Another Baby

If I found out a few years after the fact, I'd be more bothered by the deception than the cheating. My s/o and I have discussed something along these lines because we have thrown around the idea of a second 'wife'. In that situation it would all be in the open from the start so I would accept the child as my own since that's the way we would want it to work...so there would be no reason or opportunity to hide anything from me in the first place. (now if she were to have a daughter with him I would be a little jealous lol because he and I only had boys together and I very much wanted one more girl!)

Divorce him right away and get child support. That is unacceptable to me!

I don't have to tell you what I would do, I can tell you exactly what I DID DO. I divorced the jerk. He made excuses like he was drunk, yadda yadda.... cheating is cheating and to bring another child into it is just wrong. My ex actually got this woman pregnant when our son was 6 months old. I didn't find out until our second child was a year old. I divorced him. He not only cheated, but he allowed me to be blindsided when the woman when she calls and says he needs to come see his daughter. A man that would allow that is not worth keeping.

I would probably leave him immediately! If he cheated then he probably cheated many other times throughout the years and I wouldnt be able to trust him at all.

Leave him ASAP to find someone who deserves me and will not cheat on me!