How many kids is too much?

Hi winterose! my mother, she have 11 brother-sister! for me it's too many. thank's god i just have 2 brothers.

Well I have reached the ripe old age of 40 without having kids and I don't intend to. It's a decision I made with my hubby as we married 4 years ago and have left it rather late to start having them now. I think people should only have as many kids as they are able to support. I worked for a training company trying to get long term unemployed people back into work and used to get so mad that people were having 2, 3, 4 or more kids that they couldn't afford to feed themselves, so in effect, my tax money is feeding their kids and all they would do is whine that the council won't move them out of a 3 bedroom house into a bigger house. If you can't support your own kids, stop popping them out! Two of my close friends have 3 kids each. He is a director of a company and his wife works part time but gets paid very well so they can easily support their kids financially and they want to send them to private schools, it's all well and good. His sister who is also a good pal of mine has 3 kids, is separated and is struggling to cope financially but is running herself ragged in the mean time trying to make sure they have interests outside of school such as dance classes for her daughter, and cricket, violin and football after school clubs for her lads... If I had had kids in the past, I would have stuck with 2, like my parents did :)

Well for me 1 it one to many. I don't ever want to have kids. And I also will never had kids. I think kids are fine and all, but I don't want any of my own. thanks

I do not think I could determine what is too much for anybody . My mother is the eldest of 19, and that was not too many - it was just right :) many of my friends have 10 children and a few of my friends have 12 and 13 I would have loved a big family, but God has chosen otherwise for us. perhaps I will have many grandchildren one day :)

Back in the day they needed more kids to help them around the farm so its easier for all of them to live, Now we dont need as much and frankly its better that way because we are already over populating the world. NOt that i love babys and want to have 3 of my own, with one step kid. Its just if everyone was having 10 kids agian imagine how cramped we would be. It is also more money orianted now instead of find for yourselfs, so its harder to feed more people unless you were rich.

For me I have one, and one will keep you busy for a lifetime! so for me 2 would be the limit! I admire people that have more, I'd like to have more than that, but I couldnt afford it nor do I think my patience could go there lol.

well it depends on what kind of people you are . some people say that kids are the gift of god so the more you get the better is the grace of god . for them nothing is too much. and but there are people who do not want any kids at all. and for some like me one or two is maximum

One is too many for me, honestly. I did not want children but it happened and I chose to do the right thing. My mom had four children and I do not know how she raised all of us. It is very expensive and time consuming.

Why do you have the opinion that 4 or more is too many? Who's place would it be then to "control" population? Would you then also decide there should be more boys than girls? Are they caring for their children? Are they attentive parents? Or do you or "they" decide these parents have to be told how to raise their children as well? I think one needs to be careful how much control we give away to others. Opinions are one thing, control over one's personal decisions is quite another.

I think 2 is enough. Today, we must be practical. We must only raise as many kids as we can support. I think it's criminal to have too many children that you cannot support. You are endangering the kids' futures.

I think that having two kids is perfect. But our government don't allow the people like me have more than one kid.What a pity. So I think I will just have only one kid.And he/she will may feel lonely.

I think life style change and needs for kids are much higher now only because there is alot more out there life was simplier and technology like we have today wasnt introduce to kids so having a doll or a simple toy was fine....I think people who actually and generally like and would enjoy having a big family cannot beacause things are so expensive...I think its personal preferences how many kids you have and i dont think its rite when poeple comment about women who have many kids....As if she an object rather then a person...For example my friend has 6 kids not out of choice but because her contraceptive injection failed for her and she doesnt agree with abortion..for a small hand full of poeple its not outta choice having a larger family!!

Kids are a hand full I have 2 under the age of 3 they drive me nuts but i love them more than anything.I might have 1 more in a few years but that will definitly be it.

Well ... I'd have to say if they are anything like I was, one is already too many. XD I know I was "something else".

I want to have kids and raise them and teach them things, and I think too many is based on your own desires and financial security If someone has the money to raise children and give them the things the NEED then more power to them. As of now I want three two of my own and I want to adopt one.

it depends how many one can afford. i must say well afford. nowadays everything is so costly. its good to have children how many you can very well afford.still i think more than 2 is too many.

I personally think one is too many in this day and age. Kids equal frustration, tension, and a whole lot of money spent. Right now in my life I'm pretty sure I don't want to have any kids but theres a good chance that could change. However, I do think if I were to have one I would adopt, It makes sense that in this time when so many kids go unsupported and are in poverty because their biological parent probably would not have been able to support them to adopt rather than bring more kids into an already overpopulated world. I do think people need to be more conscious of how many kids they really can support before having them. I'm sure multiple kids make life wonderful, but if you aren't going to be able to give them a suitable lifestyle its not going to end up that wonderful. With things getting increasingly expensive and our resources becoming increasingly scarce, I don't necessarily think its the best time to bring kids into the world anyway.

i don't have kids and i havn't get marry yet.i don't want a kid for my own atually,but it's infringe the tradition of our culture,and my perents will reject me to do this.so i have to have one.i don't know how to raise a kid,take care of child is a big job to me,but anyway my perents will help me to do this.i don't have enough money for myself,it's really disaster to me to send most of my money to the kid because i have the responsibily to give him the best care.

i have to kids and dont want anymore i think 2 is enough for me but people have there own opnions

I think your right. I have two boys and it is soooooooooooo scared how their life is going to be in about 10 to 15 years. The world is scary right now,why have so many kids that you can't keep up with what they are doing. And give them all the time that they need to stay on the right track. One or two is great,