When someone complements you on a talent you have

Well i would say that you are not able to take compliments comfortably..Its just human nature i think..Just practice saying "Thank you" or say oh it just comes natural" if it embarrasses you,just make a joke...Or you could say "well thank you.,i am glad you ejoyed it""' I am a good cook and people tell me that a lot and i say well i have had lots of practice but thank you for the comliments...

before, i usually say "i'm not that good" or "not really" whenever i receive a compliment for my talent. but as time passed by i got tired of the compliment and i got tired of replying the same thing so most often, i usually keep silent now. sometimes i would just reply with a smile. but at times i still reply with a "not really". most people would say it would just be being humble, but for me, its not only being humble, but also because i just don't know how to handle compliments very well. how ever i feel flattered, i seem not to express it very well.

Most of us are modest and we actually find accepting a compliment difficult! If we do we see ourselves as being bigheaded, I mean if someone says you look wonderful, when you hear yourself saying yes I do, it comes over conceited doesn't it, rather than playing it down so it sounds better. I am always doing this, I wish I could accept compliments more and be more positive about myself and dwell on the compliments rather than dwell on the nasty things people say to me. I guess it's to do with self-esteem.

i wonder why too. whenever someone compliments me i automatically shrug it off or critizize myself instead of thanking the people who appreciates me. a friend even told me that if i keep doing that i would never get any compliments in the future. i have to admit that i actually like hearing compliments because it lifts my spirit whenever i feel down but i find it hard how to graciously react. i'm practicing though. saying thank you is not that hard.

I know that the talents I do have I've worked on for most of my life, so I know that while I can improve, I am pretty good at them. I've been told that my writing is inspirational, my cross stitch is so easy to frame because the tension is easy and i don't use a hoop and that my abilites with animals are scary. I can sing, but would never count on my voice for an income, but have been given praise from teachers in the past, though never offered solos, probably because I don't like the stage all that much. I take the compliments and don't play down the talents because I know that I am on the right track, if someone said you need to work on this, then I would. Self improvement is very important.

Strange, isn't it -- to downplay a talent. Next time you get a compliment I suggest that you give a big smile and say thank you! There's always going to be somebody who's better at whatever. But that's not important and to downplay the compliment is really an insult to the person who's complimenting you. It's like saying "You don't know what you're talking about. I'm not that good."

Partly we are raised to consider it sinful to be proud, and accepting compliments is a form of pride, some people think. I can identify with you about having a hard time accepting compliments. I have also read, somewhere, that in olden times it was thought that having good fortune made the 'gods' (which you and I know do not exist) jealous, so if we did not downplay our good fortune or good talents, we were inviting the wrath of those jealous 'gods'. In other words, superstition. It has taken me a long time to accept, and I do not always remember to do it, but if someone pays you a compliment, you should just smile, and say "Thank you". It also would be appropriate to say something about being thankful to be able to use the talent God gives you, if that is what you believe.

obsolutely not, you have what god gave you, your dna gave you but either way it is legitamately yours. don't down play anything in a world where we have so few gifts recognize them, successful people do that is why they got to be successful, they used what they were good at and made a career out of it.

It could be at that time we thought what ever talent was not up tp par at the time

I think we tend to downplay it so as not to be thought bigheaded or vain.

Well, considering I have had no lessons in some things I do, am self taught or what I would call, a calling that the L♥rd had put on me..I had no lessons in dance and yet, not only do I dance, but I teach it..And I have no degree in teaching and yet I post things that I have learned that Bless others.. I believe without G♥d, I am nothing, so I give Him all the credit..

Everyone has a deep rooted need to be liked, accepted, loved. We downplay our abilities I think in order to avoid coming across as arrogant or conceited, which would not endear us to our admirers at all! My mother taught me that the best way to handle a compliment is to smile, lower your eyes for a moment and then look up and into the eyes of your complimenter and say "Thank you, how kind of you to say so". In this way, you show appreciation and humility at the same time and though people might think you're a trifle touched in the head, they can't fault your good manners! lol

I never know what to say when I get a compliment, and I do tend to downplay my talents when I get one. I think maybe it's perhaps we don't want to seem arrogant in anyway or big-headed. There may be a feeling of jealousy that could come from others if you accept the remark, maybe it our way of keeping ourselves grounded. These are just my ponderings, I'm really not sure...

I usually stay humble because it adds to my mystery as a magician.

I do tend to point out that it is easy to acquire the wrong impression, and in fact there is nothing unusual in my abilities. People assume that if you have a knowledge or ability that they do not posses then you must be special, whereas they often have talents that I do not that equal out the balance.

Well, I usually will thank the person who is complimenting me. And then I would be humble and tell them that I did not do a lot to achieve the result. And then bask in the satisfaction that someone likes and appreciate the talents I have.

Oh, this is definitely like me. I love to sing, and I have recorded a cd, and have people, even strangers tell me I was good. I have even had people in the music industry tell me how good I am. But sometimes when I listen to myself all I can hear are mistakes and stuff. All I can think is, how someone else is so much better than I am. I have been told that I am better than a lot of the famous singers, but I just have such a hard time believing it. It's just really conflicting for me.

I used to do that too whenever anyone would compliment me' I would downplay it until one friend told me that when 'I do that I am being rude to the complimenter in that I am saying their opinion is worthless. so now when someone pays me a compliment I say thanks, guess I owe that to my mom or my dad, whichever is most likely.The result 'is that your complimenter does not feel putdown. Its so easy to say thanks and so many times we do forget that a person is giving of himself when he compliments'and if you downplay it you are in a sense refusing his gift.

Oops.. sorry about the previous post. Should have been "compliment" instead of complement.. Hehe.

people downplay their abilities so much because no one wants to seem like an egomaniac. I've found that when people compliment my singing it's best to not say anything but thanks. if you downplay your abilities or say that someone else is better, it makes the person who gave you the compliment feel that their opinion more or less doesn't matter.