Helping an old friend
By azahari33
@azahari33 (221)
Malaysia
March 18, 2008 11:38pm CST
A friend whom you haven't spoken to calls you one day and asks you for a favour. You owe this friend more than one favour. He's helped you out so many times in the past before it reaches a point where you can say that you are where you are because of him. If it wasn't because of him, you would never be in the position you are today. You know what he is asking you to do might put you in spot of bother some time down the road. Do you help him out? Or tell him the truth that you can't help him under the circumstances? Or do you come up with a lame excuse to avoid saying no to your friend?
5 responses
@Amagnimo (635)
• India
19 Mar 08
First i would try to get the imporance of what he wants out of him - if its not that important to him, I would tell him what might happen if I save you that favor.
If it is important to him, than without any excuse, I would help him out with that, though with a conviction in mind, what would I do with my family - but I have a very understanding family, so I wouldn't have a problem with them.
Since I owe myself to him at this point of life, I wont deny his favours - but ask him to rethink about whatever he asks from that point on.
@azahari33 (221)
• Malaysia
19 Mar 08
Well the favour he asked was very important to him. I was quite flattered that he actually came to me. But then maybe because i did owe him a few favours was the main reason he came to me. It would be pretty difficult to turn him down.
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
19 Mar 08
It would actually depend what kind of favor this is. i would openly tell him/her of the consequences this might incur me in the process and would understand too. True friends would understand and will not hold grudges. I am not being selfish on this, just being open minded. Me myself will not try to ask such a favor from a friend i have helped in the past if i know that would put him/her in a difficult situation.
@azahari33 (221)
• Malaysia
19 Mar 08
He didn't know that by heloning him, it woul put me in a difficult situation. I always try to project to people that I'm happy with my life. Most of my friends usually do not know what's going on in my life. I just don't like to tell my friend if I have any difficulties. Unless I really really need their help. So most of the time, my friends will think that I lead a very happy life.
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
19 Mar 08
i think i will still try to help. but if during the helping process there is something will happen that might affect my job or my family then i will tell my friend the truth. if this friend of mine would not understand then there is nothing i can do. but i will still help her up to the extent
@gigisimbre (272)
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19 Mar 08
I think you should directly say, you would be happy to help him BUT tell him what you think about it.
Its better than in the end you wished you didnt.
@amla_tijani (18)
• Malaysia
19 Mar 08
I dunno. Say the result after seeing him maybe hard to accept. Whatever you're going to do or doing right now is bringing you the way things are now, with or without, i guess. (i m still thinking)
