3 months after abortion she wants kids

I think she may be trying to deal with the guilt this way. Abortion is wrong, it's killing your child, and those who have abortions deal with the guild when they realize what they actually did. My guess is she probably is there now, feeling very guilty, realizing what she actually did, and now to deal with those feelings, she wants to have a child to replace the one she aborted. Now, I don't believe every woman who has an abortion is a cold blooded murderer or anything. With so many people saying it's OK and a good option if you aren't ready to parent, or don't think you are, in a time of stress, many women won't be able to sort through what they have been told and what is actually true. However, there are always consequences when you do something wrong, even if you did not realize at the time what you were really doing. I think that is what is happening to this woman. She thinks, perhaps subconsciously, that having a child or children will relieve the pain of her guilt. I would rather she see a post abortion trauma counselor. She might not know or realize that is what is actually happening to her, but I think if she had a conversation with someone who is trained in helping women who have had abortions, she would be able to understand and come to terms with it, and forgive herself.

thats weird, isnt it painful after a abortion? and isnt the reason she wants to have abortion is because she doesnt want kids?

that's sad. I suppose the desire to have a baby all of a sudden may have been through guilt. but to me it just says she wasn't really sure one way or the other. it's a great shame. I'm 100% pro-choice, even for people that just don't want to have a baby, but this is still really sad. it sounds like she didn't think it through properly and now thinks that her first baby is so easily replaceable.

Its pretty lame. Even if she "made a mistake"...well that is a huge mistake! Did she get advised to wait longer and see if she still wants to get pregnant again....much longer. Abortion and pregnancy should be well thought out decisions and neither should be entered into without being absolutely certain of what they are doing.

Well,i feel like abortion should be a choice only if the womans life is in danger,but i cannot get pregnant and it sickens me that women who can get pregnant want to kill their baby when women like me could adopt them!but i guess some women take being able to have children for granted.

This woman is still not ready to be a mother. She changed her mind on a whim. Motherhood is not a spur of the moment decision, but a definate life change. I predict that this woman will be a poor excuse for a mother, because she hasn't thought this thing through, and the child will end up paying for it.

well that sure is something not right. i think i would have slapped this girl if she was my sister. i am against abortion. and i think she is just not in the right mind.. i agree with you that it would have been better that she reasoned she made a mistake, admit it and be humble.... 3 months, a short time for a realization that she is alreay ready.. i wonder what could be the reason that changed her mind and now wants a baby... some people just do things, decide and then regret them later on.. this is because of being so impulsive.

Abortion is a traumatic experience, just like a miscarriage. Some people refer to this as "replacement baby feelings." Most likely, she still isn't ready, but her feelings and hormones are telling her that she is ready. I have no idea why they'd publish a story like this in the paper, though. That really isn't "news" to me. That's someones private life...go figure. I will never understand people.

I'm going to say that it's probably her hormones talking. A lot of times when you get pregnant and it doesn't end in a baby, either by miscarriage or abortion, your maternal hormones surge anyway and since there's no baby, they kinda freak out. These tends to lead to the "baby fever" mode that women get into where, even if they really aren't ready for a baby, they validate everything to make themselves believe they are. This is more common in women 19 and younger, but I don't doubt there are a few loons who are older and should know better. Another possibility is that she was coerced and didn't really want the abortion, but didn't care/think enough to go against it and now she's either feeling bad, or feeling the maternal pangs. Either way, I do think it defeats the purpose and sounds really stupid.

What is she 12? How retarded can you get?

Three months couldn't make a difference. She either wants kids or doesn't. What is wrong with her. Oh, I don't want this child right now. Let's get rid of it. That makes me sick to hear this. Not about the abortion either. I do believe that each women does have the right to make that decision for herself. But about the fact that three months after the abortion she decides that now she is ready to get pregnant. What is wrong with the women?

She is really crazy by having an abortion and later on she wants to have kids again and if she is not happy or comfortable she will go on with the same procedures.. that is not good.. she must be consistent on what she do.. she have to use her brain by doing such an act coz one she is committing sin already by having abortion two, she is a total idiot by wasting the baby granted to her or can even reach her and pull her out of poverty. what a waste

This sort of thing happens a lot, I too know someone that had an abortion, 2 weeks later she was trying to get pregnant again, claiming that she had made a mistake and that she should not have done it and that she was desperate to have a baby. In my opinion it would serve her right if she could not have any more children. To be able to do things like that is wrong.

it is fact that the young people canot consider what they want, so they always do things without thinking.

I will never understand the people who did abortion. Only when there is safety reason, probably I can still think about that whether I agree or not.

that to me is just absolutely ludicrious. why all of a sudden is she suddenly ready to have a child when three months earlier she wasn't ready and killed her child. i don't think she should have kids because if she thought she would be ready that soon after aborting her child she never should have aborted he/she in the first place. really makes me sick to my stomach and angry all at the same time. what is going on in this world today? God bless

Thats just terrible. I am pro choice. I believe in a womens right to choose. I do think we need stricter guidelines on abortion, that being able to have an abortion being six months pregnant just isn't right but thats a whole different discussion. How can a person make such a drastic change in only 3 months. She still would have been pregnant with the first one if she would not had an abortion. It's probably more remorse than anything, shes feeling somewhat guilty and thinks that this will take the guilt away. Is that even safe though, shes not even healed from the abortion yet and she's talking about getting pregnant, all i can do is shake my head.

How could one change in only three months on an issue as important as child bearing? I do not think thats really possible to go from having an abortion to wanting to get pregnant again. what if she again decided she made a mistake will she have another abortion? She is risking her health if she does abortions are not that easy on a woman from what I have observed I never went that route.Igot pregnant twice in less than a year and carried both babies so it can be done. I would think bearing a child is not done lightly but is a real decision and should not be made on a whim.

That girl might not take any responsibilities for her child. I don't support abortion not only it is harm to her health but also she couldn't find out a good reason to excuse, not to mention only 3 months' away. I totally feel pity about her lost child. It is not his or her fault. I hope that lady will be aware of her problem and do not make such mistake anymore.

I am all for women choosing what they need to do, but to change your mind after 3 months is not fair on that aborted baby, on yourself, or other people involved. She probably still isn't ready, but is regretting the abortion she got, so thinking she is ready for children now.