Do you think your kids should WANT for some thing?

I don't think it's wrong to get them little things now and then but I really think that if it's a high dollar item they need to work towards it...save up their allowance for it. If they get everything handed to them, they have no appreciation for any of it. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

Kids should want for material things. That's part of growing up. No kid should get every single thing that they want or mention. When a kid gets a toy it is used for a little while and they end up either breaking it or getting sick of it after a week. I sure can't say I have everything I want cause if I did I'd have a load of cars/trucks/suvs,a million video games, all the latest video game systems (which I kind of have already but they're my boyfriends and so much more I can't even think of. It's very important for kids to learn at a young age that you have to be responsible and know about how to spend money well. I was always taught that. I bought my first car at 16 for the most part. I paid half and my dad paid half. That's a lot of money to come up with at 16. It did have problems so I fixed all the problems it had. Like tires, headgasket (not cheap), I put stereo equipment in it and a lot of things I can't really remember it's been 4 years now. I don't have the car anymore either. I'm paying for the car I have now as well. It's only right. I'm not complaining about it I never would. I'm paying for a lot of things right now most 20 year olds would never have to. Such as many bills my ex racked up in my name. The one thing I did want my new boyfriend bought me. It was a digital camera and I never asked for it. I just talked about how I would like one someday and I was so shocked and very happy on Christmas. I've never had any guy treat me so good and actually buy me something nice.

I think that they should have wants - if everything is granted to them in an instant they will not learn patience, perseverance, discipline or even hope and longing.... they will not get that satisfaction of getting a long hoped for thing - perhaps a thing that they saved and saved for... that accomplishment gives a great sense of achievement and I think that is healthy.

Yes I think kids should want for something so that they can earn it, not just given to them, so that they can learn the values of life. When the kids are always given things they don't appreciate them like they would if they had to earn them. And when things aren't apprecaited they tend to get thrown around and broken since the kids knows it can be replaced without having to work for it themselves. So I think parents that give their kids everything are not doing them any good, not learning the values of life.

I agree! I think kids should want for something. How else will they learn that you won't always get everything you want. That you have to work for it. If you teach them that they can have everything they want, they only have to ask for it, they will go into the real world and be extremely disappointed and thrown off, possibly incensed, the first time someone tells them no. I have seen and known people who have always gotten everything they ever asked for and they are the most miserable bunch of people to be around because they don't deal with rejection well at all.

i'm not a parent yet ,when i was young ,i asked for thing from my parents little times ,if i asked, that i wanted the thing very much and it's resonable ,so every time ,they would give me what i want, i think that ,if your kids want something very much and he or she is resonable, you should give them ,because if you don't, they will hate you very much, and some more times later ,you and them may become enemies. your relation will be very serious. that's so bad.

life is about wanting, but i think we (everyone) should learn to work for what you want. rather it's in word or deed. I don't give my children anything. they have to earn it the extras. you don't teach them life lessons if you just hand over everything they want. there isn't anything wrong with them doing something extra to get the things they want

It took me so long as a parent to figure this out, but yes kids should hear 'no' and 'not now' on occasion. I had my eldest very young, and I heard from so many people how I wasn't going to be a good parent or able to provide correctly for him because of my age. I took that as a challenge to show everyone how wrong they were. I took great pride in not only providing the basics, but providing every toy, brand of sneakers, and junk he could possibly want. He was such an easy-going and happy kid that also made it easy to really spoil him. It wasn't until he got older that I started to see that I wasn't teaching him my true values or to value anything, if everything is handed to you then you know another new thing will be handed to you when this one breaks. He's mostly a good kid don't get me wrong, but he's 19 now and has a family of his own- and he's still so much more self-centered than I think is right. He still wants to have the latest and greatest gizmos, and doesn't value his stuff how I think he should.

Oh I'm all for kids wanting things. When we adopted the boys we cleared 3 of our 5 acres so they wouldn't get lost in the woods, we dug a huge pond so they could fish, we bought them an above the ground pool (the biggest one we could find), we bought them go-karts so that they would have transportation to visit with the new friends they would surely make in the neighborhood, we bought them cell phones so that we could call them and they could call us while they were not at home, we bought them the basic toys like footballs, baseballs etc, we bought them clothes and school supplies. Now they only get extra things on holidays. We of course still buy them clothes and school supplies when they are needed. They get 5 dollars a week allowance and if they want video games or something that they are not willing to wait until their birthday or christmas to get, they can buy it with their allowance. I want my kids to know the value of a dollar.

absolutly,That's not health.people should not give whatever the child want.Everbody have desire including the adults,let alone the child.everyone should try to control the desire.Only by hard work can one get what they want.so try to teach your child and let it know the value of work and the value of money.

I think it is very important that children should want for some things in life. In adult life nothing is just handed to us for nothing (well most of us). Its not a good lesson to teach your child. In the long run it produces selfish adults. I make a point of not buying my daughter something everytime we go to the shop and if she has a tantrum she has tantrum.