should a mother get into her sons bussiness in a relationship
By sweetaspie52
@sweetaspie52 (2359)
United States
March 15, 2008 8:24am CST
my oldest sons girlfriend was with another guy on new years eve and they were all drinking when my son passed out his girl friend and suppose to be best friend had their little thing going on my son for gave her for it,then the other day my son was at work and his girlfriend and so called best friends were together at my others sons home and ther were talking about finding a way to kill my son when I found out I went off and said some terrible things I should not have to both her and him ,they both lied about the whole thing when my son confronted them about it so my son believe them and told my other sons partner that she was lieing about it my other son even told my oldest to just leave her but they are still together so when does a mother stop sticking her nose into the sons personal life I do not what to see my son get hurt.the girl friend left her husband to be with my son and now she is tring to be with another guy I believe once a cheater always a cheater she has cheated on her husband more than once what do you think about this am I being too overly protect of my 31 year old son or I just leave it well enough alone and let it come down to him being hurt your opinion please
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9 responses
@SeductiveAnn (39)
• United States
15 Mar 08
I think you have every right to stick your nose into this one. Not knowing any of the parties involved, I have to say use your best judgment. Conspiring to commit murder is a pretty serious offense, do you think they were just joking around, or is there more to it?
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@sweetaspie52 (2359)
• United States
17 Mar 08
Believe me I do take it seriously and I am keep ing an eye on her because she is very distrout
@sigma77 (5383)
• United States
16 Mar 08
I don't think you can protect him all the time. He is old enough to figure things out for himself. You are right about choosing a partner and cheating. Your son might be better off dealing with women that are free of current marriages and relationships. I mean that they are single and not still involved in a relationship of some kind. Your son might get hurt along the way, but that is part of the learning process. Hurts don't last forever unless we hang onto them. It is no reflection on you because you don't have any control over the choices your sons might make. The person who cheats will never find what they want until they can be free of the need to change partners before ending their current relationship.
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@gemini_rose (16264)
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15 Mar 08
If you hear things like that said about your child then of course you are right to say something and tell your son. It is just unfortunate that he chose to believe them over his own mum, but thats kids for you. All you can do is tell him what you know and hope that he finds out quickly that you are right before any harm is done. But if I knew something like that I would tell my kid for definate.
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@sweetaspie52 (2359)
• United States
17 Mar 08
it hard for a mother to hear that her son may be in danger but what can you do if he deciede to stay with her I believe that he will find out the truth if not from his family than from him catching them together
@dragonfly242 (1060)
• Bahamas
16 Mar 08
i dont think you have any other choice but to get into this one.regardless of his age you never stop being his mother. as a mother i'd be very concern this woman sounds like a manipulater. i hope for your sons sake he opens his eyes soon and see's her for who and what she is. i'll pray for a good outcome to this situation.
@sweetaspie52 (2359)
• United States
17 Mar 08
Thank you for your prayers and I too pray that he opens his eyes
@dancinman (119)
• United States
16 Mar 08
How can you ever, ever, forgive yourself. If you let him get Hurt and I dont ,mean a broken heart.
@sweetaspie52 (2359)
• United States
17 Mar 08
I could not because if it happens and I pray that it don't I will live with the guilt the rest of my life and thank you for responding
@busta1baby (1230)
• United States
28 Apr 08
no i dnt think so...if there was something she wants him to know he will tell her
@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
27 Mar 08
I think that you should just leave yourself out of it untill he asks you for help. My mother in law butts herself in where she doesnt belong sometimes and it doesnt help our relationship at all! But our problems are not as severe as these problems sound!
