long distance relationship, does it make sense?
By jules1977
@jules1977 (48)
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@Myrrdin (3599)
• Canada
14 Mar 08
Long distance relationships are tough at the best of times. The stress of being separated can be tough, not to mention all of the other issues. They can work, but they require much more work then a relationship where you can see your SO on a regular basis. There are alot of websites out there that deal with how to handle a long distance relationship.
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@simplyjemz (188)
• Philippines
15 Mar 08
it really depends on the couple. we'll never know if it works or not. as long as the couple trusts each other...and they have open communication, there is no problem.
@LillyRose (33)
• United States
15 Mar 08
Yes it can! I speak from experience. The two words that will make a relationship work (be it long distance or not) is trust and love. When you have both of those you can sustain anything in the toughest of times. Man do I sound like a sap, but this is coming from someone who was in a long distance relationship and had a blast with it. It forces you to have to get to know the person because you have to communicate without all the distractions of other things that happens when the person is there in front of you.
@jules1977 (48)
• Qatar
15 Mar 08
trust is the key to have a long and lasting distance relationship.. hmmm, it does make sense, but dont you think that too much trust, can be a poison in a relationship as well, i have friend, who put much trust on his partner, he never jealous about the activities of his wife, his wife is open to him and so as he , they have a very open communication, and this guy my friend confessed to me, that this, is the only thing that he could give to his wife, "trust" while he is away with her temporarily. but,unfortunately, these "trust" thing does'nt work with them.
@my_january (967)
• Philippines
15 Mar 08
In my own opinion, long distance relationship, can work depending on the couple involve. There are times that a couple can easily adopt to the changes associated in having this tough relationship set-up so their relationship, i say, last longer, not really stronger. Temptations are part of any relationship and the long distance love affair are more prone to it. This type of relationship can work, i have friends whom I know is under this type of situation, but as what they have said- they feel Incomplete- something is missing.
@jules1977 (48)
• Qatar
15 Mar 08
yeah, "something" is missing, and what if, this temptations would fill up that "something", what would happen? you are right, that long distance relationship, is prone to it, by acknowledging all these temptations and overcoming it make the relationship stronger.
@edstewar (35)
• Philippines
15 Mar 08
It depend. If you really love the guy or the girl then you will wait for him/her until he/she come back. But you have to fight for your self first, you have to the temptations around you. You have to fight for missing him/her. You have to fight for your communications and lot more. And in order to be successful or your long distance relationship then you have to win those fights.
@daryush (42)
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22 Mar 08
I'm in one now and I can safely say that it's not easy at the best of times, and so so so difficult when things get tough. But we've been going for 7ish months now and I wouldn't give up my girlfriend for anything. I think we've got it better than quite a few couples - we live 100 miles away and see each other every 1 to 2 months; I know of couples who are whole continents apart!
It does all come down to trust. You just have to naturally not be too needy or clingy to do an LDR. It's hard when you want a hug but the best you can get is a phone call (or even worse, they're out when you call :( ) but if you're prepared to make the effort then it's definitely worth it. Me and my girlfriend are, I think, going to marry at some point in the futre, but we're looking at several more years long distance in the worst case scenario (the most likely one) :(
Take care, and good luck to all you other LDRers!
@jules1977 (48)
• Qatar
23 Mar 08
All the best for u and ur girlfriend, and thank u for the respond.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
6 Jul 09
it is not the distance that matters in any relationship,it's the sincerity.it doesn't need to be away from your partner to test one's faithfulness.temptation is always around,so,love being sincere and faith with fear is the main aspect on this matter.
@jofeli (502)
• Indonesia
15 Mar 08
if we can maintain the relationship as to be good in quality, yes it will work. I experienced this myself. Before we get married my husband left me for a job out of the island. we separated about a year but now we are married. the secret is, always trust each other and don't misuse the trust :)
