Do you know someone who acts like your friend but never has time for you ?

Yes, I know someone just like you describe, they act like my friend, but obviously don't have time for my friendship. This person seems (I can't PROVE this) to avoid my phone calls and emails. Yet, if they need something, they don't hesitate to call me, and even go out of their way to drop by my house to indicate what they need! This really irks me, because I feel that a friendship should go both ways. A true friend is there for you when you need them, not just when they need you!

Yes, I have met lots of people who act like they are my friends... Close friends at that but would never really give that much time for me. They are just around during the good times but do not really give a damn during the bad times.

Most of my friends have families of their own so it is no wonder that they never have time for me. So those friends may really not have time for you. Do you expect them to invite you to their house or apartment more often? They may have their family over, they may be going to work, they may feel that their place is a mess. Their husband may feel like it is a mess (I am married to one of those types) even though you would not mind that the kitchen counter has jam stains on it. Oh those who you do not want to be friends, do you snap at them, growl, or push them aside? I think you should be kind to all even if they do not have time for you.

I think, Sissygrl, that often people will make the mistake of equating cordiality with friendship. Everyone who you consider to be a friend might not see themselves that way. They could just see you as an acquaintance. If you want to cultivate a true friendship with someone you might have to take the first step such as inviting them to your home for a party or a trip to the movies or shopping. Those are good places to start.

About a year ago I had a friend just like that. She was very much into herself and had no time for anyone else. She didn't like talking on the phone so we mostly just emailed each other. We live in different cities but close enough that we could get together for coffee or shopping which we did like 2 times in a year. I sent her a Christmas card which she never even acknowledged. I'm not going to force her to be my friend so I just gave up on her...she's not worth the effort.

Be happy! I think if you can do it better!!!

yes i had one i must say. not i am no more in contact with him. he acted like a very good friend to mine. but he only used to remembeber me when he needed something from me, be it money or cook some food for him. latr in my problem he b=never kept m ein mind.now we are no more in contact.

I am a home body and when I go to the store I get what I need and then chck out I do not start up a conversation with people if they talk first than I will answer I will say hi to just about anyone but to have a conversation with them no

I think we all know people like that sweetheart!I don't really understand it that much! I have to make a HUGE confession here though, I have one friend, he is my friend and I do have time for him but there are times where I avoid taking his calls or put him off visiting. Not because I don't like him or anything but just cos he can be such hard work! He hardly speaks at all and just sits there, even if he knows you are about to have dinner, you offer him food and he says no he is getting dinner later, he sits some more, I tell David to hold off dinner for now ( it is ready now but it isn't nice to eat when you have a visitor, specially when he doesn't speak) and he sits some more and on it goes! Eventually he leaves just at the point where dinner is past saving! Ok for him he is going home for his dinner - ours is ruined! I know it sounds nasty but there are times where I just don't have the patience! xxx

Mmmm...I sometimes wonder if maybe some of my friends might view me like that. I'll be the first to admit now that ever since I got my own computer a little over a year ago, I'm not as shall we say accessible and maybe a tad more reclusive? You see with me, so many of my years were wasted not doing anything for myself due to really bizarre circumstances and roadblocks and detours(most of which were caused by my mother)....I was a successfully published photographer up until 1996 then my "career" came to a screeching halt..It's only been the last year or so that I've made moves to jump start my life again...so it's like now I'm trying to make up for all that time I didn't do anything. I mean yes, I do call or contact my friends on a regular basis, and I'm hoping they understand why now I can't spend hours and hours yakking on the phone like I used to when I want to get work done. I do take time to stop on the street or in a store and talk with people I know...I mean it's not like I ignore them completely..as I do love being with people and mingling with them--but I can't help wonder if I'm being selfish for preferring to spend more time with my work now???

I do know a few people like that...when you run into them they suddenly remember you had a relationship once...promise to call or other such nonsense! ....A friend really calls..does things with you and aren't phoney balonies!

I'll stop and say hi to them and if we both have time I'll chit chat with them to catch up with what I can on their lives. Now a days life has been on the fast lane or fast tract that it seems no one has time for themselves not alone someone else. It's a darn sad world and we need to change that and slow life down a bit and smell the flowers along the way.

I have a lot of acquaintences, but only a select group of friends. It doesn't take anything to be polite to people, but that doesn't mean I have to take them home to meet mother. I find that keeping the majority of people at arms length keeps my life from becoming too complicated trying to meet the demands of people who really don't care about me, just what I could do for them. Then I discovered the net. *sigh* Now I have so many *friends* I can't keep up to them all and that gives me spasms of guilt. So - wanna be my friend? lol I'm a much better online friend than off I think.

There is a woman that I have become friend with through our children being friends, I see her at school everyday and we always go for a coffee on a tuesday. We have been up her house as a family a few times and had a few drinks and a laugh. But recently I have come to realise that we are just the friends they choose to have when everyone else is busy. They invited us to a party they were hosting on new years eve, I felt quite pleased to be invited and was really looking forward to it. My husband and I even turned down another invitation from his friends so that we could go, my husband knows that I have not got any friends and that this was important to me. So we went and we met up with her and her husband and it was good, until their other all the time friends turned up and then they just shut us out, she hardly spoke to me all night, they stood right next to us in their little group and just totally shut us out. I felt so hurt I cant tell you how I felt, and then when their friends left, she was all over me again. I then realised that I was willing to be a good friend to her, but she was only ever going to bother with me when there was no one else. The other day I was trying to talk to her about things that were bothering me, and she kept changing the subject, yet I listen to her whenever she has a worry. So I think I have to face facts that really she is not a proper friend.

there are quite a few people who are like that, there are some who sends me sms, friendship messages, but when you start a conversation with them, they would barely repl to you with interest. i just hate it that the flag my phones with quotes and all about friendship, etc and they do not mean it! i know some who are like that especially some acquaintances who i bump into from time to time who couldnt care less and yet would come to you like you are bestfriends... hehe not good. i would stay away from these people.

I don't expect too much about my friends. I do understand that they may be busy in their life. But I would like to have friends whom I can "meet" or "chat" occasionally with me in order to keep our friendship flow. Friendship needs understanding from both sides. I hope you enjoy your weekend

Yes, I feel guilty. I treasure friends, and try to keep in touch with them. But from being busy and low energy often, I do not hang out too much. :o( Sorry (not that we live nearby). But I never want to lose a good friend even if we don't hang out regularly. That's why also email is so helpful. Telephone and postal mail, I am also thankful for.

Some people like myself are loving and friendly people but just like to keep to themselves. You can call it what you like but it's really just a particular type of personality trait. Everyone has a particular type of personality that you pretty much are stuck with. I love to talk to people in person and will talk your head off but don't give me your number because I probably will not call you or ask you to go anywhere. It's nothing personal just that I take comfort in being alone. Being alone comforts me just like someone likes to go clubs, out to eat, shop etc. I don't just stare at the walls when I'm alone, I have plenty to keep myself busy. If you call me, I'll talk and if you get me to go out, I'll love evey minute of it but will probably not call you very often if at all. The point I'm trying to make is don't be so quick to judge others you probably have some things about you that others don't quite understand or like. If you care about the person, you could try telling them about your feelings. Maybe you could get a better understanding of the problem. I'm dealing with this personally right now. I love my friends and wish they were more understanding. NOTE This is just ONE of the many reasons why a person seems to not have time for others. Husbands, kids,conflicting personalites and just plain ol' strange behavior in some individuals are some other ones.

Oh yes, lots of them. I am a friendly person and just want to befriend everybody but I've met a lot of people too who is just like that. One thing I can say about them is BEWARE, because usually they'll only act as a friend if they needed something from you but if you need them, they're not your friend anymore. In short, you're their so-called "friend with benefits". There's nothing wrong to have lots of friends but know that not all of them is true. It's good if you have true friends and you should stay true to them too coz it's hard to find a true friend nowadays and if you have them, keep them by being a friend and true to them. Forget about those friend-today-notfriend-tommorrow people. =)