how to happy everyday,please tell me

China
March 14, 2008 12:12am CST
Hello,good everyone!I have lots of problems in my heart!The most inportant problem is how to happy everyday?! I am a college boy age21 but i find i do not have a really happyday in my view! some thins that other people do not think important also make me not happy,for example,my girl friend has something not satisfied with me ,i am not happy ,and this bad mood will continue at least 5days,maybe you think i am not a good man because in your view i do not have lots lfconfidences and do not like hero! i agree too!so i want some people can give me some advise !I am loooking forward to your early replay!Thank you !
4 responses
@vera5d (4005)
• United States
17 Mar 08
being happy is a state of mind and not wanting anything else...there is nothing in this world that will make you happy except yourself. Something to try is to get rid of all negativity. This can be hard at first, but keep practicing. No matter what happens, try to find the positive in it. Maybe you end up waiting in a long line. Instead of complaining about having to wait, think about how great it is to have a chance to just stand still for a little while and think. Another good thing to do is keep some sort of journal for working out all of your feelings. the more you write, the more you will understand. You don't have to keep anything you write, you can jot it down and throw it out. Just writing it itself helps. The next thing to do is try to meet as many happy people you can and surround yourself with them. Watch funny movies or comedians to make you laugh. Smile at random strangers. Do nice things for people, like hold a door open for them, help them carry stuff, get the a cup of coffee, etc. When you give to others, even in a very small way, it will help you stop thinking about yourself and your unhappiness. If you find yourself being unhappy for an extended time - over 2 weeks or so, you may want to try counseling - it is a great way to work through problems out if you're willing to try it. You can talk to anyone - a religious person, a school counseler, a therapist, etc. Also important is to make sure you are taking care of yourself - eat well, lots of protein & veggies. They say if you eat salmon 3 times a week you will be happier...Don't load up on sugar or caffeine or other junk food. Try to eat at least 3 good meals everyday, Sometimes a better mood is as simple as eating right. Good luck in being happier - I hope this helps!
• China
17 Mar 08
I think I have the same problem with you at this period. But I do believe being happy is a easy thing if you want to. One of my experience told me that work/study hard would give you what you want. So this is the usual way to get happiness. I've tried once,it is really worked. Now I got what I want through my hard learning. Got a good job, can communicate with others easily.(Co's I'm a shy girl when I was young. But not now,you see!) uh? At the same time I'm trying to get more chance to learn to make progress. Hope I can do it well, and also you can find you happiness in your everyday life!
@NCgirl (487)
• Philippines
14 Mar 08
To be happy is a choice. Learn to appreciate everything around you. Be thankful, that you a beautiful day today, you have your family and friends, and lot of people love you. Forget those people who don't like you, you don't need them to make you upset. Appreciate nature, go mountain climbing or go to a place where you can see nature at its best. Play on some good music, songs that'll make you relax and think of the happiest day of your life. goodluck..and never forget to smile :-)
@Daisyshu (19)
• China
14 Mar 08
Being happy is very easy. When I get up, the news through the TV set greet me and tell me this is a beautiful day. I brush my teeth and smile at the figure in the mirror, which makes me fresh. A good beginning is half done. It seems that you have a lot of problems which need to be solved. However, in my opinion, those problems are nothing compared with the ones you might meet when you graduate from college. College life is very beautiful and you should enjoy it. Please be satisfied with what you own. I might have said a lot of nonsense. OK, then what you could do? Study well, of course. Make a variety of friends, not only girlfriends. Take part in the parties, contests and clubs to enjoy all kinds of atmosphere. Have a part-time job if possible.