I loved a girl once,but she refused me,.........

you need to stop comparing her to the girl that you once loved and she didn't love you back. you will never have a good, healthy relationship with this other person if you continue to compare her to someone else. she isn't gonna like it and it will end up destroying your relationship with her. if you care about this girl your with now, then stop comparing her and start loving her for all of her good qualities and let her love you the way you are wanting to be loved. i know it can be hard or difficult to let go of the past, but sometimes you just have to or you are gonna end up alone. no one likes being compared to the past. let things go with this girl the way they can if you'll just stop living in the past and let it. good luck and keep us posted. God bless

Oh, I'm sorry to hear that news. then I cann't pity you after seeing your problem. the problem is yourself.

We can't help but compare if we really haven't gotten over the first break up. We end up thinking of the "what ifs" that could've happened if we ended up with the one that refused us. When you compare, who ends up weighing most in favor? Well, if your still disappointed on either out come of such comparisons, (are they on attributes of each girl?) between that girl that refused you and the one that your currently with, try to enumerate some reasons why you want to be with the first and also some reasons why you are still with the current. From that, you could see how determined you are or not and then, go with a decission which most seems favorable for everyone involved

i think that your first love will always be sweet. I dont think we should expect perfection, but if you are truly not happy then you never will be. I dont think we should settle for less than what makes us happy. It could take sometime, but find that match that you need to be happy before you try to settle down, people will just get hurt.

If you love her, Please!!!,dont compare her with no one,if you persit, that means that you dont love her. That is very clear. OK. Check yourself.

It is sick, and evil, to compare your current girlfriend to your old one. I would break up with her, until I got my mind off my old girlfriend.

Keep up the comparisons and you will lose this girl to. You are dwelling on a girl who dumped you, is she really worth it if she doesn't think you are worth it?

I think it is human nature to want what we can't have. That being said, forget your old girlfriend, she rejected you right? You now have a much better one, who hasn't, remember that. This girl wants to be with you. Done pine for someone who isn't worth it, you don't want to ruin the real relationship you have now.

You need to focus on the fact that your girlfriend loves you as opposed to the girl who rejected you. You should only find disappointment in the girl who missed out on being your girlfriend. Be happy with the girl you are with now. :)

Ask yourself first...why did you courted this new girlfriend of yours? Just because you want to forget the first one? If you love your current girlfriend, there is no reason why you should compare her to the first one. But if you don't really love her and you just to get over the first one, that is very unfair. Think it over carefully...if you don't really love your current girlfriend, set her free. But if you realized you love her, then forget about the first one. He refused you, right? So why bother thinking of her.

i know it is really not a easy job to get rid of this. i had an experience before. to me, if the previous one dont love you, just let go. hesitate for that is really stupid, it won't give anything but sad. just think about your current girl. when you can't help thinking about the old one, think about why she dumped you!

I am sorry to hear about that . In my opinion , you should first try to find the advantage of the girlfriend who you have now , the more you find it , the more you will love her. Then ,try to find the bad thing of the girl who had refused you before.Try about these two way , hope you can solve the problem :)

forget the past focus on what you have. past is already past that should be forgotten, accept the fact that she can never be yours and focus the girl that you have right now. Don't wait the time that you lose everything you have.