I got such a disturbing all last night
By TriciaW
@TriciaW (2441)
United States
March 19, 2008 5:03am CST
The phone rings it is a girl asking for my daughter. I told her she was sleeping and she said she was calling to tell her that a friend of her's is missing. Of course I shot up in bed and said what are you talking about. The girl proceeded to explain that my daughter's friend went to bed on Monday night and was gone Tuesday morning when her parents woke up. I hung up the phone and ran to my daughter's room and asked if she knew where this girl was. She didn't and like me shot out of bed. She called some of her friends and no one knew anything. I then called the mother of the missing girl. That was a difficult one because I had to confirm a rumor. Well she confirmed it and burst into tears with me. Seems her daughter and her boyfriend left in the middle of the night with his parent's car. I couldn't sleep last night so was on the computer until midnight looking at the girls myspace and facebook trying to see if there were any clues but i found none. I did leave her a message on MSN telling her it was me and I just wanted to know she was OK and left her my phone number to call collect. I woke back up at 4am with her on my mind. I just don't know how I can help to find her. Her mom found driving directions to Springtown TX on the computer but they have no friends there and I couldn't find anyone on her sites that lived there. Any thoughts, suggestions or ideas? I feel for the parents and am worried about this girl. She is 15 and will turn 16 April 11th. Any help would be wonderful because I am at a loss.
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8 responses
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
19 Mar 08
That is so scary! My heart goes out to this girl's family and also your daughter. It must be a very difficult thing to go through. My s/o's daughter is also 15, will be 16 in May, and I just can't imagine how it would feel if she ever "ran away" like that.
I know this may not come out right but just be thankful that you all know she ran away and is with someone. A 15 year old boy from this area disappeared on March 7th. He was supposed to be on his way to another family members house (walking distance) but never made it. After several days of searching his body was found in the creek. So far it's unofficially an accidental drowning but family members say he had no reason to be near the creek and suspect foul play. I know it might be hard to look at the bright side but this girl did leave willingly and possibly has plans of where they are heading which makes them safer and easier to find.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
19 Mar 08
Oh that is such a relief! Thanks for letting us know.
In response to what you said above about the mom not doing more to get her back home...maybe her thinking is that at the moment the girl is in contact and safe but if she puts any pressure on her she might run again from where she is and might not be so willing to have anymore contact with family.
@TriciaW (2441)
• United States
20 Mar 08
Yes you are right that is the thought. I am just glad where ever she is that she is able to make that contact. I have been thinking about what the mother said about her getting the email in the middle of the night so it tells me she is not at a library but either at a hotel or someone's home. If that someone is taking care of them at least they are allowing them contact and keeping them out of harms way of the streets.
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
19 Mar 08
Have you reported this to the authorities? Coordinate with them and see if they are still using that car that they used when they left?
I don't know the details or reasons why it happened like that but, branching out with people who are indeed able to help out in finding them is a priority.
I hope you get word from those two soon.
@TriciaW (2441)
• United States
19 Mar 08
Yes they contacted the authorities and have a trace put on his cell phone so if he checks messages or makes a call it will be traced to where they are. I myself have family that live in that area so I contacted them and asked them to be on the look out. Since they are from Nebraska those plates always stick out when driving down the road so it is worth a shot. I have also called in tons of prayer requests.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
20 Mar 08
I hope they have found them. It is scary when things like that happen. My daughter ran away at that age and was gone for over a week. I had no idea which way was up. Be there for the parents, as I am sure they are going to need a friend.
@TriciaW (2441)
• United States
20 Mar 08
Up date on the girl. I talked to her mom last night and she did talk to her daughter through email yesterday afternoon. She told her daughter that if she was where she thinks she is that her dad would come after her. The mother told her she could go and stay with her brother or aunt who both live in other states. She left their phone numbers on the email. A few hours later the son called his mom to let her know that his sister called him and she is coming to live with him. The brother said the boyfriend could come for a few days but he had to have his parents permission. The kids must have agreed with him as they were on the road last night at 8 pm to go to her brother's house. The mom and I shared tears last night and relief that we knew that she was going to be safe now and taken care of. The mom let the her son know that if they need money to get to where he is she would even wire money so they could get there. So I want to thank you all for your kind words and suggestions and wanted to let you know the children should be safe at the brother's house today. You are all the best!!
@MAAluv (39)
• United States
20 Mar 08
I have been in a similiar situation with my own daughter. Somewhat. My daughter is a great girl, on a whole, but she is a teenager. She's going to be 14 later this yr. She is a straight A student, a cheerleader and on her school basketball team. Her father and I seperated when she was 5, but we remain good friends. Our families are very close, oour daughter also has healthy relationships with all of us.
Still, she is growing up and wanting to "test the waters", I guess. Or test us rather. Either way, she ditched school with a girlfriend of hers. We learned of this because the 2 girls had went over to a boys house, a boy from school. His mother called the school and told them the 2 girls were at her house while she was at work. The school called us and we went into a panic. I couldn't believe it. What was worse, our daughter never came home. The night went by, still no word from my little girl. We had called police earlier but they said they could do nothing until she had been missing for at least 24 hrs. So that was the next day. The police went to the boys house, got my daughter out of there and she came home. She decided to be upset about her father and I and had been thinking about us...whatever she could say to keep us from strangling her.
But more importantly, my point..you did the right thing by posting msgs, keep doing that. Her mother or parents, should do the same. If she is with her boyfriend, they will most likely not stay away for long. I'm not sure of their particular situation money wise and all, but the "conditions" will wear on them. Money, food, a place to stay, and just plain home sickness will drive them home again. It is important though, for her mother and family, to let her know they are not mad. They have to stress this, in every way, any way, be sure she knows she is welcome back home, without question or punishment, (at least say that til shes home). My daughter shared with us, that what made her stay away all night and into the next day, was her fear of what her father and I would do to her, or how upset we'd be rather.
Anyway, I hope for her safe return and will keep the family in my thoughts...
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
19 Mar 08
I think that you were very smart leaving her a message and telling her that she could call you collect.
It sounds like young love~ too bad they ran off! It never lasts so hopefully she will get smart and call her mom to at least let her know she is safe.
How old is the boyfriend?
My suggestion would be alot of prayers for that family in hopes that their daughter comes home safely!
What a horrible thing to have to go threw. I am sure the mom appreciates your support.
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
19 Mar 08
I certainly hope that they are found soon.
I feel for the family. I have teenagers and it would be my worst nightmare!!
Will the police get involved since they ran away?
@phxautopatrs (321)
• China
20 Mar 08
go to the police station seek for help ! you are very kind ,i hope you can find this girl soon !
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
20 Mar 08
I had a girl just like that girl...oh it was so so horrible to deal with. I kept numbers off the caller ID and called people in the middle of the nite and I went searching for her in the middle of the nite. I was in contact with many parents as well as local police...sadly i was not in good contact with my own daughter. i stuck with it and in the end....all is well. she is 21 now and we are very close. she tells me that she admires that i did not give up ....most of her friend's parents did. it kind of showed her how much i did really care. it did not turn her around but without my realizing it, i guess it did affect her on some level. I will say that I did not thnk so for a long time...preserverence....against all odds. There must be a better way than all the stress I went thru...my daughter now hugs me and thanks me and so it is all good. Still...got a lot of gray hairs from this.....someone must have better advice than i do.
@fayfun (37)
• China
20 Mar 08
I am sorry to hear that.I am a boy in 20,in my past i am sure i had done the same thing.But I felt so sorry that I made my parents worried about me.
So,I think what you have to do first is to make sure she is safe.And you are smart enough to leave her a message to ask her to call back you.
I think she will go back home in several day,if things are not so serious.