cheaters
By lilly289
@lilly289 (15)
United States
March 16, 2008 1:57pm CST
Since most men cheat on their girlfriends and spouses should you just stay with them and work through the problem since you know that the next man will probably cheat as at some point as well? This question is only for those who believe in dealing with reality.
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@teison2 (5921)
• Norway
16 Mar 08
I believe in delaing with reality but i do not agree with you that most men cheat. It must be sad to not trust the one you are with. I myself know my man does not cheat on me. he has a much lower tolerance for cheating than I do by the way. I am not very fond of this kind of prejudice and sterotype-thinking.
Do you think most women cheat as well?
@lilly289 (15)
• United States
16 Mar 08
I don't distrust, I'm just more aware. To say that your spouse won't cheat is not dealing with the truth. You're speaking in a way that involves certainty on an issue that is uncertain and totally out of your control. As far as tolerance men usally tend to have a lower tolerance meaning they wouldn't tolerate your cheating but want you to understand why they do it or at least give them another chance. I trust who I'm with right up until they betray me. On another note, betrayal doesn't always have to cause you permanent distrust it can be a means to an awakening and understanding of the world we are living in and the people in it. Yes, many woman cheat as well. I don't think it's as much as men though due to our loving, understanding and committed nature. I will also say that I believe a lot of the time people don't set out to cheat...lack of self control, problems in the relationship and other factors can help you to make bad decisions. I hope your relationship stays well.
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@teison2 (5921)
• Norway
16 Mar 08
Thank you
You and I will not agree on this matter, and that is fine. We are both entitled to our opinions.
As you do not know me or my man you are really in no position to predict or think anything about us or our values. I can fully trust him in this area. He might loose interest in me. he might love someone else. Then he would tell me before starting something with his new love. I trust him on this.
I do not agree with you that men and women have certain traits due to their gender. I think the differences are due to cuture and upbringing.
@jstaubin (423)
• United States
1 Apr 08
I don't believe that most men cheat. If you are cheated on then you need to evaluate the relationship and see wether it is worth trying to move past this point or if you should just move on. Every relationship and situation is differrent and there is no one right way to deal with this situation.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
25 Mar 08
I don't think all men cheats. I totally disagree with you, and yes though my dad cheated on my mom and most probably my older brother have cheated on his previous girlfriends, i think that is still not true for all.
I still see faithful men and i dont think all of them do cheat... To answer your question, if my partner would be caught cheating, i will not deal with him and make up with him, he's got to know that i am not the kind of person who allows a person to cheat on me.
@rposta07 (240)
• United States
22 Mar 08
Sad to say, but yes, there are a lot of cheaters out there! Personally, I will not settle for someone who will cheat, though. I have found a person who I trust wholeheartedly, and I have learned that it is worth it to wait for a good man! There are a few out there. Notice, I said A FEW! lol But I am not a cheater, I dont feel like i deserve to be cheated on, and I think if you truly love and care genuinely about another person, you wont cheat. Thats the problem, though. People date and marry others who they only think they are in love with. It isnt genuine, mature love.
Now if someone does cheat, Im not sure what I would do. Just dating someone, I think I would leave them. Obviously they can live without you if they are willing to take that risk. On the other hand, I think I would try to work things out if i was married, especially if kids were involved. It really just depends on the situation, though.
@aero89 (422)
• United States
21 Mar 08
Lady, I'm sorry but that's like saying most girls named Lilly are children of hippies... you should consider rewording. You definitely sound like you've got an agenda lol (forgive me for assuming, but in the above statement,you assume as well, so if you must be right, I must be right, right?)
@simplyjemz (188)
• Philippines
17 Mar 08
cheating is part of reality. but we must not say that men cheats more than women. it really depends on the person and his/her reasons why he/she cheats. and also, the way you act towards that matter. if someone cheated on you..dont think that the next person will also cheat on you. dont make pre-judgment or stereotyping. everybody has his/her own choices in life.
ive been cheated more than once but i still trust. it is unfair for the next person not to be trusted. it's not his fault in the first place. and always remember that in love...you'll gonna be hurt in order for you to know what really love is. complicated isnt it? but thats the reality. just stay strong and be positive!
