Ever feel like your just running out of patience for EVERYTHING ??
By Sissygrl
@Sissygrl (10912)
Canada
March 13, 2008 7:43am CST
I keep having to take a deep breath and telling myself i need to settle down!! I have been up since 5 am with some major back pain, and i am only one week away from my c section! I'm trying to not let my hormones get the best of me but holy crows its hard with two 19 month olds running around here!! They were both up before they were ready to wake up cause my friend had to go to work SUPER early this morning. So they are pretty cranky and that is making me cranky!!
What do you do when you need to remain calm on the outside ? They are getting away with a lot of crap today cause i'm better off just ignoring those little things they do they are not supposed to... like.. fighting over toys, throwing the cup on the floor. Repeating themselves 50 times.. Oh my gosh. that sort of thing doesn't usually bother me at all, i just tell them not to do it and distract them with something else. but today i just gotta turn my head!! (mostly so they dont see me mouthing curse words!!!) LOL ok. i feel a little better after letting that out!
Anyone else please tell me you've gone through this with either stress or pregnancy.. i dont care why just tell me you have!!!! I need to relate to people here!!
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15 responses
@lizzy1955 (37)
• United States
13 Mar 08
I am having twins in two months and boy do I know what you mean. I have an 8 year old so it is not as hard as two 19mo. olds but I still get in that my whole body hurts and all I want to do is go to bed so do what ever you want to do mode. I don't remember being this tired or having this many aches and pains with my first baby but my doctor says that is normal. All I can say is hang in there and know your not alone!
@lizzy1955 (37)
• United States
14 Mar 08
Sissy,
Yes I know I am going to have a busy time of it, but I am looking forward to it as well. I am having a boy and a girl which is nice, and even though I know I am going to be running around like a chicken with my head cut off I think it will be a great experience.
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@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
14 Mar 08
Hi Sissy I tried responding to this discussion earlier but you know it would take. So I hope your day is going alittle better now. I dont have children so I couldnt give you any advise. But in my family we have alot of kids. And when they start up we just ignore them. Sometimes it works and other times well not so good. I hope you doing okay sweetie. Hugs!
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@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
16 Mar 08
I am SO done babysitting now, so that's better.. I seem to have more patience for one kids then two. lol i guess it helps when she doesn't have anyone to fight with. eheh they really are starting to beat eachother up over toys! The girl i babysat used to be the one to do most of the hitting and toy stealing.. now it seems my girl learned it just as The other girls parents have successfully taught her to behave better! I better get on the dicipline bandwagon. Timeouts in the corner!
@mummymo (23706)
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13 Mar 08
Oh I definitely have and without the added stress of being very heavily pregnant! Good grief when I was that far on with my youngest my other half breathing the wrong way was enough to send me into orbit! lol I think you are amazing to be able to keep as calm as you have with 2 young toddlers! Keep your chin up sweet sis you are doing great! xxx
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@CanadaGal (4304)
• Canada
13 Mar 08
I get into moods like that all the time. For me, it's usually associated with pms, and my kids get the brunt of it. I'll snap for no particular reason, other than I just feel like it.
It's been over 7 years since I was last pregnant, and I've purposely blocked out a lot of the things I did, said, and felt. But I know I was miserable, especially in the 3rd trimester when I was always so uncomfortable.
((((hugs))))
One more week!!! And you'll have your next beautiful little girl in your arms!!! 
@AICIRT81 (847)
• United States
13 Mar 08
I had back labor with my son. It was horrible. The last few weeks I had no patience for anything or anybody. Maybe give a friend or family member a call and see if they can help out the little guys so you can take a break. Hang in there mommy. One more week.
@jhoannejoj (963)
• Philippines
13 Mar 08
I guess everyone experienced having a hard day, who isnt? Just three days ago, I was so ill-tempered that every lil things I noticed and almost at the edge of breaking out. My day started so badly since I had only five hours of sleep because I got so engrossed in mylot a night before and not noticed that its too late already to go to sleep. I had no choice but to get up and go to work. While I was so busy working, my sister called up and told me that our friends visa was just approved. I got so worried and all for my boyfriend since this month is supposedly the result of his visa application should come out. It turned out, our friend who applied later than him recieved an approval on that day. I immediately called my boyfriend. His phone was out of reach so I tried his home phone number but it was so busy. I was so pissed off until I got him on the line. He explained that the old phone his using had a battery problem since his new phone was been lost a day ago.
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@jhoannejoj (963)
• Philippines
14 Mar 08
Hi sissygrl i wasnt able to finish my post last night for some reason that I have to log off thus I posted my my response even if it was unfinished. As i have said I was so angry at that time that when me and my boyfriend talked I did not noticed that I was screaming. Good thing I was in the toilet so no one heard me. My boyfriend was so shocked why I was so angry at him and he cannot figured out the reason. I even ended the call without telling him so which is so not of me. It was my first time to be so angry at him. Later I did realize my stupidity, why I let my worries eaten the whole of me. I should not wallow myself in the problem. I composed myself and call him back again, I asked an apology for such behavior and explained that I was just so upset with the processing of his visa. Hope next time I can control my emotion better.
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
14 Mar 08
lol..sounds like my usual day!!!
I have too much on my hands and I find myself losing patience every day now! I had my routine all fixed great and then my older son goes and breaks his leg! Now he's home full time...has to be carried around andhe keeps calling for every little thing....I have the work at home to get done...and a 15 month old who is underfoot pretty much all the time...and cope with the older one's studies too. I'm ready to throw in the towel and scream!
Sometimes, I just mentally walk away and meditate or do some breathing exercises in the balcony. It helps me to handle the moment.
But I do snap when I don't have the time to do that either.
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
15 Mar 08
lol...thanks!
I just realized that the first two years of my kids' lives has been hectic (not so much with the first because I had to manage just one and he was a perfect routine baby...but it still was hard).
Another couple of months to go and I should be home free...lol
I will be getting a live-in maid...and start work (where the little one comes with me)...and I'll have all my work planned out....with time for each of the kids.
It's just the time till I find the right maid.
See, today...I'm all calm (one of them is sleeping and the other is dancing..lol).
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I can imagine.. I hope i gain my patience back after i have the baby. If i do i will try to lend you some
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
14 Mar 08
Exactly, somedays are not my days and I would have anything and everything to make things worse. Even the smoothest of things would not work okay. I would fall, trip, toss, spill and on the top of it that would be a bad hair day!! I do not know what to do except frowning to myself.
You take care hun.
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
13 Mar 08
I have been like this in the past.
was way too cranky i have no patience for people, for my mom, my brothers... and they can't even start a conversation with me as i was wayyy to easy to get angry in the past where i have been so stressed.
i have been so stressed at work that even at home i dont even want to talk with the people here at home.
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@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Mar 08
well just take it easy..it is but normal to undergone such situation knowing that your still have toddlers and preggy at the same time...i just can imagine what youve been through..since i was ..i mean i experienced all those things..just keep breathing
..and patience...
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@sweetaspie52 (2359)
• United States
13 Mar 08
yes I have them days where I just want to pull out my hair for example : my son has had my car in a garage to get fixed because of the left wheelbearing was bad granted it took sometime to get fixed but his partner kept calling over there to see if they were done working on it because she wanting him to put new spark plugs in her car which could had waited until today to do granted it takes time to put in the wheelbearing and they had to wait on some parts to get in because they had to order them She calls me complaing about him never do anything for her and it really gets on my nerves she really has a very loud voice and you can hear her from a block away. I just want to throw her as far as I can at times she always calls me and tells me what he is doing my son is 28 years old and I do not live with him why does she call me to gripe about him?To answer my own question I really don't think that she is happy unless she is b-tching about something
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
15 Mar 08
Honey your pregnant and you're allowed to feel like this, especially so close to the end. To be honst my last two pregnancies everything bothered me. I mean everything. I so wanted to just scream bloody blue murder. But I knew it was just stress and wanting it to be over and the pain and just everything. I would listen to some music to relax or read a book or I would wrap the table in paper that comes on a roll from the art store and let the kids draw all over that paper. It was a way to keep them out of my hair and out of trouble. LOL!!!!
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Mar 08
Hello Sissygrl I remember feeling so completely invisible at eigh and three quarters months when I was sitting with a bad backache waiting to be called by the nurse for my appointment with my ob gyn. One by one other similar but looked smaller then me women were called and went in and sooner or later came out. Then I noticed that altho I was slated to be seen at ten oclock it was nearly noon and I the invisible blimp with the now really awful backache was the only one left in the waiting room. So the next nurse who went by and did not see me, I tripped, no not really but I did sort of yell hey I am not invisible. and my appt was for ten o clock. The nurse turned and then really looked at me, and she said. Oh my I am so sorry I just did not see you. Come right this way. I was too nonplussed and hurt just too much to think of a suitable thing to say. Later I thought of all sorts of come backs I could have used. Two days later I finally went into labor. My thoughts were how can a hugely pregnant woman become invisible.
@Gesusdid (1676)
• United States
14 Mar 08
ive been going in and out of stress for the past 2 years , hell on my 20th birthday i got a GREY HAIR on my head like i was teed off to the highest of high !!! what a amazing gift ive just gave myslef right ...but really tho now i still og thru with stress like seems lately i strictly hate it when i cant get my dailies done..like anyone in my way that keeps me from doing it , i want to throw them into a wall or curse them out..but to get past the stress i think of the looney toons you know where they shot someone in face and black smoke will be all over , ..it makes you laugh but you really wish you could do it
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@moneyandgc (3428)
• United States
14 Mar 08
I think I run out of patience on a daily basis! Being patient is one of the things I am working on. I literally have almost none when I am under stress or have had a bad day.
When I am pregnant and my hormones are all out of whack it is even worse.
I do what you do when every little thing bothers me, I ignore it. May not be the best way to handle things but it beats the alternative...blowing up!
When that happens my husband is usually the one to get all of my frustration. Then he is standing there with a look of, "What just happened here? What did I do?"
I am trying though.
