More Than One Wife
By chickabanana
@chickabanana (30)
United States
March 16, 2008 6:09pm CST
My ex-husband decided he wanted another wife. Since men appear to be natural born cheaters, do you think that consenting adults should be able to marry which could possibly prevent as many single parent homes? Most of the good responsible men are taken and it would allow more women to have a chance at a decent life with a decent man. Could this work?
3 responses
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
17 Mar 08
No, not all men are "natural born cheaters", nor would polygamy really solve anything.
Multiple-partner relationships are very difficult, not everyone can live in one. There are plenty of good, responsible men out there, you just have to look.
I've been with my fiance for over 4 years. Neither of us would ever even consider cheating, swinging or polyamory. We personally have no interest in it whatsoever.
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
17 Mar 08
Cheating is a lifestyle choice, you know. And in mine and my fiance's opinion, multiple-partner relationships are the same thing as cheating.
And guess what? NEVER! We would NEVER cheat on each other. If either of us were ever inclined as to no longer be attracted to each other and want someone else, we would divorce first. We would NEVER cheat!
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
17 Mar 08
And I'm disgusted and appalled that you would imply that he has already cheated on me. Just because you married a jerk, doesn't mean the rest of us did.
@chickabanana (30)
• United States
17 Mar 08
Im not talking about just cheating here. Im talking about a lifestyle. Never say Never about a man or anyone for that matter. As long as they live, there is a possibility that they will cheat if they have not already.
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
17 Mar 08
First and foremost the statement "men appear to be natural born cheaters" is very false and truly appaling to me. I have been with my fiance for 2 years and he would never want to cheat and have more than one girlfriend/wife. I have found that nowadays it is the women going towards the unfaithfulness than the men. There are many many men that are true and very genuwine. You just haven't found the right one for you. I for one don't agree with palgamy. But there are many people that it works for. I do have a friend that is in a palgamist relationship and she loves it. It's not for me to knock as I have never tried it and I don't care to try it. Everyone is different so if you don't agree with this lifestlye and you have never tried it you really can't knock it.
@chickabanana (30)
• United States
17 Mar 08
You do have to admit it is more common than not that most men have a hard time being with just one woman. NEVER say NEVER. I doubt your fiance would honestly tell you his feelings on this subject for fear it would cause an argument. But speaking with his buddies, if he were asked if he could have more than one wife and you were ok with it, hed probably say yes.
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
17 Mar 08
chicka, you are horrendously sexist and flat out wrong. Just because the men you choose to associate with in life seem to like cheating on you, does NOT mean that men are "natural born cheaters", or that all men lie to their spouses and would love to have more than one wife. Nor do all men talk like that "with their buddies".
And guess what? Women cheat just as much as men do!
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
18 Mar 08
Ok maybe with the guys you are meeting are dirt bags but I know alot of guys that would never do this and will always be with one woman. It's called trust in a relationship. I'm not saying Never say Never. I know my man and we are completely open and honest with eachother. His friends are my friends as well as my friends are his friends. We trust eachother and I know that if he tells me he is being faithful he is being faithful. I have even had discussions with his parents. And his parents know all and everything about him and know the person that he is. I have no inclinations that my man is faithful and honest to me. I have nothing to say oh he's cheating he wants to be with her etc etc. He would never say yes to having more than one wife and I know this for a fact.
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
17 Mar 08
i am a man and i dont agree that men are natural born cheaters. not because you seen or know a man who cheats that means we can be generalized as natural born cheaters. my dad cheats on my mom not just ones, twice but more than my fingers would count... and that was i knew while i was growing up. the fights and screams inside the house never seems to end. i grew up thinking that i will never do that. my dad is in a band so women are always around. when i was a teen my dad made a member of the band and there i saw that not only men cheats. i can say that women cheats too. i think we all have tendency to cheat but you will not cheat if you are happy already within the relation. as i heard with my nun teacher you can no seduce a happy person.
@chickabanana (30)
• United States
17 Mar 08
I never said women don't cheat. It just seems like men cheat for no reason. They don't want to leave who they are with, they just want more. It seems like its in his nature. A woman cheats for a reason it seems. I am just speaking from what I have seen and heard in my life in my circles.
@chickabanana (30)
• United States
21 Mar 08
The main reason men that I know cheat is just because the other person is attractive. They just seemed to love the chase. Not that they want to leave their wife. They just had an urge and let it get out of control. Sometimes they say they cheat and the other woman isnt even attractive, they just wanted to do something that they wanted to do and felt they could get away with it. Women usually have feelings, we are emotional but men can just do it with anyone.
