Do some new members need help on myLot

I did get some of these post as well...I think that probably the person who invited them just wants to help them get stated in mylot...No No i do not think that it was meant for you to have to do anything,it was just a suggesstion because they wanted to help their friend get started....I am sorry suspenseful but you are taking it wrong and you are being a tad bit sensitive here...So just don't take it personal dear,i only think they were trying to help their friend get started.....

I'm not keen on those sorts of posts either. Apart from the fact that it's not a discussion anyway I just don't see that it's necessary to do something like that when someone joins myLot. Posting on here is not rocket science, there are FAQ's to refer to, the site is clearly laid out - so what do they need help with?? Of course they're not really asking for help, they're asking us to respond to their discussions and add them as friends. I prefer to make my own mind up about what discussions to respond to and who to add as a friend so I tend to ignore those types of requests anyway.

some considered that they are helpless once they are a newbie here..that is always a misconception i guess...its very easy to request to be somebody's friend and be on the lists...

I"m not sure if the request for help was to be taken literally. I feel that it was more a way for the person to ask that her friends would welcome her new friends here in myLot. I don't see a problem with it and I always welcome new members once I notice they are new. It's just like being a good hostess, I feel. Nobody can force you to add anybody to your friends list although you can add a friend of a friend, after all the more the merrier isn't ? YOu can do it two ways, you wait until you see some posts and responses from that person to make sure it is someone you would like to have in your friend's list, or you add the person right away and you can always delete later on if it doesn't work. Mostly I feel there is no need to sweat it, it's always up to you what you decided to do. You are in control of what you do in here, who you add, who you respond too. There's no stress :)

I guess it's just in some people's nature to ask for advice and help when they start something new like myLot. I have no problem with these posts because I was new once and although I didn't make a post asking for help, nor did my sponsor who I don't even know, but I don't mind giving my opinion and advice. I'm glad to check a new member's profile and add them as a friend or to tell them to feel free to add me, then I'll look at their profile and decide whether to accept or not. I almost always accept friend requests unless I see the person is very rude or abuse to others or "weird" in other ways. Annie

Well, it depends, If the newcomer had an up line and they were my up line, I do offer my help to them..When I signed up, I was given the mylot.com link from a friend who doesn't do mylot, but thought I would enjoy it, so I have no up line and as this was my first experience with money making sites and all those rules, I was very confused here. Even now, whenever they do an update, if not myself, then I see others asking, how does this work? Like the flyer button, I saw it once and couldn't remember where and so I threw down my pride and asked and a couple of others were glad I did..I am not afraid to ask for help, and if a newcomer is, then they need someone to guide them..

I think this person was just asking for her friends here on mylot to welcome some new people that she knew. I am always happy to help just about anybody if its something that I can help with. We are all human and need help every now and then. I think this person wanted these other people to see how friendly we can be here on mylot. Sometimes its tough to be a newbie and feel your way around here.

Heck when I joined over a year ago I just started resonding to peoples post specially the one that invited me to join and I didnt post for some time then I would think of something and post got invited to be a friend and went on from there I get requets all the time some I take some I dont depends on what interests are like. I dont want to be demanded that I take them as a friend.

Though I have nothing against those posts, personally, I'd rather participate on the discussions here and then there I'll do the rest to meet friends. And if ever I am the referrer, I'd rather PM my friends to add that person (newbie) if it is not that much of a burden for them. Yes, we all want to help others. But I find that there are different people who has different approach on each and every activity going around here, I'd suggest that them newbies be patient and take their time to establish their existence here on mylot..

I think it's nice to 'help' new members but that doesn't mean I feel obligated to invite them to be friends - say someone has posted their first discussion. We all know if you don't have a lot of friends sometimes it can be difficult having a discussion be found. In the past I've had a couple of times such as when my daughter first joined (she's not active at all) I sent private messages to a few of my close friends and asked 'if they had a minute' if they could respond to one or two of her discussions. I think all I asked did that and a couple invited her to be on their friend's list. I don't think posting a discussion is the way to 'get help' for new members - I don't mind helping newbies one bit but at the same time I'm not going to go overboard to respond to every person's new referral - I tend to help more with suggestions on how to succeed here.

I think its good to introduce a new member. If they feel welcome they might stay, make new friends and become assets to the rest of us. I know that I did that for my one referal. I know I had to ask the person that refered me some questions when I first joined, I hope that she appreciates the $$ I generate for her. If I ever get another referal I'll do another introduction post....

Yes some of them ask irrelevant question though but i accept there inquiries and tour them to what the site can do for them .

Hi suspensful, I have come across discussions in which people were asking for help in welcoming new comers to mylot also. I am only guessing here, but I think they only do it because they like mylot and in return, they want to make sure that their friends also enjoy mylot and feel welcomed. I don't think the people, who post these discussions asking people to welcome someone to mylot, mean any disrespect or harm to anyone. I also do not feel that they mean to make anyone feel obligated to add the person to their freinds' list or respond to the person's discussions or otherwise. I think that they just want to inform people that the person is there and encourage anyone who wants to, to welcome that person. I think they do that because they see it as a way of reaching out to the new person and helping them to feel welcomed. I think their intentions are good, in that regard, and perhaps they just overlook the fact that it might make some people feel obligated. That is my take on those types of discussions. I wouldn't take them personally, if you come across a discussion like that and you want to welcome whatever new person they are talking about, feel free to do so. And if you do not wish to welcome this new person, feel free to make that decision as well.

im new and really lost :(

Please accept my apology, I didn't mean to offend anyone especially people on my friends list. In my best defense we all think differently and because you're on my friends list I was just including you. Sorry for the inconvience this may have caused. Please disregard.

I think the person introducing them may be the person who got them here. In other words, the person s/he was introducing may be a referal. I wish I had gotten some help when I first came here. It took me three months to reach pay out. It took two months before I had very many friends. I think some people do all they can for their referals. Some people just expect their referals too keep going without help. Many times I've read about people whose referals don't write. I had one referal and she wrote two topics and is gone now. It took her two months to do anything, even though she said she would. Then she quit right after. So apparently people who come as referals do need some kind of encouragement or assistance. Do you have any referals? Are they consistantly writing for you? How would/do you encourage a referal? Referals make money for people and are neat. I've gotten 2 cents and that was it from my referal.

I really think that you should cut newcomers some slack as a lot of them might not use English as their first language, If you are sensitive as you say you will have some compassion and extend a bit of help. Of course we do not have to do anything we do not want to do but I do not turn many away who ask to be my friend, Why should I? they are not likely to do me any harm .