An weird situation! please read it and help me....
By subha12
@subha12 (18441)
India
March 12, 2008 5:28am CST
I have got an online friend. first he added me in orkut. i was Ok with it as we used to talk generally about career and all.later he used to tell me about his Gf and all. i was not interested at all. i told him also. he told that he is telling as he thinks I am his good friend.
But after some time i used to get very bad mails from a mail ID which he claimed is his GF.
But i suspect it is him only.
now he took my cell number from one of his friend who is in same organization as mine. it was in our database.
After these mails, i stopped talking with him. he kept on insisting. few months back I got a SMS from him, as if it was sent to his GF, by mistake he has sent me. But I again think its a trick.
still he wants to talk top me. i have blocked him on chat.
he mails me on b'day and all. yesterday he mailed to say he is missing me and wants to talk. i did not replied.
I want your advice what is your guess that he is doing so?
what can be his motive?
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15 responses
@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
12 Mar 08
It sounds like to me he is playing games with you. I would kept inoring him espically if he has a girl friend. He sounds like he is just out to start trouble to me. I wish I knre a way to block him from emailing you.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
12 Mar 08
Subha,
changing your email ID or phone no. or the deleting your whole orkut account would not help much for if he really wants to disturb you he will find ways. Better, you ignore him completely. When I say completely I mean do not ever respond to any of his mails or scraps, if by mistake you receive his calls hang up. You have to be very consistent with this and a time will come when he will move on.
(This comes assuming that you do not like him as your BF)
@Reyah23 (640)
• Philippines
12 Mar 08
He is in the act of stacking you. You already told him that you are not interested but he keep on going. If he is in his right mind we will stop. I think the best thing you do is to report this to the moderator of your organization and have him blacklisted. His act is inproper what if he also have other victim in your organization.
@vicky30 (4766)
• India
12 Mar 08
I think he's a very sticky kind of person.you should ignore everything he sends you..and you should try to forget him slowly.then everything will be alright.
@Bethany1202 (3431)
• United States
12 Mar 08
Have you tried reporting him to anyone?
He could be dangerous. This doesn't sound like a good situation to me at all. Some people are just crazy!
@chickster (3)
• Canada
12 Mar 08
I think I would change my cell phone # and have no more to do with him and if he keeps it up maybe you should call the police.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
13 Mar 08
C’mon Subha no kolkata girl is so naïve as not to know the true motives of this humbug. Now we want to know what your true motives are lol! Don’t get me wrong darling, but there are many girls who actually enjoy such attention. As long as he is not going beyond making crank calls, you can just ignore him and I think such types disappear after a couple of months. If he gets too much, calling the police maybe??? No, I know kolkata police. You just have to be on your guard that’s all you can do and try and move in groups. If he is intelligent enough (even crank-call guys can be decent), he will take the message and move on to another girl. But if he is genuinely interested in you, then you may also test him out. After talking about a gf cant be a serious office darling!
@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
15 Mar 08
you do not have to know and you would not want to know so just let it be if you are already annoyed and get that funny feeling of corresponding with him, be very careful with anyone you just met. just simply get away.
@cr0ssf41r13 (866)
• Philippines
12 Mar 08
Was that a stalker or of some sort? That's a bit creepy and I don't want anything like that happen to me. Absolutely, I'll just shut off a person from my networks if I don't like him from the very beginning. Luckily, I don't get such 'stalkers' because I'm not active in Chat and stuff, though I'm active in Friendster. Hopefully, there are nothing much of a stalker in there, just interested people visiting your profile.
Well, subha12, my friend, I think he's interested with you. But, you're not interested with him, so, why bother?
@anonymili (3138)
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13 Mar 08
I am sorry to say this hun but I do think this chap has a bit of a vivid imagination. It is unlikely that he had a g/f in the first place. Often a guy will pretend he has a gf to a girl he wants to befriend because you're more likely to befriend him thinking he has no bad intentions. It could be that he's got a crush on you and he pretended his gf was sending you emails but it's just him being cheeky. I would seriously have a word with the person in your company who gave him your phone number and say you are considering reporting him for breach of privacy, he should not be giving out your number without your permission. At least if you try to frighten him, he can maybe have a word with the other guy to back off and leave you alone. Please be careful, you never know when someone with a crush can turn obsessive and might do more than send you bad emails! Take care hun. x
@gemini_rose (16264)
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12 Mar 08
Gosh he sounds a bit freaky, I think you should carry on blocking and ignoring him wherever you can, on some mobiles you can block actual calls but not sure about sms, but failing that you can always change your number, which I might be inclined to do anyway. I dont know what his motive is but I wouldnt want to find out, he cant get hold of your address or anything can he, this is the scary thing about talking to people online, sometimes they seem ok at first and then they change and go weird, you have to be so careful these days who you talk too.
@syedshazadali (173)
• Bangladesh
12 Mar 08
i think u will talk with him. ask him what he want. then u tell him clearly that u don't like his bevabier. after that make disission is easy to u.
@longsperes (64)
• China
12 Mar 08
If I was you I'd like to talk to him first, or you may lose a good relationship and hurt an innocent person. but if he always talks about sth you dislike and he know you uncomfort when he talk to you( If he doesn't know, please tell him frankly),don't care about what he said , delete the email before you open it ,a man like this is not worth to treasure, the relationship from such person is not really friendship.Never answer his call and email ,He'll withdraw someday when he realize he is the very person you dislike . the nightmair will end someday
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
13 Mar 08
hi subha! 
i would be suspicious too of a guy like that. maybe he developed some feelings for you and he wanted to know if you feel the same so he talked about his supposedly girlfriend to see if you will get jealous. too bad you didn't but he still didn't give up and did things that he thought might provoke you to feel the slightest jealousy and show your interest to him. unfortunately, you aren't so he settled on just sending an email telling you he misses you.
for me i wouldn't be interested with a guy who would all go that kind of troubles just to tell me that he likes me. it just looked so pathetic and even if i did feel a tiny little bit interest in him, i would eventually lose it and get turned off. so i think it was just wise that you are ignoring him.
i would be suspicious too of a guy like that. maybe he developed some feelings for you and he wanted to know if you feel the same so he talked about his supposedly girlfriend to see if you will get jealous. too bad you didn't but he still didn't give up and did things that he thought might provoke you to feel the slightest jealousy and show your interest to him. unfortunately, you aren't so he settled on just sending an email telling you he misses you.
for me i wouldn't be interested with a guy who would all go that kind of troubles just to tell me that he likes me. it just looked so pathetic and even if i did feel a tiny little bit interest in him, i would eventually lose it and get turned off. so i think it was just wise that you are ignoring him. 