How u react when ur Friends mis understood U

Yes, this did happen to me once. And lemme tell you its feels down, dejected and awful. Many times, life puts us into crossroads. Even when we do everything, things get the other way round many times. I could only feel sad for I am not the person who would keep convincing others. Thanks.

Cupid! What happended? your discussion shows that you are very upset on some of your dear friend's reaction. On my part, I try to be cautious and careful not to do any such thing...or say anything ....which could be misunderstood by my friend. Even after my best efforts some 'isunderstanding' takes place between me and my friend, I would try to sort it out by hook or crook. I would unhesistantly go for an 'apology' to iron out the differences and would try my best to convince my friend that whatever 'misunderstanding' occured, it might have happend inadvertantly and unintentionally. Afterall, friendship is the most dearest of the relationships and we do not find good friend easily, so I won't let my friendship go because of any misunderstanding. Cheer up! and Try to explain your position again to your friend and tell him/her that it was unintentional. Keep Smiling! Deepak

It totally depends on the situation. Maybe it's a misunderstanding or a miscommunication. And a person is considered a friend when they know you well enough...or else they are considered an acquaintance. I prefer to know a person's basic qualities and feel some level of comfort with them before I consider them friends. Now, having cleared that...if a friend misunderstands me, then I talk to them openly and discuss the matter...if it's an acquaintance, then I just explain myself and leave it at that. Then the ball's in their court.

[b][i][b]hi cupid.......... Tell me, what did you do now....... I think in your innocence you don't realise where are your limits and always cross the border, and it is too late before you realise your mistake..... But I can see sincerity in your discussion and I can feel that you are really sorry for whatever happened , knowingly or unknowingly.....no matter what........ so I feel you should get second change. Who ever is the person who misunderstood you should discuss it with you and should give you one chance to explain your view point.....Best of luck.....and for god sake be careful in future.........[/b][/i][/b]

Hi Cupid, I was just discussing this issue with my father... Me and one of my close friends stopped talking to each other since 4 months because of a misunderstanding. We used to meet weekly but then out of a sudden we stopped without discussing what happened... Then on Wednesday we met at a friend's house, each one of us was afraid the other won't talk to her.. then we both smiled and knew there is nothing wrong between us and started talking about what happened we both understood that there was nothing and thanks to God we agreed on meeting on Sunday to talk more.. I think talking to your friends and sharing your feelings with them even when you are angry makes things better...

Hi cupid, was just reading all the responses in this discussion. Looks like some one has hurt and misunderstood you? Kya hua? Have things cleared out now? Dosti ho gayee phir se? Its right, when we get too attached to a person the expectations are too high. And when the other person cannot reach upto our expectations then we are hurt. So I think the safest would be not to get too attached to anyone. Then we are not hurt? Kya bolna hain???

I get very sad, Cupid. I withdraw myself for I cannot shout and reason. I, get very upset with myself. It hurts a lot and it takes time to come out of it. Thanks.

I try to explain myself as best I can and ask them what they didn't understand.

hmm this is really a tough one. being misunderstood is one of the worse feelings. but i belive if there are true friend they should not keep it to themselves. i would bring it out into the open and have a discussion about the issue. i'd rather know what is going on rather than suffer in silence. that is how relationships fail, regardless of which kind. keeping things from each other is the worst thing a person can do to a relationship. cheers ;p

For me I will of course feel sad about it. Maybe I wil try to explain to him/her about it and if he/she still could not accept my explanation than I will just let it be.

I always evaluate what i do.. coz sometimes i cant control my self being impulsive then i start telling them vad things like i cannot take it why they misunderstood me.. talk is a good thing to do

It hurts my feelings when poeple misunderstand me..I try to get things out in the open...My heart is so soft and I try to always stay in good with my friends...

Ofcourse, it's so depressing and heartbreaking...especially as what you just said they don't even discuss it to you.. Meaning they don't accept you to the level that you expected from your friendship. You thought they have the same appreciations as you do for them. But then sad to know they don't feel that way.. Too much expectations is one..And this thing can't be avoided even in friendship. You can't please anyone so just prepare yourself of any criticism and misinterpretations.