Is it True...
By nilouette
@nilouette (632)
Philippines
42 responses
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
14 Mar 08
You can not generalize like, all people and all relationships are different. Out of 4 kids my parents had, 2 boys and 2 girls, none of us are even remotely close to my father.
My son is very close to me, I don't have a daughter. My ex has a total of 3 children, none of which are really close to him.
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
14 Mar 08
I should add, my husband has 2 adult sons, who are closer to him then their mother.
@Shellyshay (23)
• United States
1 Apr 08
My brothers and I are closest to my mother. It's a very sad situation. We didn't choose to not be close to my father. In fact I have tried multiple times to reach out to my father, but with no avail. I, being a daughter, always wanted to be a 'daddy's girl' so badly. When I was little, maybe I was, I can't quite remember. But my parents divorced when I was 11 and we all moved in with my mother. I grew very close to her and we're best friends. My brothers are also very close to my mother. All 3 of us kids have tried to reach out to my father. He complains that we never contact him. But there's only so many times you can try to reach out to someone with no response in return before you just give up :(
@p_vadla (1685)
• India
3 Apr 08
It is said so by many. In psychoanalysis terminology there are these two words that perhaps explain these attachments. They are: Oedipus complex - for mother & son; Electra complex- for girl & father. I do not know beyond this.
@alexigne (903)
• Philippines
3 Apr 08
I think it depend on the situation. If the mother is housewife and be with their son or daughter, they were closer to there mother. Because their father saw them on the afternoon only or sometimes not because they went home too late, they will give their child what they wants or somehow spoil. But those child are still afraid to their father because they don't know exactly the attitude of their father. Like my sister who only come to my father when they will buy on the store but if not, she will not.
Others female child are afraid to their mother because of its way of discipline.
For some cases it is, because of their gender. There are so many things that they can enjoy together.
I believe it was all depends on the characteristics of parents.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
1 Apr 08
Well in my case BOTH my kids were closer to me than their father and are closer to me than their stepfather BUT when their dad was alive he and my daughter were definately tighter than he and our son...My daughter is very rough and tumble though and our boy is more gentle and passive which to their dad was unacceptable...so naturally he favoured her....Growing up in my house though my brother was closer to his father and my sister was and still is closer to our mother..I'm not close with either of them..
@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
1 Apr 08
It can be true, it can be untrue. It depends on the people involved. I know both my son and my daughter are closer to me than to their father. Not that they don't love their father but they always come to me with their problems and never to him. They are now adults and they still both come to me more than their father, they say because I am easier to talk to and I don't judge them for anything they may have done. They have a good relationship with their father, too, just not when it comes to talking about personal stuff or advice about something.
@bongkarpasang (1377)
• Indonesia
17 Mar 08
hi. I think it's not always like that. as far as I know, the mother usually likes the child who resembles the father a lot, while the father likes his child who resembles the mother a lot. :) well, mostly female would resemble female better, and male would resemble male better so perhaps in most case, since the daughter resembles the mother more than the son, that's why the father likes the daughter more than the son.
and this might apply to the mother and the relationship between her and their children too. I think that's happen to a friend of my Dad, they have three sons and his wife spoiled their two sons who resembled the father very much and this father spoiled the youngest son who resembled his wife very much. ^^
@Michaelone (90)
• China
21 Mar 08
I don't think so.I'm a boy.I and my sisters are close to our mother.Because our father is strict.but we respect our father.Many people around me have the similar feelings.
@tessah (6617)
• United States
20 Mar 08
i dont think it really matters the gender of the child very much, i think it mainly has to do with the parents participation and how much effort they put into the relationship itself. not having sons, but two daughters, my girls have always been closer to me. not that they arent close to their father, but he works outside the home, and i work here, so i simply have more time to spend with them. im sure itd be the same if we had boys as well. situations reversed, if i were the one to work outside the home, and he were here, theyd be closer to him.
@bmwgem (34)
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1 Apr 08
All situations are different. There is a saying that goes 'a son is a son till he gets a wife a daughter is a daughter for life'. I am closer to my mum and my husband is closer to my parents than he is his own although he does see and get along with his own it's just that he's had issues in the past with them and gets along better with mine.
@histechnoangel (356)
• United States
15 Mar 08
I dunno really.. my mom and I are really close and I am female. My son and I though are inseparable (he's only 11 months old).. he's definitely a mommy's boy, although he craves daddy time a lot as well.
@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
15 Mar 08
I believe it is true. Girls usually marry guys that look like their fathers and boys marry girls that look like their mothers. Mind you in my case, my hair has turned from dark brown/auburn to white blond and I have gained weight so I cannot say that my older son's wife and my younger son's future wife looks like. It is just that the father is the girls's ideal, as is the mother the son's ideal at which they pick whom they love in later on in life.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
15 Mar 08
Yes, it is very much true that a son feels more connected to her mother and a daughter feels more attached to her father. It normally happens in every family. A child may be attached to both his parents, but a son's inclination would be more towards a mother. Have not you head the saying - 'Mama's boy'....LOL!
I feel more connected to my mother since my childhood. I feel that I connect with her in a better way than my father. We have good understanding of each other. Even if I do not utter a word, my mother would understand what is going on in my mind. She always thinks about my welfare first than about hers.
@anniepa (27955)
• United States
15 Mar 08
It is true, in some cases at least, that there is a special bond between mother and son and father and daughter but there is also a different kind of bond between mother and daughter and father and son. In my opinion and in my experiences you really can't characterize one as closer than the other, they're just a different kind of closeness if that makes any sense.
Annie
@kat_princess (1470)
• Philippines
15 Mar 08
They say it's true but I don't believe in that because I was never close to my dad.
@chellekellam (146)
• United States
15 Mar 08
It is in my case. I have two sons (ages 14 and 16 months) and one daughter (age 11). While I am close with my daughter, she is daddy's girl. My oldest son is my best friend. He is extremely protective of me and we can talk about anything. My youngest son is only 16 months old, but he is mommy's boy. There could be 20 people in the livingroom playing with him and if I walk out of the room for a minute, he runs to the baby gate and throws a fit until I come back in and pick him up.