Help please I am 19 years old. I plan on getting married on July fourh. Tips?

danzabelleza, you are young and still a teenager. Can you cope with marital stress?, your husband to be is a legal US resident which is another threat to the wedding, have you worked out his resident permit? it is very important. This guy of yours, do you know him very well, i hope he not online friend? it is very dangerous to marry a stranger. i am sorry if i hurt you, are your parents aware of this arrangement? they must consent to the proposals and arrangement. Buying dresses, rings and all that are not a problem because are available everywhere and online shops. You said you are a virgin, how did you know? it is only an expert can prove that, you might put your finger and say it is tight but an expert will detect if you are complete virgin, partial virgin, has been deflowered. hope i am making sense, answer these questions and think about the cost of any mistake, there might be any second chance for you. it is better you did not allow the four letter word called love to decieve you. look before you leap. good luck.

Congrats on getting married! It's a really exciting time in your life! As for your questions - a lot of couples that I know went wedding ring shopping together. You can either pick out matching rings, or get something completely different - it's a matter of personal preference. As for ordering dresses, I browsed for ideas online and then purchased my dress in a store. I had my bridesmaids dresses sewn by a seamstress because I couldn't find quite what I wanted in the stores. One resource that I wish I had when I got married is the following: http://iceisnice.blackbeltcomputerservices.ca/wedding.html It offers lots of tips on how to save money during wedding planning. Another really good resource is www.theknot.com They have lots of photos to get ideas from, and also have a discussion forum to ask questions and get advice from other brides and newlyweds. Good luck with the wedding planning!

Don't worry about all those people saying you should wait. I got married at 20 and its been 4 years of bliss. When you met the person you are ment for it doesn't matter how old you or he is. Also let me say I was 20 my husband was 28 when we got married. We had our first child when I was 23 and he was 31 its not that bad. Us women are the ones that have to be young because we are the one that is more active in the childs life. Its inevitable. Anyway What kind of budget are you looking for? When I read 4th of july the first thing that came to mind was a wedding I seen on TV some where. The theme was playing cards. They didn't want to spend a ton of money but because they had so many people and it was there wedding they wanted it to be perfect. They hung playing cards from fishing string from the ceilings down, poker chips too. They had red table cloths along with black accents. White and red flowers were the center peices, with playing cards sticking out here and there. Poker chips were on the table instead of confiti. There was white christmas lights hung every where. The party favors were a deck of cards for each family. They put regular mailing lables on them with there names and date of wedding. They had red, black and white napkins (bought from the dollar store) They had bubbles for after the ceremony. (again dollar store) It was all finger foods appitizer types, pretzels, chips and dip, and little sandwiches, I think they had more but can't remember. Anyway it all turned out beautiful. GOOD LUCK

danzabelleza, i checked your photos on your mylot blog and found you are such a beautiful girl, and i'm so surprised that you have already planned to get married because you are so young.Did you have a full consideration before you made this desicion, and what about your parent's point of view? Do they agree with that? Getting married is a thing of a life time and matters with your happiness, you should take it seriously.However,if you are sure he is the man for you ,just do it.

Since you believe in God, why do you pray for HIM? Your difficulty can not be sloved by man, but HE can help you. Though I got married, I haven't a good idea for you, just praying for you.

uhmm.for me..your too young to get married..its too early for you.there are so many disadvantages of early marriage.But it depends upon you.if you are really sure that you can handle a relationship then go for it.But think twice before doing something.Remember,your still in a part of enjoying TEENage life.Its only once in a lifetime.But if you really love that person and your hundred% sure that,that person will be a good husband as well as a good father and provide.Then go

i think 19 year old is too young to get marriage. i would suggest you to be little more mature to get marriage. i think with age comes the maturity hiow to deal with life.i think it will help you in marriage, family life and all.

The age difference when you started dating was illegal in many states. The fact he has dated you for 4 years and has not yet beocome a legal citizen here or a legal immigrant should cause you concern. Do you really know this man? how much do you know about his birth country? He could already be married. Many young men come to the states to make way for the day they will bring their family here and then when they get here and find out how hard it is and how lonely they feel well...Please be careful! I know I am assuming a lot as you really did not give emnough info here about him but that was the first thought I had. My daughter married on July 4th in her fiancee's grandparents back yard. The bouquet were fresh flowers picked from the garden by his littel sister.

You may not like to hear what I am going to say. To get married at 19 is too early because you are still a teenager and inmature in almost all aspects of life. At your age you should enjoy life to the fullest but maintain to be a virgin until you get married to the right guy. I don't mean that you will not enjoy life after getting married however it is different when you are still single. You have to remember that if you get married at the age of 19, how many years will you be a wife and a mother? Don't you think you will envy your friends enjoying themselves partying and have fun whereas you are confine to your home and husband? Anyway, the decision is yours and you know your life better. It's just that I don't want you to regret later. To be a wife and parent is not and never an easy task especially your commitment is different. You have to shoulder everything yourself. I have seem his pictures in your "mylot" website. He is a real gentlemen and good looking and that's why you like him. Anyway, can both of you wait for a couple of years to get married? All the best to both of you.

hey you look really hot in your pics...your spouse is a real blessed guy...but why are you getting married so soon....don't you want to do something before marriage??

In my opinion, you are very young to get married...but it seems that you really love this guy, well then marry him...now, about your question, maybe you need a wedding planner to make the occasion in order... As you have stated that you are the fist one in your family to marry.

you don't need to be married at 19-22 because you are ot ready for it when you turn 24 you will be better at that age. I will suggest you go to school and end higher degrees like masters , BA, PHD get married after that life will be romantic.

congrats. You are young and may miss out on a lot of life like everyone on here said but it is your life and you two have been togather for a few years now. I want to first off wish you the best on your wedding and your happily ever after. this is your wedding and you can do it how ever you like. Him and his best man can go pick out tuxs while you and your brides maids go have a day to pick up wedding supplies or get a spa day. You can even go with him if you want to but it kind of ruins the surprise of seeing how handsome he looks as you walk down the aisle. If you don't have rings and you want to pick them out togather that is also your choice. Do you want him to surprise you with a ring or do you want to go as a couple to get rings that you both like and that fit? You have to find a place to do the wedding and reception, minister, caterer, music (live music, or DJ), flowers, decorations, pick a wedding cake, make or have invitations made, or you can hire a wedding planner. It all depends on your budget and the type of wedding you want. I suggest spending more for an awesome honeymoon than on a wedding. But I am on a limited budget so I did a package deal that included a honeymoon. I did mine at a bed and breakfast. I got two nights in a victorian room with spacious hot tub, a wedding with ten guest, cake, toasting glasses, snacks, music that I brought played, minister, carriage ride, dinner for two, and some odds and ends to complete my wedding for 800.00. I could have done a bigger wedding with more people and added photographer, DJ, caterer, upgraded my flowers and cake but it would have cost more and I didn't really want a big wedding. If you want a destination wedding and want it to be just you and your husband check our couples.com I would have gotten married there but I wanted my childern to be a part of my wedding. Best of luck to you and I hope your wedding is everything you want it to be.

If I were you, I would be very careful about this. My honest opinion is that you would be making a mistake, however not knowing you obviously this is an unfair and biased opinion. Think about it this way- you're only 19, which I hope doesn't offend you but quite frankly, you don't have all that much life experience. You have many many years ahead of you and you gain nothing by making such a life-altering decision so early in your adulthood. If I were you, I would wait a few years at least to make sure he's the right man for you, that the two of you can coexist with one another through whatever life throws at you, and that your life is stable and satisfying, before making a final decision.