Would you drop everything and move because your husband said so?
By kanedog227
@kanedog227 (14)
United States
March 19, 2008 2:21pm CST
My husband pulls this argument about how terrible his job is and that he wants to move back in with his father because then we wont have rent to pay. Instead of trying to find a better job. I would rather not leave and move in with a parent. who wants that kind of stuff? But is it wrong to fight him because im just the housewife?
7 responses
@kanedog227 (14)
• United States
19 Mar 08
My points exactly, nice to hear it from someone not related to us.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
19 Mar 08
In that situation I would not do it. If my husband came home and said "I found an awesome job and it is 3 states away". I would have no problem following him.
@kanedog227 (14)
• United States
19 Mar 08
If it were as simple as moving states away i wouldnt have a problem with it either.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
20 Mar 08
OH hell no! I wouldnt do ANYTHING "because my husband said so" if I didnt bloody well want to..He's my husband not my keeper and if I disagree with something I tell him, we talk about it and come up with a solution that we are both happy with..None of this "do it cause I said" nonsense..Thats not a marriage to me thats a prison system..
@Modestah (11179)
• United States
22 Mar 08
I would not say "Just" the housewife. But, I would do as my husband asks unless he was asking me to sin. Now, I may question the prudence of his decision and hopefully we could talk it out. But, wouldn't it be a silly thing for us to end up separating myself living where we are and he living and working where he has chosen - all because I refuse to follow him?
"for whithersoever thou shalt go, I will go: and where thou shalt dwell, I also will dwell. Thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God".
@asuniqueasyou (354)
• United States
20 Mar 08
I encourage my husband to seek bigger opportunities. If he were given an opportunity to make lots of money and better his career, then I would consider the move...not necessarily just say yes because I am currently the one with the higher paying job. Now if he wanted me to move because he wanted to move in with his parents so he didnt have to find a better job..i would say hell no!
@wahishaji (52)
• Singapore
22 Mar 08
moving in with aparent is not a bad idea. But the reasoon for it sounds very unreasonable. Escapism or the lack of responsibility. I wouldn't budge.
@beccarose (121)
• United States
19 Mar 08
When I first read this discussion topic I was like "Heck yeah I would! I hate my job!" but then I read the inside and I think it would be a bad idea to move in with a parent just because you hate your job. yes I hate mine, but I would rather try and find a better job than going backwards in time and lose everything I've worked for.
I would stand up. Your marriage is 100/100% or it should be. You should have the say just as much as him. It is a mutual decision. I'd tell him to grow up and get a better job if he doesnt like the one hes got. As my husband says "Its an incentive to get a better job because you hate yours so much."
Good luck though!