I love this new life
By raydene
@raydene (9871)
United States
March 16, 2008 10:57am CST
Well Friends
I have been to the
bowels of Hel1 and back
these past 6 months.
It is hard to believe that
so much has changed in so
short a time!
I am awakening!
I am happy in my home
and better still in my skin!
It is so nice to have the whole bed!
It is so nice to know that
I will never HAVE to have a
loud ballgame on my bedroom TV!
It is wonderful to NOT have to
wait on someone ( did even when I was ill)
I can wake up in the middle of the night
and read without leaving the room
(the light might disturb)
I am realizing that I have been set FREE!
I didn't realize how much I compromised
How often I was the peacemaker
How often I bit my tongue
How much I made this house
for him..not for the family!
How I would have things his way because
I felt his needs were more important
then mine/ours!
Funny thing is I never noticed when
I was in it..... what a pain in the as5
it was to be keeping the boat from rocking!
It just somehow became this
through the years.
What an easy enjoyable life I have now!
Any thoughts?
xoxoxoxoxox
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21 responses
@Darkwing (21583)
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16 Mar 08
Imbolc and Spring Equinox are approaching; a time when new life awakens and nature becomes colourful once again... a time of new beginnings.
You have found where you want to be, and a making your new beginnings in harmony with Nature. Spring sure makes you feel good, and you're looking back on the dark, wintry days of your life, which have now fled, leaving you free and alive once again.
It's great to hear you are happy once again, my friend. Enjoy it, in the knowledge that you made all the right decisions, at last! 
Brightest Blessings, love and hugs. xxxxx
Brightest Blessings, love and hugs. xxxxx
@Darkwing (21583)
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17 Mar 08
I'm struggling still with the incident which led to the loss of my friend's baby, plus my closer friends impending operation, which is playing on his mind, also. However, these will sort themselves out, soon.
I also had a bit of a relapse with my leg, which I think my be the result of heading out in the wet weather three times last week. I'm hoping that's the reason anyway, and I'm taking it easy... plenty of rest, but also the occasional walk-about to loosen up the stiffness. I have a bit of work to do over Ostara, as this is a time of new beginnings, and it's about time this year's luck turned about. So, that's what I'm heading for.
Other than that... all's well, and I wouldn't say that this isn't my normal self! 
I always care about what's happening with my friends, and what I can do to comfort them and make their lives better, as well as my own.
Brightest Blessings my dear friend, and don't worry about me... I'm fine, and intend to stay that way. xxxxx
I always care about what's happening with my friends, and what I can do to comfort them and make their lives better, as well as my own.
Brightest Blessings my dear friend, and don't worry about me... I'm fine, and intend to stay that way. xxxxx3 people like this
Ostara is approaching and Imbolc has gone, lol. However, it's still a time for new beginnings. 
@mummymo (23706)
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16 Mar 08
MY thoughts, that is easy! I know you have been hurt , hurt to the very core and I felt so helpless watching you trying to keep struggling on without complaint! I am glad that you have gone through the worst of the pain and are now enjoying being without him and not adapting your whole life to revolve around him! You are worth so much more Mom but I can understand how easily these things gradually creep up on you after so many years! I am so happy for you now Mom - bet he isn't enjoying his life half as much - he has lost the best thing that ever happened to him and it is no ones fault but his own! You rock Mom (as Niall would say) xxxx
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
16 Mar 08
It's sure better to be alone than in bad company! Since I escaped my ex my life has been on a less rockier road, I don't have to be nervous any more I don't have to watch what I say, answer to anyone but myself, I can do what I want, when I want, I can please no one but myself. It's freedom, freedom which I took for granted, I am free of that prison cell I used to call life. I will always celebrate the day that I left October 8th will be a passionate day for me for years to come. Enjoy freedom, enjoy being single because to me relationships only bring entrapment, heartache, pain and suffering and the loss of freedom. It's great being single xxx
@dana234 (2114)
• Spain
16 Mar 08
I think it´s perfectly normal that you didn´t notice how enjoyable living alone can be while you were still married. It takes time to adjust to a completely different lifestyle and only after you have adapted yourself to such a drastic change you discover the advantages of being single.
You just don´t have to make a constant effort anymore and the only person you have to please now is yourself. That´s probably why you feel that you´ve been set free.
Living with an unconsidered person is very stressful and I´m glad that you´ve finally found peace.
XXX Dana
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
16 Mar 08
It sounds like you just came out of a bad relationship. And I know how you feel, when my ex and I broke up, I felt such a relief. For a long time, I had a sign that said 'I got a dog for my husband; it was a fair trade'
Actually the dog was better.
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@GardenGerty (160978)
• United States
16 Mar 08
It is easy to do so much in the name of love, when we are really just not loving ourselves. We are taught to be civil, understanding, compromising, self deprecating. It is amazing when the butterfly comes out of her cocoon and we can see all the beauty that really exists. Breathe the free air my friend.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
21 Mar 08
I'm happy you have had a new awakening. The thing is, our men not only don't appreciate all we do they don't even notice most of the time. Do you think it's because their mothers spoiled them by doing so much for them.
I often wonder WHY we pander so much to their wants needs and comfort and expect nothing in return. It's not a reciprocal thing.
Mind you, if I found someone now who is as good to me as I was to my former partners, I would find it difficult and uncomfortable to accept it. It would be foreign to me.
Happy days to you sweet lady.
@Phaedra_Scythe (3325)
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16 Mar 08
I'm so glad to hear you've found your joy again! Make your life your own! 
xxxx
xxxx2 people like this
@soleya (1100)
• Latvia
17 Mar 08
I am really happy for you. It always takes time to realise that our soulmate is not always a good choise. I understand what you feel, because I had the same situation in life. When I married a man and lived in the dream and after that needed to wake up and look around. And found out that my life where not a dream t all, I imagined all that and in reality I was not happy with that man. So I decided to be on my own, and I am really happy now. Thanks for this post! God luck!
@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
16 Mar 08
You just put a smile on my face because YOU are so happy right now.
I'm very happy to say, that I'm happy for you!, LOL! It's nice to put yourself in front for once, isn't it?....Have a HAPPY day and take care. You deserve it.
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@choudhary03 (943)
• Hyderabad, India
17 Mar 08
It is good to hear that you are happy all my best wishes for you and your future. Dont take decisions in haste think and take a good desicion in future so that you would be happier like this forever.
@whitewing (11)
• China
17 Mar 08
Say goodbye to your past, and the brand-new life is totally different and enjoyable. I feel happy for you to release yourself, and I'm sure you will have an excellent life from now on.
@Krisss (1231)
• Australia
17 Mar 08
I have been there and know the feeling well! I used to think I was happy, but I discovered there is a new kind of happiness and its so much sweeter than the old one.
I got the added bonus of meeting a wonderful man who loves the new me too.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
17 Mar 08
I told you that it would get easier and that things change
I also found myself when I was on my own in the end so I guess we where both silly and soft by always trying to please them and never our selves and really not notice
So the way I see it it really was not a Marriage we where just Slaves to them without knowing xxxxx
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
17 Mar 08
you have to learn to recognise these signs now, this is the martyr complex, even if you didn't know you were doing it it, you were not a person with wants and needs you did every thing for him so his wants and needs were met
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@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
24 Mar 08
I am happy that you are happy :). I am going through a divorce at the moment (not my choice) and its very painful.
I just hope that I will recover from the loss of the marriage and find that same happiness soon.
I am tired of crying.
Good luck to you Ray.
@tessah (6617)
• United States
17 Mar 08
congrats on yer new found freedom and happinesses!! so many people stay in bad relationsips out of fear of being alone, or worse.. dont thik they deserve anything better than what they have. kudos to you! ive also run to give my husband a kiss for not being one of the stereotypical males thats a controlling insufferable as5 LOL enjoy the day!
