Trying Not to Confuse People

Hello lecanis!:-) To get straight to the point: I don’t think people know about my personal history from my posts, neither do I expect them to, it’s not that interesting! I do worry about confusing people though, as I am frank but not that open. It’s not that I don’t want to, but that I can not, I must not, for some reasons. Because of this very worry about confusing people, I don’t respond to many discussions, where I can relate much, just because some missing side details, which I can’t share, may confuse them. I don’t think either that many people are confused about me, not only because I try not to confuse people, at least I think so, but also because my participations are such scattered, sporadic and varied that people won’t take interest in my history in first place let alone get confused. It would take them a tremendous amount of time to first know and then get confused about it! LOL! A couple of users did ask me few question though, as they were confused, but it wasn’t about my history as such, they were assuming (outside the spectrum of my posts) few things, on their own, about some apparent details about me, like my country!

hmm interesting post. I didn't think much about it up to now :) but I think that I do say quite a lot about myself in here and that some of the people that read my discussions more regularly probably have a good idea of some of my personal life. And yes, since I never thought about it sometimes details might come up a bit confusing to others since they don't have the whole story.

Dear Lecanis it is a great discussion.Yes it is a tough task remembering all those history about our friends.But the constant touch is keeping me updated here.And I remember well about all the details about my friends.As far as I am concerned I don't dump much details about me for the fear of unnecessarily boring my dear friends.

My tidbits are few & far between so I doubt anyone has even tried to piece them together. If they did it would probably be scarry.

Lolw ell with me. basicly i just read, comment and forget.. well untill an email pops up and says congratz you have a respponce to your comment lmao. but other then that i do not try to link one discussion with the other because yes all it does is causes confusion... But i actually do remember you sayng your great grandma was your spiritual leader..

I try, but don't always succeed to keep detailed stuff about my family out of my posts. But I have told people more stuff in PMs and e mails. I don't worry about confusing other people, I sometimes confuse myself though! If people ask me directly about myself or my family, and depending what it is, I will reply. But not publicly.

From the responses and feedback I have been getting over the past year, I am sure that everyone knows me inside out LOL! Probably know me better than I know myself. I think my life especially over the last year has been like reading War and Peace! or going to a funfair and trying out all the rides, including the blessed rollercoaster that I seem to be doomed to be stuck on! I think all my close friends know me well and know my story, which is good, because I have had the support, love and advice and being honest is the only way to get this at the end of the day respect is built upon trust and honesty. I sometimes wish I could make up what has happened in the past and that I will wake up from one long nightmare, sadly not the case x

My friends know a lot about me. And I know a lot about them. I try to remember your family history, what you have told me, and what you like and don't like.And I do remember if you have a loved one who is sick or going through something bad.I try to keep it straight.

Hi Lecanis, One thing that really confuse me, I can remember every single details my friends at mylot (including yours) posted. I was missing in action for many months, yet I was able to pick up some of the discussions immediately. I haven't come across anyone asking about my past discussion since I never posted any personal thing about my life. However, I was usually senile when it comes to chatting with friend. We will talk about a lot of things, then days will passed and he will ask me again about a topic we chatted. I will be left dumbfounded gearing my mind back to what we had covered up. I'm guessing that I only allowed my mind to store pertinent things of my friend's life and leaving the unimportant one. =)

Gosh, I guess I haven't really thought about this before, but now that you've mentioned it I realize there are a handful of my closest friends here who I think know me better than many of their offline counterparts. They know I'm a animal lover and that my cats are outrageously spoiled. They know I care for my 91 year old mother and I'm an incurable night-owl/insomniac. They know I'm a former letter carrier now fighting for disability and therefore they know I have a lot of joint pain and back problems; I hope I haven't come across as too much of a whiner...lol! They know I'm a proud and doting gram of my two exceptionally beautiful and gifted grandkids and they know I'm passionate in my belief that GOOD health care should be affordable and accessible for all. They know I can't stand Bush and that I'm a bit of a liberal but not an extremist who believes in every single thing the high profile and very vocal liberals we see on TV say. I hope they know I'm very tolerant of those who disagree with me or are different from me in any way and I always mean to be respectful and show an openness to new views and ideas. I hope they also know that if at any time I say something here that they do find offensive or hurtful that it wasn't my intention at all and they can tell me what's on their mind openly and honestly and that I'm more than willing to apologize when I'm wrong. All in all, I don't think I'm very complicated, I'm just a 55 year old American female who appreciates friendship from everyone who wants to be my friend. Annie

Oops! My bad :p But hey, I do try to remember what my friends say, just that I don't exactly have a great memory...

Well i know who your talking about in this one. really your the only person on mylot that i know information about like the. My other friends havent been friends long enough and i havent seen any of there posts that explain personal stuff like that. I liked you from the begining though and of course remember what you have said. Your one of the only mylot people i would actually consider a mylot friend. I dont really worry about confusing people if they want to know anymore they should ask and i will tell. I dont know how many here know much about me i know that if you read my posts that you would know almost my whole life. LOL

For me I really don't know if there is someone here who can tell my history by what I post, but I know a number of guys here who i can tell there history by what they write. There are others here who really confuse me. sometimes they write that they have never had a man in there lives and other times they write complaining of the multiple guys they have had in their live and ex-s disturbing her/him. They do confuse alot you even think of asking them. Am always straight. Thanks for bringing this up.

Actually, I never even think about it. I try and respond to other discussions in order to help other people out and then sometimes....ok...very rarely....I start a discussion of my own. I guess if someone were stalking me, they could read all of my discussions that I have started and go from there. I deleted my activity sortie so, I guess they would have to really look hard for discussions I have responded to.

No need absolutely, what I have here is the correct representation of myself and that is just me-i like being myself whether here on mylot or in real life

Not many people know my personal history because I don't reveal much about myself unless it is relevant to a particular discussion I am responding to. I usually don't like talking about myself (for the reson that I might cofuse people with who's who and what's happening...lol). I do get confused with some of my friend's stories on myLot too...but some of them are pretty clear and I have no problems understanding the whole part of the story.

I confuse people with my history even if we are talking face to face so I doubt people here can keep track of me ! I'm sure many have picked up enough to get the basic gist of things but most are still probably confused without even realizing it.

Hi Lecanis...good question! I think people do take notes of what we say and depending on how much and how often we chat they do reference things back to previous discussions. A number of people have kept tabs about the kind of relationship David and I have because they have made comments about that in current chats not necessarily pertaining to partnering per say. Others are aware of my work as a writer, life coach and group leader, my spiritual beliefs and personal perspectives. So I haven't found people confused about discussions. In my case with valued members I chat with I find it relatively easy to remember what is going on in their lives if we chat on a regular basis. I have exchanged e-mails with a few members here and we have developed a really chummy dynamic and that augments my ability to store and retrieve details...because that is what friends do...on line and off. At least that is what I am finding. Love your photos of Dustin...what a cutie! Raia

Oh yes I have noticed that especially when I first joined up! LOL I often have to ask questions to refresh my memory because my memory sucks anyways! lol I've led a pretty confusing life as well so keeping up with me would be hard too so I don't mind if someone asks for a rerun down so ask away!

I think i worry more about getting other peoples facts mixed up, like i might say something that really has to do with someone else rather then them getting something about me wrong. haha. : )