times have changed

i read your information written in the mylot. i know you are from philippine. i don't know which nation you are. but i think maybe you are a chinese philippine. i am a chinese from the people's republic of china. i konw chinese people always have many traditional rules.

hello desireo welcome to mylot. yes i think time had change but i hope your beliefs in praying like the pasiyam and 40 days didnt change. when i was still young i always have question on those beliefs that sounds pretty wierd for me. if my parents cant explain it to me properly then there is no reason for me to believe in it. i also rememebr my mom told me not to cut my nails when it is night then i told her why she just said it was badluck. i told her for example i am in America its night there when it is day in the philippines. so what time am i going to cut my nails then my mom will just turn her back and refuse to answer. back to the pamahiin for our love ones who has passed away, there are a lot of things that chnaged already but i think the prayers should stay the same for it is the most important one.

Yes, Times have changed so much, and much to our parents and grandparent's surprise, we are not following even half of what they call "beliefs". Times have changed, too many things have happened and there is a big gap between their generation and ours. Some of their beliefs, we have not even heard of. But i know some do exist still. those who lives in provinces might have had these still until now. Everyday, being practical is more more practiced.

My parents and grandparents up to other relatives still does some of those practices, but not for me. I don't really rely my life on such superstitions and old folk lores, I know that it doesn't credit anything thus only deprives us of things that we should be enjoying. Knowing that we are still here, alive and breathing is already a fact that we should make good use of very opportunity life has to offer for us.

same here. indeed times have changed. last good friday mar 21 was also my sisters birthday.she's married now. she and her family dropped by at our house that day and brought their videoke machine. that day was suppose to be holy and yet we couldn't help but enjoy the time singing together with the whole family. good friday for Catholics is suppose to be a quiet, contemplative day but there we we're singing our hearts out! we really had fun. my mother, a very religous woman, didn't reprimanded us except that she reminded us to keep it low and start at 3pm right after the reading of the Passion. it didn't bothered our conscience because we saw nothing wrong about singing and we sung worship songs too. but somehow we thought about what people might say but no one reacted adversely so far.

Some memory in living you that really menyenagkan yes so as you always be reminded always.

Personally I think that no matter what religion we are traditions change through the years. Not only is it ok to change as long as it doesn't bother our conscience but I think as long as our elders can deal with it it's ok.

Hi desireeo, many of the things you mention here are superstition, and belong in a different time. There are certain things that families do or don't do when one of their own make their transition, but it is, or should be out of respect for the one passed on. There is a mourning process for most people and for some it is longer then others. I don't think that it matters except to the people involved. Blessings.