Why Do People Grade and Segregate Their Friends?
By Darkwing
@Darkwing (21583)
March 18, 2008 3:15pm CST
I have a friend, who has a 360 page, and quite a number of friends. These friends are from all walks of life, I know, but why does Yahoo give you the opportunity to grade and segregate your friends? What does this achieve in your estimation?
I have had a long-standing, close friendship with this particular friend, who has done just this and segregated their friends in their Yahoo 360 Blog. Admittedly, I am amongst the family and close friends group, but why do the others need to be segregated? I don't get it! The way I see it, if you have a close friend, you like to get to know their friends too, right? I get so frustrated sometimes. I do think they're all members of a group this friend belongs to, but just the same, I don't feel I need secrets to be kept from me by someone so close, and neither do the other friends.
I mentioned this only once, and wasn't given an answer but suddenly found myself in the same group as family and very close friends, so that was a step in the right direction. Should I ask for more?
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@Leedsrbest1973 (127)
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25 Mar 08
I don't know why but Yahoo must be at fault allowing it. It must cause friction between friends when that happens. Have you thought of mentioning it to Yahoo? A friend is a friend in my book and there shouldn't be any secrets kept from any of them.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
27 Mar 08
I think you should give it a bit of time and then maybe say something again at least the Friend realized that they where in the wrong
To me my Close Friends are in my close Friends and Family and you know that is what you are to me
I am not getting any Notifications on your Discussions I think you need to contact mylot on this
Love you and a big Hug
@Darkwing (21583)
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27 Mar 08
Yes, maybe I should. I have been grouped with other close friends recently, but I still feel a bit alienated.
It seems a lot of people aren't getting notifications to my discussions, and I'm not getting notification of theirs. Strange, but I seem to have a whole new group of peeps responding. A lot of my longer standing friends seem to be absent. Ok... maybe I'll contact Mylot.
Brightest Blessings, love and hugs. xxxx
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
27 Mar 08
I think you need to
I have done a Discussion about your Notifications not coming through and that I found new Discussions on your Profile so I am hoping anyone that is on mine and your List will take Note
Love and Hugs to you xxxx
I have started quite a few and I wondered why you have not been to at least one
@Darkwing (21583)
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28 Mar 08
I did write to them yesterday but haven't heard anything yet. As for yours, when I've done this horde of responses, I'll go check through them. It seems a shame that we have to respond so late though, doesn't it? You're not the only one I'm not getting by quite a long chalk, but I am getting one or two. I find that strange, but there you go... perhaps they'll find something amiss there. Amongst my list are Raydene, Mummymo, Weemam, Rozanne, Maddysmommy, and perhaps some of the newer ones, so I'm not sure where the fault is... with just me, or with several. We'll just have to wait and see. xxxx
@tessah (6617)
• United States
27 Mar 08
not everyone on someones "friends" list is actually a friend. sometimes theyre business associates, other times its people you just met that yer getting to know, etc. makes it easier to remember who people are if you can categorize them, i think anyway. does it really matter where yer listed..?
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@Darkwing (21583)
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28 Mar 08
True, but I know "of" these other friends, and they're not business associates, nor are the casual acquaintances. No, it's not the end of the world because I'm actually listed with family and close friends, but I do feel that secrets are being kept from me, or that perhaps I'm not trusted with these other friends. Why is that? Is he purporting to be somebody he isn't, or is that another side of him which even his closest friends don't know about? Is it that he doesn't trust his family and closest friends not to blow his cover? Come on... wouldn't you feel just a tad upset if you thought you were honest and open, yet not trusted by a close friend?
There's one thing I do know and that's that we all have similar beliefs and could indeed, help each other along life's path, so all this beats me.
Brightest Blessings and thank you for your participation.
