am i right to refuse help from somebody?

yes,you are right,and you have the right to refuse.

I would have refused, that is, if they could have done it, but could not. However, if they explain that they were unable to do so when you needed it, and if they knew at the time you needed help, then you should accept their offer. But it seems that you did want help, but they did not offer, nor did they say to you, "we would like to, but we cannot because we are out of work, etc." I do think even if they had sent you a few dollars, or groceries, then you would not have had to refuse now. But it seems that when one needs assistance one never gets it, but when one does not, then everyone is out there offering provisions.

Of course it's understandable to be furious when the help we need is out of time. But though the help from the church comes in late, it might help. Anyway, it can also be an eye-opener from your church that if they want to help, they rather do it on the right time! Have a wonderful day to you and your family!

You suspected probably that the person who wanted to help would expect something in return later. That is usually the help. But...if the person really intended to do a good deed, then I think it would have been better for you to accept it. Self-esteem, if this would have been the case, would not suffer, since you found a well-intended person and maybe a friend. Now, if that person really wanted to help without anything back, then you hurted him, for sure...it'a how I think it works. You would have gained the opportunity to say thanks and maybe remain good friends afterwards....and good friends with no interest are always needed, in need, as well as in joy. We are not alone here, we need people around us...and for instance, when I decide to help someone, no matter how, I just don't want to be refused.

Obvuiously the help would have been more appreciated while you were struggling when your husband was off work but I'm sure you have dented the savings and could do with extra but like you say he is now working and there is probably someone else who would really appreciate this help now. There is no right or wrong decision on this it is a personal choice whether to accept or not. Glad to hear your husband ok now and back working. Ellie :D

Why is it that people always offer to help when its too late, and you dont need help anymore. Its so annoying and I would have done exactly the same as you too. So yes I think you did the right thing.

i think yes. you are very bold in managing the finance yourself. it is the power of mind. why should we take other's help as such?i think what you did is correct.

I think it's no need to be angry at the people who try to help you. Maybe their help is late, but at least it's still a help. You can decline it and say thanks rather than be angry to it. Perhaps one day we need help, who knows?

Hello dear marketing friend. I think that I would be very happy if I were offered help when I need it very much. But I would still feel very happy even if I do not need the help for the time being. I would appreciate the person for his help as he is doing good for me. I wish that you were calm not to have showed your temper to him so that he would not have felt hurt. I hope that you had a very nice tone when you politely refused the offer. Could I wish that, my dear friend?

Well for me it depends.. maybe you reuse to help someone who is really in need.. sometimes helping needs a proper evaluation on things.

Hi, I think what you did is right dear. It very good that you refused. They should have helped when you needed it the most and that was the year before. Once your husband had started working you will not need any help from anyone. It was right that you refused and the advice you gave them was also very good to help others who are in need at that time. Friends should help and be at hand when we need them, not when they like it.. I also would have refused the offer and did the same thing. This is my share ie my two pence ok. I am trying to pick up your idioms and phrases. Correct me if I am wrong Ok

Yes,ur right.

my dear friend,I think your are right.you are a adament person that's my point.There is my tip:be aware of your atitude when you refuse others help.hope your family getting better and better.