Do homeless people in the street bother you?
By cmofi123
@cmofi123 (344)
United States
March 14, 2008 12:43pm CST
Once I was in McDonald's eating, when a homeless women came and asked me for a quarter. I tooked out wherever change I had in my pockets and gave it to her. She stand there and looked at me and said, "This is not a quarter." I had given her a dime, nickel and some pennies. (I start thinking:You are asking for free money and you want exactly for what you asked for)
So, I try to take the money out of her hands, but she left.
When I go to Wholefoods (market) they are asking for money and if you don't give them, they look at you all bad and start talking s@#%6.
I work for my money every day and if I don't want to give some I think that is ok.
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19 responses
@jillbeth (2705)
• United States
14 Mar 08
I do feel sorry for the homeless. We live in a small town, we don't have homeless on the streets like many cities. If I were in a city and were approached, I would probably give some if I had it. Unfortunately, many homeless people are mentally ill and couldn't hold a job and keep a house even if they could find one! And how are you supposed to get a job, even if you are mentally and physically capable, when you have one dirty set of clothes and nowhere to clean up?
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@chpro1211 (31)
• United States
15 Mar 08
Sometimes they do, and sometimes I wish can do something to help them. There is probably more on the street than we really see. I figure it is probably more children and their that are homeless than we really know.
@revdauphinee (5703)
• United States
14 Mar 08
i once had a panhandler begging out side mc Donalds and i felt sory for him so I added an exra meal to my order to give to him upun when he cussed me out cause i gave him food and not money Needless to say i dont do that anymore!
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@bcote212 (1112)
• United States
14 Mar 08
I live in Baltimore city, and there are a lot of homeless people here. Shows like THE WIRE are not completly fiction. In fact the show was filmed right here. There are so many homeless people here, and I just dont understand it. Its sad because here if you give one homeless person money, you will have a crowd of homeless people around you with their hands out. I am lucky that I have a good job, that pays me very well. I have a nice home in the "exclusive" part of town. I wish that there was more that I can do, but if I get $5 out then all the homeless on the streets will crowd me and leave me broke.
@axle_shockhits (460)
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14 Mar 08
i have never given money to the homeless. what i do when visiting the city is buy a coffee/burger and give that over. most times they spend cash on drink and i will not subsidise that.
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@ebberts (784)
• United States
15 Mar 08
I have offered work to a homeless man, he said he was disabled and couldn't work. I gave him a couple of bucks. They don't have to look disabled to be so. We have bought food and give it to the homeless, and have also given them a few dollars. What they do with it is up to them. I did what I could. We have also took in a man that was living in a car. We became good friends and have been for about 23 years. We love him dearly. He was just down on his luck. You never know, what chain of events caused a person to be homeless. Alot of people are just a paycheck away from being homeless. My family doesn't have alot but we are so fortunate to have what we do and I am very thankfull.
@dolce_vita78 (8062)
• Philippines
15 Mar 08
My heart goes to these homeless people who are out there begging. I feel bad and sorry for them. I have experienced what you have experienced a couple of times before. I don't understand why people beg and complain when they are given a few coins.
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
15 Mar 08
Of late, I have discovered that these "homeless people" aren't really who they are. I found that they are actually professional beggars and they dress themselves shabbily with dirt on them and starts begging for money and food. Sometimes they would have their children tag along as well. For this discovery, I think what you had encountered are really professionals in beggars cloak. So nowadays I will observe for myself and then decide whether to give or not.
If I find them able bodied and should not have any problem in securing a job as an odd job worker - I will harden my heart not to give so as not to encourage this form of unhealthy living and bad image. Please do not mistake me as a hardliner here, but I just felt that there are more deserving souls other than them that deserves our sympathy and help.
So, I hope that we be more discerning before giving as this would help our surrounding a better place to live in.
@luvingmygirls (493)
• United States
15 Mar 08
As I read this discussion, all I could think about was the movie, the Pursuit of Happiness. I know that there are so many people in this world who just can't make it. My family has almost been their ourselves, as I am sure money people have as messed up as our ecomomy is.
I guess the people like the one you met are exactly why people are turned off by homeless people.
I am different, if they ask for money I offer food, they can take it or leave it.
Thanks for a good discussion.
@love2talk (115)
• India
15 Mar 08
I sympathize with homeless people, but quite a number of times I was dissapointed with them. They speak so meanly if you donot cater to their needs, which is not always possible.Once I was in train and these child beggars started pouncing on the fruits kept on the table. Another time a lady just pushed me in a market place, as I was busy on phone and she wanted money right then.Sometimes when I am on the road,late in the evening,I really dread them as they cannot be trusted.I feel scared at the sight of them, because their activities are hard to guess.
@shellybean79 (50)
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15 Mar 08
I used to give money to beggers/buskers, just a few pounds, until one time when I was in Edinburgh and I put some coins into his cup, he obviously didnt think I had given him enough as he started shouting about " how can I only give him a few pence(80p),thats all I had in change, when I had bags of shopping with me" I told him how much shopping I had didnt matter he should have been happy for what I gave him as I could have walked past! BAD MOVE I have never been shouted and sworn at as much before, some nice person phoned the police and he was taken away, I must admit I was scared!!
Now I dont give money but if someone has a dog with them I buy some dog food!
@idaantipolo (472)
• Philippines
15 Mar 08
Sometimes they do, but not the way you experienced it...I was walking around a mall, when I got thirsty and decided to buy a pearl shake. I really love this one, especially the cookies and cream flavor. After buying, I decided to go home and walked towards the train station when a young man, just popped up in front of me and took my pearl shake...I was stunned...the next thing I remember, I saw him already drinking my pearl shake. I was disgusted, with his attitude...he didn't even asked me for it he just snatched it from my hand!
@dementiev (97)
• China
15 Mar 08
Yeah,I usually meet that kind of people just like what you describe.
I usually meet them in street,and sometimes they bring their children wearing broken clothes.
My friend and i met a woman few days ago,and this women asked for ten yuan.My friend gave her ten yuan,and then sha asked another ten yuan.What a greedy woman.
So we left with angry...
I think I won't give these kinds of people any money...
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
15 Mar 08
yes, they do bother me most of the time, especially seeing small kids begging for money at such a young age. it is such an eye sore... i do feel for these families, but they say they are being used by a larger group who intends to only collect money.
@Gwapako_28 (2140)
• Philippines
15 Mar 08
it bothers me too! but what can we do? instead just give them money what you had enough for your own living and needs.thats true that we worked hard also just to survive in this unfair world.we cant just ask and ask and ask to others but we need to work hard for it.
@restlesslimbs (174)
• United States
15 Mar 08
That was incredibly rude of her. I don't understand why someone would feel entitled to the money that you earn but I do try to give if I can. Once, I was unemployed, completely broke, and sick with the worst cold of my life. I managed to get a job interview so I was dressed in my best clothing. A man on the street asked me for money and I had nothing and told him so. His reply was an angry, "Merry Christmas!" Because of my situation, I was really annoyed my his comment.
Usually, I do not carry money, so when someone asks me for something my honest answer is that I don't have any cash. However, if I have some change or a dollar I will usually give something. People should realize though that you are not obligated to give to them and be grateful for what they get.
@xhp4786432 (11)
• China
15 Mar 08
when I was in junior school,that's day after class,on my way home ,there was a homeless ran towards me and embraceed me .he began to cry ,That time I was so afraid ,he then asked me for some money ,I don't know what to do and just gave her some money.He went away after he got it ,singing a song .I felt surprised ,and I began to feel I had been put-up on.I really didn't know what to say at the moment.