Patient, and understanding. We cannot change what happens to us, but only how we respond to things and events.
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
12 Mar 08
i must say i have got hurt few times. also i may have be broken at that time when i was hurt immensely. i think you understand how it feels when you are hurt by the person you believed so much.it came as a shock. but it also taught me many things like never believe anyone so easily. don't ever let anyone to take advantage of your friendship.
@gxnfly (1147)
• China
11 Mar 08
I should say I suffered greatly when a boy hurt me in my high school.That boy changed my whole life,I didn't want to go to school,I was scared by people because of him,I didn't talk to boys because of him. Those were hard times that I still feel like it was yesterday.I swore to god that I would never see that boy in my life.
How silly I was!Now I am over him,I think I can face him without anger.To some dgree I must say that boy shaped me,I am tough girl now.When a another boy cheated me,I just suffered for 3 days,then I laughed at me,why? Why do you let a stupid guy defeat you,you must stand back on your feet ,cheer up!
But I have trust issues now ,I don't that is good.
