Should deaf couple be allowed to choose to have a deaf child?

At one point, I understood and sympathised with their argument. They didn't want to be forced to discard a viable embryo just because it carried the deaf gene. When they said that given a choice between an embroy with or without the deaf gene they would choose the deaf child, I kind of lost empathy with them. Its almost as if this child would have to be deaf so that they could make their point, which just seemed plain wrong to me. At the same time, discarding embryos because of some undesired trait does begin to smack a little bit of eugenics. I wonder how people would have reacted if the parents had some other disability, thalidomide perhaps, and wanted a thalidomide child, how would people have reacted then? Is there much difference? This particular case is a toughie.

When I was 4 or 5 months pregnant they wanted to test my baby for down syndrome. Because this was my first pregnancy I didn't know why I asked why do you do this. There answer was if the test comes back positive you can terminate the pregnancy! I was SHOCKED to say the LEAST. Why would I do that? Wether this child is born with a disibablty or not I will still love her, I was already in love with the little person in my belly. My choice would have been to deal with some thing God gave me and that would have been okay. If it happens and the child id deaf fine but to want it for your child. They shouldn't be having kids.

We had the same experience with our preganancies. we refused the test. Some people would say we were irresponsible. The test is not 100% accurate either, it can sometimes test positive on an unaffected child and sometimes can bring on a miscarriage.

I think the idea that it would be tantamount to child abuse is in the idea of deliberately making sure the chiold would be born deaf. Is that very different from deafening a hearing child deliberately?