Stood up... again.

Oh I am sooooo sorry that she stood you up. She is not worth your time. Did she even have the nerve to call you? Please dont give up on finding someone. There really is someone out there for you I promise. I just cant promise when you will find this person. There is a master plan for you to find the right person when you are ready. Do you really think that you are ready to share your time with someone else if you are soo depressed? (Sorry I am very blunt) I was reading your posting from last week about being depressed. I have two suggestions that I think you should try. (Please try something!) 1) - Go for a walk or a run everyday. Dont sit on the couch and veg or in front of the computer. (we will all be here when you get back.) The sun and the fresh air will start helping you feel better (it takes time you wont be cured in a day) plus you will also benefit because you are exercising and therefore that also helps you feel better about yourself. 2) - Get a note pad or scratch paper and start writing how you are feeling. You could make it letters to people that have hurt your feelings (made you MAD) or just write down how you feel. I would suggest you start with last night since it is fresh in your mind. And write down EXACTLY how she made you feel as you were sitting there alone waiting. This might take a few times for each issue to make you feel better about the situation. I am not saying you will feel happy about what happened but what I am saying is that it will help you get rid of the feelings you DONT need to have in you system. AND PLEASE REMEMBER NOT TO READ WHAT YOU WROTE!!! It will bring back all the feelings you had when it happened and there is no need for that. I saw in your other posting that no matter what anyone suggested you had a reason NOT to do it. You need to stop that if you want to feel better about yourself so that others can like you because you like yourself. If you are not going to do this for yourself (then to it to prove to her what she is missing.) Please remember you dont need money or material things to find a mate. What you do need is happiness within yourself and love to give.

awwwwww, I am so sorry to hear that! I had hoped this was going to be the best date of your life! don't give up! the right one is out there.. just wait and see!

Hello Filmbuff, I'm sorry that you have been disappointed in this way. That is so rude and inconsiderate! I'll apologize in advance for not having read through the other responses here before adding. While I generally read at least the first two pages before adding my own response, I'm just really short on time this morning, and I wanted to offer some support for you before I run out the door. I hope I don't duplicate anyone else's points. Did she at least call to let you know that she would not be able to make it? Or did she completely blow you off? Because, clearly the latter is worse than the former. In either case, I hope you do not allow yourself to 'own' another's shortcomings. Maybe she has a good excuse, maybe she doesn't. Either way, you are not to blame for another persons 'issues'. You committed to, and were prepared for the outing, which speaks volumes about you! Where the fact that the date didn't happen speaks volumes about her. In all likelihood, there IS someone out there for you, my friend. This gal may just not be 'the one'. Though, I would caution that if you allow this negative incident to cloud your being, you risk placing a neon sign on your forehead that reads "unapproachable". Which would only hurt you. If perspective is the bridge to reality, then it stands to reason that this girl is not 'the one'. Better to find out now, than five years from now. Each of our experiences better prepares us for the next. So, perhaps this experience is all about you defining what you 'don't want' in a relationship. And, that can be a powerful part of the manifestation process. Because, defining what we 'don't want' has a direct bearing on the process of defining what we really 'do want'. The best advice I can offer is to take a deep breath, exhale completely, and allow yourself this night to be woeful, angry, disappointed, frustrated, etc... Tomorrow morning, make sure you put a smile on your face, a song in your heart, and approach the new day, and each day forward, from the point of view that: "You are open, and ready to accept the goodness and bounty of the Universe. Your efforts to present love, kindness, sincerity, and joy to the world around you, will be rewarded in kind." In other words, be the magnet that will draw to you what you sincerely desire. Of course, there will always be a rusty nail that tries to stick to your magnet. Though, you have the power to decide which to keep, and which to wisk away. Eventually, 'the one' will be drawn to you, along with many other wonderful experiences and people. Even if you have to 'pretend' in the beginning. Eventually, the positive expression that we present to the outer world will begin to re-shape our own inner reality, as well. Is it easy? No, it isn't. It takes practice, and commitment. Though, the benefits are very great indeed! I hope that helps, even in the tiniest way. I feel so badly that your expectations have been dashed. You deserve much better! As you go through the day, know that I'll be sending lots of warm & fuzzies your way.

Been drinking sangria myself.... want to play?

Sorry to hear you had a bad experience with a woman. If you get busy and don't spend time waiting and wanting for the right one she will come when you least expect it. Believe me, that's how I got into the relationship I am in. I swore I was done with men after the last one up and took off with all my stuff and left my van sitting in the city with the keys in it. It wasn't only that that turned me off men, it had been coming for a long time because I always seemed to find the wrong ones. Then one day I met Jeremy and we hit it off really well. Ever since then we have been inseparable. We have been together nearly a year and neither one of us was looking for a companion at the time. I wish you the best in your future in whatever you choose.

Don't be a baby and give us this I'm done with women crap. Suck it up, stop looking at the wrong women, and the right ones will not treat you that way. I'm not saying that you are a bad person or have done anything wrong, but have you considered you might be choosing the wrong women for you and that's why they stand you up? On what basis do you pick prospective dates? A lot of women out there are looking for the "right guy" so if you're a nice guy I don't see any reason you wouldn't find a decent woman.